Screwed Royally ..Culprit Cap Man

Hi All..This is my first post to this forum although I have been reading a lot of posts over time about Capricorn men...Now here comes the complicated story....
I am married and living in a different country than my husband....I came to this country for a job and working here...I met this Cap guy who I came 2 know was engaged to be married..He started being suggestive with his body language...and words on and off....but since I was already married so never paid it much heed...Slowly and steadily I started falling into his trap...with texting...lil bit of calling...(whenever he wud want)..whenever I wud want he wud ignore or receive acc 2 his moods and desires...then Facetime calling became more of a regular feature...He was caring wid his actions although in words he maintained we shud not go far....but he initiated everything ...so although we never really crossed d line wen it comes to sex....we did get involved in heavy pelting and near to almost penetration and otherwise oral sex....There came a time when he wud reply to my texts and calls immediately...and wud fulfil all my wishes and demands...taking care of me...even calling me his girlfriend 1 or 2 times...

I wouldn't say that he ever committed to me LITERALLY in big words...but doing everything like a real couple ....I felt more in a committed relationship....but suddenly one fine day he almost cut contact with me especially the type of contact I was used to....he stopped calling or texting....but he wud still text and call...n plan to meet once or twice in a week without the commitment...but I told him I was serious and cannot accept being " Just Friends" after what we had been through.....He wud still help me out with my stuff wenever I needed help although he was in melancholy always...due to problems at his home...career etc...

I was thinking of moving ahead with this guy in my life and hence I told my husband about it...I also told my husband that I loved this guy ...but the "Cap" guy continued to be very heartless and disinterested in maintaining any sort of proper communication...Then I thought of moving on with my life and tried to remove him from my life ....but this guy out of the blue..started contacting me...initiating suggestive flirtatious texts and meeting me....I again changed my mind ....I was going nutz about this guy treating me like shit...I felt used....Now even though I love him...I decided to curtail the communication from my end .....This guy has always been like a mystery....He has never revealed much about his personal details like his personal email id or Skype id which is not based on his real name....These were all Red Flags to ponder upon since the beginning since he maintained his secrecy at all times ...although according to him he has really trusted me and revealed many things to me....since I am married I was always in the mindset that my mingling with this guy is wrong doing on my part but still I cud not control my emotions....


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For the last 1 month or so wen I have halted our communication to a bare minimum....I feel him reaching out to me a bit in his suggestive subtle ways eg getting me gift on my birthday,calling me by my nickname ....asking me that I shud pay him for the services he is doing for me....fixing my car....driving me to places ...taking me for grocery...helping me with car issues... and then gng back and forth again....It is really annoying,,,,Everytime I step back and try to remove him from my life...he keeps springing out of nowhere.....I am a Libra and pretty open with my feelings except for last 4 months since this has been happening...I am being more cautious and not jumping on any clues he is dropping by,..I just feel its a serious situation and he shud stop playing around....
Last Night....He and me became cozy again at the backseat of his car...This is wen he revealed about his "so-called fiance" ....that she got divorced becoz of him and that he has to marry her despite the fact that he loves me.....even though I dint react much at that time....I m horrified at the very thought of it....this guy whom I thought to be so innocent....has been playing games...He told he used her...sort of for money n stuff and things got ugly...but I feel like I am a repeat of the same situation....He seemed so genuine and so very much in love with me...but now I feel like he just used me/my body....and Swear I cant understand what he truly wants next...I just find it hard to trust him although my heart wants to believe that he truly loves me ...Dont know what to feel....I am HEARTBROKEN and feel USED in big bold letters....I thought of leaving my husband but the only person who is providing me emotional support at this time is my husband.....

I thought this trauma would get over after 4 months but yesterdayz episode has just made it even worse that I originally thought it to be....
Just felt like sharing it....Its been too much of a burden carrying it on my chest for so longgg now....
Any views/opinions/advice is most welcome !!!!!!

Kindly explain what does marker means?

This will be harsh but you should've never gotten involved with him...

you had a husband who you have history with so thats where your heart should be..never roll the dice on the "unknown"

and capricorns use people for what they want and discard of them after...he has never been consistent with you why would you put all your heart into him?

he told you he used the other girl....and he pretty much he did the same with you

pull yourself together....and keep your eyes on the prize and focused on what you came to that country to do

if you do not want to stay married to your husband then let him know respectfully and move on but your emotionally hurting yourself and him in the process....

you let me lonely influence your actions and decision making....you made an emotional decision versus thinking logically....

let someones actions speak for them..words hold little weight without the actions to back them up....


