Really frustrated

Really frustrated

lol sorry my first time on here.. computer got messed up. I'm going to try to make this as short as possible. I am a leo female, I have been single for almost a year. This entire year I have attracted nothing but cap men. I never really dated one before and after a while of talking to them, just felt that for whatever reason we just were not compatible.

From April towards the end of June I was talking to one cap guy online (whom I never got to meet in person) and I actually had to tell him to leave me alone because he was just attacking me ALL the time and he couldn't stop. I couldn't take it anymore. So I pretty much gave up on online dating.

I finally cleared my head of the prev cap and I was just about to give up on online dating when this guy emailed me, late june I literally had 20 emails from other guys and he was the only one I responded to... little did it click in my head that he was a cap too. He is 5 yrs younger than me and it bothered me but he was very persistant with me. I was very clear with him in what I was about and what I was looking for. Everything was great, we hit off, had so much to talk about, we both said we see really good things happening btwn us, even before we met in person. I am very picky, I need to feel that connection in person and when I met him it was all there, it seemed for the both of us. We had such a great time and were planning on seeing each other again soon.

Fast forward a few days, he won't speak to me becaus we had a miscommunication over a text. He basically was trying to blow me off. I sat there scratching my head, thinking... wtf just happened— I wanted to know, he would barely respond to my texts etc. I started to give up and I was so upset because I let one of my walls down with this guy and I really liked him. So I back off a little, he contacts me that sunday night and was like I'd like to see you, so of course I go the next day, we spend the whole day together, he makes me lunch, etc. It was great, so I'm like ok this guy does like me. He tells me not to give up on him and I say what do you mean and he says be patient.

Then I dont hear from him for a bit, get in contact again, starts telling me that his ex is all up in his face & business, causing trouble with his friends.. He tells me he is no good for anybody right now and he doesn't want to be in a relationship, (I really didn't want to lose this guy completely so I suggested we just be friends. He agrees and tells me that in no way ca

He agrees and tells me that in no way can we have sex again, that he can't get emotionally attached like that.... I say ok.

The very next day I decide to give this other guy that I had been talking to a chance. I meet up with him for a date and at around 11 that night I get a text from cap guy saying hello.. what are you doing, so I say I'm on date, and he wants to know if I'm passing by his town and of course I say yes, I leave this guy I'm on a date with to go meet him. I asked him straight up, what is your deal and he tells me that he is going through some stuff, blah blah blah and I'm like ok I understand. He then hugs me really tight where his head is nestled in my hair and it was for a while. And of course I get sucked right back in. But I don't let it effect me and I dont contact him for days afterwards.

I get a phone call that friday from him (he had been drinking) and he says I don't want to lose you, you went out with another guy and I want us to seriously date and see what happens. I tell him he is not the guy that I first met and he was like yes I am, that is who I am. He proceeds to tell me that he loves me, that he wants to be with me, get married on an island with just us and how serious he takes all that commitment etc.. We go out that weekend have a great time, he is calling me everyday and then one day... it stops and I'm like here we go again. So I got a little pissed b/c I asked him over a text that i was confused about some things and he never responded so hours later I sent him a text and i said I was done. Well that set him off, this guy would not talk to me for about a week and it wasnt without me trying.

My birthday was coming up and I decided to send him an email explaining where I was coming from and how confused I was and at the end I said that if he meant what he said to me that he shouldn't just let me go. I didn't see him for my bday but I did get a happy bday text, whatever. We saw each other a few times after that. I sent him a text and we were texting back and forth and he said he would get in touch with me later but he never did. I sent him a text a few days later, no response.

Ok so the next day I went to a pyschic party (someone a bunch of people I know had seen a few years ago) Right off the bat she picks up on him, tells me these things about his ex being all up in his face, his excessive drinking, that he definitely feels that connection to me, etc. and that I need to not contact him ever again, that he wants to chase after me. She even said that he is probably going to go see what else is out there because he is curious but he will be back. She says he is a good guy and that eventually him and I will be together. I asked her should I be trying to meet someone else and she told me to live my life and have fun. So I take her advice (which I was going to do anyway) and never contact him . This was in the beginning of August..

6 weeks later, I'm on yahoo messenger and guess who contacts me... yep asking me how I am, I told flat out that he hurt me and he was like I'm sorry I was drinking a lot, which he stopped, he is currently looking for a job (which I knew) I asked him if he ever liked me and he said yes that he still does but he needs to be alone for now. BUT he is back on the same dating site I met him on so I called him out on it and he says he is just curious and that he hasnt gone out on any dates. I told him that it hurt me seeing him on there and I also said I missed him and he said he missed me too.. blah blah blah and that he would talk to me soon. That was 3 weeks ago. I did talk to him last week b/c I saw him online but it was just friendly talk and I heard the ttys again, right.

These past few months have been torture for me. I have been crying nonstop over this man. He has me hooked. There is something about this guy that I can not get out of my system. I've never felt this way before about a guy but I need to know if he is worth waiting for and do you think he will come back again?

Can anybody here enlighten me, please? Thanks

GIRL!!!!! Fuck the MF!! Look yur a Leo which means u need constant attention/affection and I know becuz I have ALOT of Leo friends male/female and y'all need that. We are both fire signs Aries & Leos but,the BIG difference is that Leos need a shit load of attention/affection and we Aries do not. Find some1 who will give u all of the AA'S u crave k toodles =)

See I know I am a leo but I am not looking for constant attention & affection, its nice don't get me wrong. I have no problem attracting men but I can not seem to get passed this guy, its like he is lingering, I can feel it. ugh!!!!!