SENSITIVE SUBJECT

Every since I was physically with my capricorn last Saturday (4/12), I have not been the same (vagina). I believe that I have contracted a STD or bacteria infection. How should I approach this subject with my cap? Should I just tell him or what? I am really hurt and upset regarding this....please advise. serious comments only.

Thanks Cappywench.. I will go to some clinic today. This was my 3rd time with him and the previous 2 times were okay. I left him a vm last night asking him to call and he responded via text for me to call him when I am ready to talk. He doesn't know what I want to talk to him about. I will not call him until I am sure. What if it is not a STD? What if I contracted a bacteria infection (bacteria vaginosis) which is sexually transmitted but not a disease but an infection? Should I still mention it to him? Either way, prior to sleeping with him I was fine. Please note he is my only sex partner.

pre-note...use a condom

go get tested for std's and have a sit down with your love interest, have dialogue before you venture into the bedroom and if you both choose not to use protection get tested together and establish that your both dating exclusively and even then you have to be careful.

don't be afraid to approach this issue with him but first you want to get the facts of what's going on with your body and please use a condom, you really don't know what he does while he's away from you, I'm not saying he's a guy that sleeps around but if he's not using a condom with you than he may not be using one with anyone.

Even if it's an infection like vaginosis this bacteria doesn't just manifest out of nowhere, it's important that you protect yourself even when indulging in oral sex, his tongue carries bacteria which can cause yeast infections and other unsightly diseases, be careful and I wish you all the luck.

cappywench when I said manifest out of nowhere I meant there has to be an imbalance in the body and of course douching can cause it and multiple sex partners may be the cause, other health related issues can cause BV, I didn't mean it in the context you took it per my knowledge it's not something you catch from other people.

What are the symptoms? You haven't said. Regardless, get in to the doctor. But it could be that you just overdid it- abrasions or whatnot- if you're simply sore.

I called my doctor and asked for some antibodics. I believe that I have a bacteria infection caused by him having multiple sexual partners. I am choosing not to talk to him about this at all. I just decided to leave him alone. I have come to the realization that he doesn't want anything from me but sex. Lesson learned....

"I believe that I have a bacteria infection caused by him having multiple sexual partners."


I'm confused about this statement .. you said you only talked to the doctor on the phone, so wasn't really examined .. so anything you determine/diagnose is a speculation.

What seems confusing to me about the above statement is that it infers that you KNOW he has had mulitple partners, for what other reason would there be for you to suspect this is the culprit when in reality, you haven't been examined to know this is the case.

So, if you know that he has multiple sex partners .. and you spectulate that this is the reason for contracting something .. then this means that you weren't using a condom.

Then further it by saying that you are using this to say that he only wants you for sex .... well, if you knew he was having sexual partners other than yourself .. then wouldn't common sense have told you BEFORE you slept with him without a condom that this was the case?


I don't get it ....

Aries I know your probably apprehensive and scared but you really should go get checked out, please don't self diagnose and i'm suprised your doctor didn't encourage you to come into the office, it could very well be an infection but wouldn't you feel better and more at ease KNOWING instead of having to guess about it. Please go get checked out, your doctor can do basic test to ensure you don't have any communicable diseases. You would kick yourself if you slept with someone else and he came to you about a possible infection/disease.

go to a doctor and find out whats up first.

Go get checked, get a Pap regularly too. Got to watch out for that HPV (human papilloma virus)- no symptoms and it causes cervical abnormalities/cancer.

I find it very curious as to WHY a person might believe it's possible that they have contracted an std, yet, has no desire to seek medical attention.

For a person to be so concerned that they would make such a thread, make it sound serious and talk as though the conern is present .. then NOT seek medical attention and blow off medical attention, while using an excuse that this man only wanted sex .... seems like a contridiction to the original expression of it's importance.

Like Judy would say ... don't pee on my shoes and tell me it's raining.

My point cappywench .. was that IF this was so much of a concern, which it WOULD be for any person who might even suspect they have an STD .. they WOULD be running to the doctor as fast as their feet can carry them, no matter how uncomfortable it is being examined.

Any woman would endure the examination because the consequences supercede the inconvenience.

So, if a woman just blows this off as if it's not important .. then it insinuates that it wasn't that big of a deal in the first place, and if it wasn't that big of a deal in the first place, which the possibility of having an std is frigging huge in reality ... then this likely means it never took place .. rather just drama for attention.

What I'm saying here is that when people are faced with a real-life crisis .. they DEAL with, accordingly. They don't ignore it, especially if it's life-altering.

Real-life crisis are handled with ACTION .. and an std IS a real-life crisis, even if it's just a remote possibility of it's existence.

From my perspective .. this is a fabrication ..

I'd definitely go get it checked out, just for peace of mind and to stop you passing it on. Even condoms can't protect against some infections like genital warts as areas of the genitals that can be infected are not covered with a condom. Not a pleasant thought! My best friend once had BV, I'd never heard of it, but the dr told her that it was naturally occuring like thrush but that she couldn't pass it on during sex. He also said it can be caused by having sex as it's an inbalance of bacteria in the vagina. It's not a good idea to self diagnose, but you can get information on symptons of STDs on the internet.