Capricorn will proceed on and marry who he has chosen....there is no future there btwn you two...

goodluck....

He made me turn against my own friends and vice versa...and he would always tell me what my (guy) friends were saying about him and me....He wud always suggest that there is an "us" without saying it literally,...That was his way of drawing us closer....

My husband is a gud man and my best friend...The only reason I messed up is bcoz of the physical distance .....n ya physical intimacy...(which the Capi seems to be soo gud with)....

As for Cappi, He is cheating the other woman despite breaking her marriage in the first place ....Thats how he is keeping the "Commitment" !!!!!!

He has cheated me....n hez still being the innocent guy...n playing the "Victim" card and expects 2 get sympathy for it...n ironically I told him "Its Ok" and comforted him yesterday night...

Although I dont have the slightest amount of Trust or Faith in him....

Warning: cheaters aren't received very well here.

My opinion, it serves you right. Been the one cheated on before, so i have my reasons for feeling that way.

That said, the cap is a cad. He's going to cheat on anyone he's with, it is who he is. Remember, if they cheat with you, they'll cheat on you.

I'm sorry you're hurting. Truly am. Hope you can chalk it up as a valuable life lesson.

You're enabling him by comforting him and supporting his "victim" role. That, or you're allowing him to play you. If that's the case, I have no sympathy for you.

Still, I'm sorry for your pain, but you brought it on yourself.

Yeah, I guess that's contradictory. I guess it's because you seem genuine I want to have sympathy for you.

I'm sorry but I absolutely DESPISE married people who cheat.....and THEN casually tell their spouses that they want to leave them for the person they cheated with.

Cheating c**t.

I can totally understand the comments that are being meted out to me....and till now I have been the one who was totally proud of my character...and always made judgements on people/cheating....Never thought I could be in the same boat as dem.....

Truecap...Surprising but true...I am genuine.....despite the circumstances....and Yes I am hurting so badly especially after he let his "Secret" out......

Pensive....Yes , my husband wants to be with me inspite of all this...I thought since I cheated because I felt love for the Cappi and he also cheated his "fiance" ...maybe we cud get 2gether and not continue cheating people we dont necessarily love...But after day before yesterdayz night's turn of events....I dont have the slightest faith in him....He is a player...If he can do it to "her"...already broken her marriage and keeping his commitment by "cheating"...He can very well do it 2 me ....n even if we get 2gether ...I dont wana live in that insecurity all my life....since he has a record of going after married women....making them break their marriage and then cheating on dem as well.....I was also about 2 do that....but not anymore....My Sun sign is Libra and Husband's Sun Sign is Saggitarius....

BeoWolf....It was not casual....I did not want to play both sides .....wanted to be with one....but it turned out to be a disaster....

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Posted by twodrinkmaximum
You didnt "fall into a trap". You allowed yourself to participate in an extramarital affair. I think taking some accountability will be more well received than taking the role as the victim.

You confessed to your husband, im sure after you were comfortable in thinking you had this new back up plan. Now you've returned to the husband...using him for emotional support after you've betrayed him. He's a better man than most.

The way you're using your husband is the way cap is using you. It's perfect karma coming full circle.

Thank you for putting that into words so much better than me. Lady talkin like she wasn't even there. He made me this, he made me that. *wank motion*

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Weakness and excuses = lack of character.

Posted by elllesque

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This will be harsh but you should've never gotten involved with him...

you had a husband who you have history with so thats where your heart should be..never roll the dice on the "unknown"

and capricorns use people for what they want and discard of them after...he has never been consistent with you why would you put all your heart into him?

he told you he used the other girl....and he pretty much he did the same with you

pull yourself together....and keep your eyes on the prize and focused on what you came to that country to do

if you do not want to stay married to your husband then let him know respectfully and move on but your emotionally hurting yourself and him in the process....

you let me lonely influence your actions and decision making....you made an emotional decision versus thinking logically....

let someones actions speak for them..words hold little weight without the actions to back them up....


Capricorn will proceed on and marry who he has chosen....there is no future there btwn you two...

goodluck....

