Should I say Say something or NO?

**Semi Sexual Content**

So the physical relationship I've had with my Cap guy had been pretty great..Great stamina etc. However the last few times..I'll say the last three times, he is unable to LAST. The first time wasn't so frustrating because no one is perfect...But now that it is becoming frequent..I'm starting to worry ): I mean, he HAS OPENED up ALOT emotionally and verbally in each situation...which makes it even more odd and frusrating for me. Its just strange to me. I want to ask him whats going on in the department but I dont want to bruise his ego or make him feel bad. But I want to know...so it doesnt become an issue.

I mean less then 2 minutes. ):

LMAO um....OK Not sure what to say to that. My sessions with my cap were always lengthy. However, when my sister first hooked up with her cap she said he couldn't get it up the first month. She was starting to think it was HER and he wasnt attracted. Anyway, they spoke about it and it seems he liked her so much that she actually made him nervous. After that month though, their sex life has been GREAT!!!

So to answer your question..yes say something..the sooner the better. Just be VERY careful with your wording.

LOL..Well its the opposite....Lengthy at first.....But now he keeps saying how he didnt plan on feeling this way for me and has gotten kinda weird. Went from great stamina to it being over before it started LOLOLOL....

Well the last time he did it..I KIND OF mentioned it......in a round about way..He said because we had been so close all day.....and I said well, what about the other two times before today,,,he didnt say anything. But I seriously want to talk about it. But I dont want to make the situation worst.

He can get it up...just comes fast.

Yeah? Well I guess I will not say anything. I guess because its so out of the blue and random..I think about it alot and wonder what happened. I still feel the same about him regardless.

Thanks Too Serious...I'm just going to let it go. I'm just so happy to BE WITH him when I do....that its been a disappointment. But I will live. Not a deal breaker for me.

@Cap Gal.....LMAO. I thought it through....I cant..I wont. But hopefully it will get better.

LOL..Our relationship is more then physical at this point. Or else I would not be concerned about the issue.

Are you a cappy too serious

if u guys love each other then u should be able to discuss anything. that one example of the girl holding out for months is an exception. if u enjoy sex, and have at least an average libido, u will get frustrated over time. it will be even more frustrating that u are unable to communicate. communication is absolutely essential for a relationship to survive and thrive.

u know, i wrote about this same topic not too long ago about my friend experiencing issues with this guy who had the same problem. he was even worse i guess. he could barely last 30 seconds. she stuck with him, i guess cuz he stroked her ego a lot (insists that she rocks his world), and she decided to take matters into her own hands.

so she and i got together and did some research online. i guess there are 2 types of premature ejaculators: the long-term and the short-term. i won't get into the long-term PE because it's a biological thing and it's obvious that it doesn't pertain to u. the short-term PE is mainly caused by stress in some form. now, i've heard both men and women say that they've experienced PE due to the excitement of being with a certain person. the info i found called bullshit on it but what they failed to realize is that excitement is a form of stress on the system. drugs and medications can also cause this to happen. so can emotional disturbances and learned behaviors. they kept bringing up the scenario of how the boys learned to cum quickly because they feared getting caught so it became the norm for them.

anyway, if it's too soon to call upon therapy, there are 2 methods that u can use to help with this. u can google them urself cuz i'm too lazy to write it all out. my friend did neither of these and things have improved. basically she asked him to watch more porn and to jerk off more. he's a romantic, lovey-dovey cancer so he's not big into porn. he's not opposed to it but he's more about the experience with another person. the foreplay has to last for quite a while too. she said they basically have to have 2-part sex. meaning he lasts longer on the 2nd run. they have a deal where he has to get her off first, by whatever method necessary, and then he can go. the 2nd session has to be within 15-20 minutes from the first. i guess he's worked up to 3 minutes. grueling process if u ask me.

so i think ur cap is just stressed about the overwhelming feelings. he may be uncomfortable with them and may need time to adjust. he's probably feeling quite vulnerable.

Thanks Ninja....He is stressed about the feelings and our relationship because it started out CASUAL...and he said he didnt plan on this. I'm like...OK....deal with it

@Scorpio....MAN three pump CHUMP?? LOLOLOL......Thats how my Cap has been all of sudden I cant MOAN or MOVE or its over...just wow.

@scorpio...in the beginning He had the stamina.........lol...now its gone. I want it back so bad,

Well, I think that you should say something. I think it's all in HOW you say it. Don't get into the habbit of holding back on how you feel, especially in this situation since sexual satisfaction seems to be very important to you. There's nothing wrong with that. This will come down simply to how well you two are able to communicate effectively with eachother. If there are things that are going on in his life that are affecting him emotionally/mentally/physically then that could be an explanation. I agree with what someone said earlier that he may be nervous, especially now that he's opened up to you emotionally; he may be so focused on pleasing you that he literally does the opposite. If anything, know that this guy has noticed TOO just like you have that his performance is not the same as it used to be, so know that he's aware of this too. Of course his ego & his fear of rejection is stopping him from saying, "Hey did you notice how I've sucked lately?" so it's up to you to open up that line of communication. Before when the sex was great, did you guys engage in alot of foreplay beforehand? Or is he more stressed out than usual? There could be so many factors as to why he can't last long enough. Plus, it's very common for a man's sexual performance to either drastically change for the better or change for the worst as time goes on. Some Virgins can have sex for the very 1st time & end up lasting for hours their first time, for example. Some men can start out having long lasting sex with the woman they are seeing, & then a couple of months later, it'll almost be like he can't keep it up even if he tried. Either way, this would be a very uncomfortable conversation b/w you two, but that's what love is all about. He might initially be nervous, fearful of rejection & his ego might get bruised a little, BUT I think he'll respect you twice as much as he already does if you open up to him & tell him your needs. After all, what if this continues for the remainder of your relationship? Eventually, it'll come out & I'm sure by then, it won't come out as nice. SO just be up front & honest about it. What's the most you've got to lose?