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As harsh as this sounds, this is the absolute truth. Capricorns will use people for what they want and discard you afterwards.

The problem is you allowed him to...and by doing so, he's lost respect for you. This is also why you will get the response you do from the caps on this board. *You were dumb enough to be used so you probably deserved it*

I'm not a fan of cheaters but I'll hold those comments to myself because they don't do anything productive for you.

The best thing to do is to cut this man loose, he is damaged goods and not worth your time, and work on the relationship with your husband.

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Elle is mostly right.

I said it serves her right because she's a cheater and ended up screwed herself. It's about the 'what comes around goes around' that does it for me.

Now she's enabling him to be the victim.
She's knows he's using her and now she's allowing it.
And now that she KNOWS what he's all about, she still wants to be with him.
How f*cked up is that?

So, though I tried to have sympathy for her, I'm having a hard time finding it.

Hmmm...I dunno. She may just be venting. But this phrase makes me think she really would rather be with him.

Posted by FitzyBabe

and Swear I cant understand what he truly wants next...I just find it hard to trust him although my heart wants to believe that he truly loves me ...Dont know what to feel....

Yes...I am just venting....everyone in this big bad practical world wud say all that you people are saying....I agree...but emotionally everyone has a story to share....even the cheater...Victim or Cheater....whatever u want to think....It is hurtinggggg Real Baddd.....The Cap has been coming around ever since he realized I am cutting him out of my life and rarely initiating contact....Ofcourse I am responsible for this mess...I played with fire...The Cap told that He has NOT used me....

I really wanted to be with the Cap but somehow Cant trust him....

Dont really know what more to say....I really have no HIDDEN Agenda behind writing this post....just venting .......😢

It is easy to call someone Dumb wen your emotions are not involved and you are in a "Practical" Frame of Mind....but in Matters of the Heart....all practicality is put on a backburner....hence the "PAINNNNNNNN"......

I am a Smart, Gud Looking,Confident and Successful(in terms of Career & somewhat Finances) Woman of 30....but this is my innermost self writing...this is what I feel inside...that nobody on the outside will ever know....

and it is the Cap who sed he felt guilty about what he did with me (ie getting intimate with me) after he cut romantic contact with me since last 4 months...He still wants to meet me as "friends" though without the physical part.....He & I have still been meeting atleast once a week or 10 days...and Cap said he Loved Me and Did not USE me....

Husband says his doors are always open for me...although I feel really guilty of putting him in such a situation and then making him go through my emotional mess....

I really cant think of any husband who loves a Cheating Wife the way he is doing....

Cap stopped having Physical Stuff with me almost 4 months back...but last few times he met me...He was suggesting "physical" stuff in his own subtle ways....Last to Last Night...we got cozy again though and ended in heavy petting...during which he revealed his "DARK SECRET"

Thanx for the sound advice ,Ellle!

And all I read everywhere was that Caps are very loyal and want to be in long term relationships...I thot it was his way of being slow....

bcoz He said "I love u " to me within few months of meeting me....but I thought he was taking his time to consider me for the long run.....

I ignored meeting him once he made plan...then I contacted him after 1-2 days ...He dint contact me either for those 2 days...After that when I asked him to meet...he met me and told that " I know the reason why he is ignoring me (due to that woman)"....He stopped Intimate Stuff since then....It was a rude shock to me....n it came like a lightning bolt....before that he had never behaved like this....He always used to tell me that we cant be 2gether....but as I read somewhere Capricorns are more about actions and not words...I dint take his words seriously since his actions suggested otherwise....Since I had become too much emotionally invested...I cud not take it that all of a sudden he ended everything that there was ....Since then we never got involved in any "Romantic/Sexual" talks....but still met once in a while to help me out with my grocery...wid my car issues...and once in a while movies...all without physical stuff...I always wanted him to come back to me...not in a casual manner though....He never gave me commitment though he always wants me to call him for any help ....

The longer you stay in contact with him, the longer you'll keep hurting.

Just sayin'

First of all stop lying to yourself, you still want him in spite of his "truth", otherwise you wouldn't remain in contact with him.

I really wanted to be with the Cap but somehow Cant trust him....


TrueCap....I do want him....I just know that He is NOT long term marriage material though.....


Ellle...Thanks for your words of wisdom!

Posted by FitzyBabe
I am a Smart, Gud Looking,Confident and Successful(in terms of Career & somewhat Finances) Woman of 30....but this is my innermost self writing...this is what I feel inside...that nobody on the outside will ever know....

Don't call yourself smart in a written forum, when you can't spell.

Cud, gud, for example.

Just pointing out the contradiction.

Thanx Ellle....🙂

Wish ya the best though...

Haha TrueCap.....

Thats just my style of writing....just bcoz I am writing "Thanx" instead of "Thanks" does not mean I cant spell it....Please dont confuse the two....

Thank You TrueCap 🙂

You have a lot on the line with your husband for such a short fling with this Capricorn man. I'm telling you... you need to make everything right with your husband. Good men don't come too easily so you better realize what you have before you give it all up to be hurt in return. I know exactly how he makes you feel! l I know the distance stuff that he's doing to you! I know the push and pull tactics he's utilizing. I know why he withdraws from you and I know why he comes back!!! I know the mental rush he gives you in bed. I know he sexy as ever and crazy passionate . Women to woman I'm here to tell you everything your going through Ive been there and done that. I understand your situation but I wasn't married this situation is totally different you cannot break up your marriage for this type of men. I dont know how much you told your husband but you need to fix that. Tell your husband you made a mistake and he' s gay or something. If you are to far gone with him and dont plan on not seeing him dont tell your husband and dont let on to him nothing....

Posted by FitzyBabe
I am a Smart, Gud Looking,Confident and Successful(in terms of Career & somewhat Finances) Woman of 30....but this is my innermost self writing...this is what I feel inside...that nobody on the outside will ever know....

the truth is you will have people bashing you on this website when you do foolish things. You will get a lot of good advice as well as bad advice. This website don't take cheaters well if you weren't married and you was just dating and you cheated they still wouldn't like it. The truth is a lot of people lie and fabricate different stories on this website. Some of the same people who are bash you for cheating will keep themselves. They may not just openly talk about it. This is your life it ups to you to get knowledgeable about your situation. I sometimes post whatever comes to mind because I'm a realist. There's a lot of people that wont post what truely happenly and I'm telling you to keep continuing to post whatever topic you want to talk about and don't be shy to not reveal certain thing.

Posted by elllesque
classic.

he's gone from using you sexually to emotionally.

manipulation at it's best.

this is not going to end well.

please talk it through with your husband and thank your lucky stars he's a sag and not a scorpio. 🙂

the cap will most definitely survive without your support.

Wait a minute...the husband is a Sag?? Oh it's a wrap...sorry to say.

Posted by kalin
I think Sags are very forgiving when it comes to cheaters

...at first we are...but then our mutability kicks in. I guarantee that right now he's searching for the truth...every single detail...once he finds it...he's going to change his mind and walk.

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Posted by kalin
I think Sags are very forgiving when it comes to cheaters

...at first we are...but then our mutability kicks in. I guarantee that right now he's searching for the truth...every single detail...once he finds it...he's going to change his mind and walk.

Is that your sun talking or the Leo and Scorpy bits?

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Lol all three. I'm not wishing ill on yge situation but I've seen this scenario with us too many times.

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Posted by FitzyBabe
Haha TrueCap.....

Thats just my style of writing....just bcoz I am writing "Thanx" instead of "Thanks" does not mean I cant spell it....Please dont confuse the two....

I be using my cell phone a lot and I record my voice for the text. Sometimes I may not at 1st. Is quick and convenient for me

I am not really concerned about people's comments about my English..I know I can elucidate well and get my point across..Besides I dont really have to use the correct spellings of each word since I am not appearing for an English Exam....

faith $ goblin : Thanx for the undertanding tone to your advice/post

Gobshite : Whatz so funny 'bout Libras.....


Anyway the latest update is Cappy is contacting me daily via texts this week...sometimes wanting to share the cuisine that he has prepared....at other times asking me to drop his room mate to office as it is enroute to my office....and today showing un-necessary concern and trying to initiate some sorta conversation...Just now he is asking whether I would like to join him for a trip to the Retail Stores...

Actually if I start pondering about it.... its just that I got tooooo much carried away by my emotions that I felt the disconnect when suddenly he stopped physical contact with me and stopped FaceTiming me...Other than that he has still been contacting me via text...always responding to my "texts" (which I rarely do.....I text him only when I need some help).....still meeting me once or twice a week....I just did not like the feel of "it "going backwards to the "We are still playing the Dating Mind Games" bcoz I felt we had moved past that Stage.....In mid July , the pullback shocked me and I was not ready to accept it ....but since Aug end I have been showing attitude to him and despite that he wud still contact me continuously for an entire week asking to take me for Grocery or any other things I mite need around the house.....He has never been MIA for more than a week or 10 days....

I have stopped bothering about pleasing him..cooking/feeding him...I dont really give a "FUCK" about him and his issues......Although I am sick in the head and emotionally down right now..I am giving him a hard time and he has been reaching out to me ever since in his same old "Subtle" ways.....

Capricorns dont knw how Libras love....If we are into 'you'..you shud not let us go....
Once we get over you....its really OVER....wen we love u....we try to accomodate all your wishes & desires...all ur unfair,unreasonable behavior.....but once we are DONE...we are DONE & GONE FOR GOOD.... 'you' dont get any second chances with a Libra....

I know I have a certain control over him now...even though he is not COMMITTED to me ....I know he aint going nowhere.....It is all about when I take the decision to CUT HIM OFF from my life...That will be the end of Drama from my life........Currently its difficult for me as my heart is into it......but once I am gone....I am gone for gud....and it is going to be his loss....

FYI....He is my neighbour...stays 2-3 houses from mine....Both are working in the same company...in different offices though....He is always desperately looking to "help" me....

You really need to read all my post about my Capricorn friend. It's been crazy ever since I meet him close to 7 years ago. When I move on from a relationship I move on for good too but I haven't move on yet and it's been a long time. Im saying this to let you know some of the same things you are posting I've been there. I feel I have a certain control over my Cap also even though he is not committed to me but the truth is I don't have any control over him and you may not have any either. If we really had control we wouldn't be so damn confused at the things this kind of man do. I know exactly what thinking when you say you have control over him. Throughout my time dealing with a cap man I acted a fool at times and regardless of how crazy I was at times he would still continue to see me. He would distance himself from me and try to cut off communication with me but he would eventually give in. When my cap didn't want to see me he would avoid picking up the phone and responding to my texts. He would do this because if I really wanted to see him as long as i got him to pick up the phone I could convince him to see me. I'm giving you a little back dropped. Your relationship is still fairly new but if you continue with him and he never commit to you you will be on an emotional roller coaster ride. One of the main things Caps men like to do is control the relationship. Right now you think you have control but you will see eventually. He gonna move at his own pace and every time you think yall are getting closer he’s gonna pull away. He pulls away so he can control just how far you'll go. He’s not gonna open up easy and when he do he will start pulling away again. Is he in a relationship with someone else? Is there a age difference between y'all

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Posted by FitzyBabe
Capricorns dont knw how Libras love....If we are into 'you'..you shud not let us go....
Once we get over you....its really OVER....wen we love u....we try to accomodate all your wishes & desires...all ur unfair,unreasonable behavior.....but once we are DONE...we are DONE & GONE FOR GOOD.... 'you' dont get any second chances with a Libra....

I know I have a certain control over him now...even though he is not COMMITTED to me ....I know he aint going nowhere.....It is all about when I take the decision to CUT HIM OFF from my life...That will be the end of Drama from my life........Currently its difficult for me as my heart is into it......but once I am gone....I am gone for gud....and it is going to be his loss....

*tips hat to you*

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The way I'm reading this, all of it seems to apply to your marriage more than to the Cap...
In fact, this sounds like a conversation you could have had with your husband. Before getting involved with someone else.

Also, nobody has 'control' over a Cap man. Just FYI

faith $ golphin : I know what you are talking about....Those push and pull tactics of his....He has done that to me before as long as I allowed myself to get affected by it.....He told me that I am beautiful at very early stages of this so-called relationship...He declared love for me within very few months of knowing me...He wud do his push and pull tactics at times but those wud not last for more than a day or two....Once he managed to do it for 1 week...later on telling me that he thought I wud call and I told him "I thought u wud call"...that is when he professed his love for me saying that during those days he missed me sooooo much and realized that he is in love with me...and that he fell in love with me when he saw me for the first time.......and I literally had him dancing on my fingertips for quite some time.....and this was at the time when I was way tooooo accomodating.....and tooo pleasing...never meaning to miss his call and/or text......cooking for him at times.....allowing him to control.....changing my schedule for him.....but NOT anymore.....


U knw what...I had few male colleagues/friends who were his roommates....He played some dirty politics with them and me and created distance between those guys and me...and He continues to stay in touch with them trying to know about what I am upto ....(coz I aint telling him SHIT about my life)....and Mr Cappi wud tell me that they were asking "What happened between you two (Mr Cappy and me)? .."Is there something wrong between u 2"......He knows that nobody knows anything about "us" and I wud not reveal to any1...He wud always suggest that there is an "US" ...and I wud dismiss this kind of talk especially in the recent past since July 2015
Recently he sent his new room mate to take a ride from me to his office....why— coz He wants to know what is going on with me....spy on me.....

I would call on HIM for any help that I needed in the past and he would be more than willing to come by and help....and now I have stopped completely and he is wondering why I am NOT asking for his help.....

He opened up to me recently by revealing that he has given commitment to a Woman who is Divorced bcoz of him....and that is the reason why he cant be with me....He cant do the same SHIT all over again......as far as ur second question goes...No...There is not much difference between our ages...just 3 years apart....so it seems his "SORRY LYING ASS" does not really have much of a choice but to STICK AROUND with his "SCREWED UP PAST MISTAKE(s)".....

I am a LIBRA...and Librans cant be controlled for long....and frankly speaking I dont really have that much time,patience or energy to deal with HIS SHIT for way tooo long...I have to MOVE AHEAD in my life...WITH him or WITHOUT HIM.....and I dont knw why I feel....He is the one who is going to miss me more even though I am more "vocal" about the loving part.....

wagtail: U most definitely have "CONTROL" over a Cap when u stop giving a FUCK about them and start taking "CONTROL BACK" of ur own life ......

You're a slut. You got what was coming to you. Karma is a beautiful bitch.

Now put your panties back on and move along.

I wont stoop down to your level...Hemisphere...

You're a cheater and were dumb enough to let this guy use you, so technically you'd be jumping up to my level.

I dont care about your story or ur comments..Suit Urself!!!!!!

On a scale of 1-10 how much is your butt hurting right now?

Posted by FitzyBabe
wagtail: U most definitely have "CONTROL" over a Cap when u stop giving a FUCK about them and start taking "CONTROL BACK" of ur own life ......

I applaud you taking back control of your own life...
But I think we have a slightly different definition of the word CONTROL in this particular context.
There is never and will never be control over another human being in this Universe - the laws of Free Will dictate that, regardless of our personal motivations.

I mean, the last time someone tried that shit the Death Star got blown up.

Sorry, controlling a Cap man or any man or woman with sex or deceit, any form of emotional manipulation or passive aggressive behaviour - is all on the individual practising these petty acts and a mere reflection of your own inner being.
And so, by disconnecting from this farcical relationship- yes you have taken back control.
Congratulations.
I still stand by what I said, and good luck going forward in your romantic endeavours, I do indeed hope you find what you deserve...

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Posted by FitzyBabe
wagtail: U most definitely have "CONTROL" over a Cap when u stop giving a FUCK about them and start taking "CONTROL BACK" of ur own life ......

I applaud you taking back control of your own life...
But I think we have a slightly different definition of the word CONTROL in this particular context.
There is never and will never be control over another human being in this Universe - the laws of Free Will dictate that, regardless of our personal motivations.

I mean, the last time someone tried that shit the Death Star got blown up.

Sorry, controlling a Cap man or any man or woman with sex or deceit, any form of emotional manipulation or passive aggressive behaviour - is all on the individual practising these petty acts and a mere reflection of your own inner being.
And so, by disconnecting from this farcical relationship- yes you have taken back control.
Congratulations.
I still stand by what I said, and good luck going forward in your romantic endeavours, I do indeed hope you find what you deserve...

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Wagtail : Going by your definition of "CONTROL" with sex,deceit or emotional manipulation...Cap men are perpetrators of such "PETTY" acts since they are always in need of control and involve in kiddish push and pull tactics so definitely its a mirror reflection of "Their Inner Selves"

You have every right to your opinion...and Rest Assured I will get what I desire out of life..