Transition - Cappy guys

Do u believe in friendship with a girl first and then progressing into a relationship, or dating her first and then becoming good friends..what works best for you guys? What if the relationship doesn't work out, do you guys expect to stay friends with that person afterwards? how would you feel if that person cut you out of their life altogether?

One trait I have noticed in Capricorn guys is that they don't like hurting anyone, they want to keep everyone on their side which I don't understand because you guys are so emotionally detached half of the time..so why the need to please everyone?

See I've noticed that in my cap. He seems so emotionally detached, but then again he wants to make sure that everyone likes him or that he hasn't done anything to p!ss anyone off. Even when he and I would break up he would say that he still wanted to be friends, that he didn't want me to hate him. I was like WTF. And usually then he would call me just to supposively check in and then we'd get started seeing each other again. They are weird like that when it comes to what other people think about them.

Hey MyCap..how you doing?
Yes its a very annoying trait in them. The need to please, when all they seem to do is displease..lol..I really don't see the point in trying to please everyone..like thats ever possible!..lol

Branh- you're always trying to stir up trouble...

MissMorals~ I had noticed the exact same with my old Cap. He approached me as "just friends" and came at me sideways, but there was flirting and suggestive remarks going on early on. This new Cap. admits to being "skittish" about online dating anyway, and so it's been slowgoing with emailing for weeks and now finally the phone; don't know how long it's going to take to meet. But with him also, there's alot of mutual flirting and sexual joking going on, from like day 5. lol

MyCap~ How are you doing—

Hmm Hmm, I agree with Brahn.

I know I'm gonna really get bashed for this one, but it seems some of you just like cappy bashing as a pass time and feed on each others negativity, if caps are so annoying, why not move on??

Am I missing the point or is it just that you enjoy thinking about how many negative traits you can point out about someone else that keeps you from seeing your own over critical outlook? Just doesn't sound fun to me...life is too short to stay in such a rut....

I don't see any bashing of male caps going on here in this thread-- just commenting on their approach to love/romance.

"but I gernally don't spend time trying to figure out people I am "over"."

Yeah, Branh, you are still here, so that means you are not over me yet? 🙂

Oh.. And other cappies as well.. 🙂

Bran, don't give up your day job just yet..I don't have any personal baggage, neither am I in love with a cappy guy..I just posted a new topic on the capricorn board..but carry on with your analysis if you must..you can't seem to help yourself..I totally know what I want, whom I want, when I want them and what I want them for..I think your the confused one on here..going from pillar to post..

Oh my gosh-- this Cap. board is such a mess of shit these days! I don't even come here nearly as much. Why do ya'll let Branh take a thread off topic, nearly everytime, and make it a debate about him, his views, his outlook, etc.?? I say ignore or head over to the askmen.com message board, which he is basically turning this into every time he posts- i.e., men v. women.

I agree CapGirl, just everyone ignore Branh and don't let him get to ya. The reason he keeps doing what he does is b/c he knows that it eats all of us up and he loves it. He gets a kick out of doing it.

~~CapGirl and missmorals~~

I'm doing great ladies, thank you. Still working everything out & everything is working out perfect so far. Hope it keeps up. Still a long road ahead of me! How are you ladies doing?

"I visit every board Sweet & Sour, I' haven't been involved with Caps in a long time."

Oh yes, you have been involved with Caps.. Virtually.. 🙂

Sorry, CapGirl..... 🙂

And to this topic... I don't know about Cap men, but if I don't like someone I never keep them as my friends. They think they are my friends, just that they don't know what I think. Basically I like people till they do something stupid, something against me. There are also many who I never talk to again. Why? I just don't lick anyone's hole.. 🙂 If someone's an as*s*hole, then I don't even waste my time on hating them, I just don't care about them a bit. Friends are friends, enemies are just the air that I breath.

Think what you will Branh, I have better things to do then waste my breath on you...you have everyone figured out so we'll it at that...

Really well MyCap thanks for asking...

Well in defense of most of the ladies who post here, I really dont think they come looking for advice, just someone who can relate. And since Cap characteristics seem to be across the board, we can all learn a lot. I agree with Brahn in the sense that you should not classify or deal with someone based on their sign, thats just ridiculous, nor should you seek advice on a message board. At the end of the day its about you and that other person. I'm totally over the Cap I had a crush on, I just like this board because its very entertaining! Not to take anything away from my Pisces board, but earth signs are more "down to earth"

Precisely we come on the board for entertainment..just get over yourselves for crying out loud..its all fun and games...we are more than capable of solving issues ourselves..

Ok, I agree to that to some extent. Some people do treat this site as their personal blog! And I can relate to being treated horribly and called all kinds of names simply because I wasnt sympathetic towards the preggers chick. I was totally black listed. Which all goes back to the fact that people only feel threatned by the truth, and most people want to be told what they want to hear. But I'm still sticking to what I said earlier.....most of these ladies strike me as intelligent so I'm sure most of what they post is a way to release emotions, read different views and to be entertained.

i haven't written on here in awhile but feel i need to add something to the so-called debate about being "over" the cap, and I always speak for myself, there's a difference for me in knowing the relationship is over and then working through the emotional residuals, and THAT is the process, which is how and why it;s been comforting to me to get on these boards and read about similar traits and experiences. it is an ongoing process esp when the outcome was not what I had wished or wanted.
Mycap, glad you're doing well
and Feb I'm still curious what your story is that "has ours all beat"

The only aspect that had you all beat was the fact that I work with mine, and I dont recall reading anything similar. Other than that my infatuation is completely over. Half of which is because I really cant continue to like someone who:
1. Is an Atheist
2. Does not believe people can be manogomous
3.Does not ever want to get married
4.Likes children but doesnt want them

Other than that if you're still interested I suppose I can think of everything that happend last year.

I am with you sweet&sour on this one.

When I am done with a man that's it. He is out of my world for good.

feb~~

yeah ur cap sounds like he has major issues if those are his views. Obviously something has had to happen to him in the past to get him to those views. I bet he could let his guard down and eventually one day get married and have kids. So tell us more about u and ur cap. How long you been together or are you still together.

We were never together. Either he is afraid of me or I completely misunterpreted our flirtatious behavior. See normally if I like a guy I have to tell them, mostly because I have a very outgoing personality so some guys seem to think I like them when its not the case, I'm just a very friendly easy going person. To make a long story short I approched him one evening when we were out and told him that I like him, and that I thought underneath it all he was a very loving person who had a lot of love to give. I also told him in so many words that I didnt believe that crap about him not wanting kids or to be in a serious relationship. Well I'm sure I hit a nerve because he was gripping the steering wheel so hard his hands turned white. He then proceeded to tell me how wonderful he thought I was but that he couldnt return my feelings because he didnt want to get married or have kids. Now mind you, I never said I wanted to marry him or have kids with him! So that was that. Whats amazing is that no one we work with knows, its like our little secret. But whats really amazing is that no one has picked up on how we go out of our way to avoid each other. Not in a bad way because after our "incident" he acted like nothing happened, in fact he was more friendly towards me. I definitely think I scared him with my "on point" analysis LOL He's basically a good guy I just think some chick screwed him over or he could have "mommy" issues. We both enjoy our job so I'm sure we'll be working together for a long time....which is frustrating at times but fun. So thats my story in a nut shell. I just think its funny that I totally see right through him, and he knows apart of me that no one else does. He's afraid of intimacy but I wonder if he ever thinks about how intimate discretion is?

See Brahn, normally I tried to defend you, but now I'm not so sure. I dont think you read my post at all because you are COMPLETELY WRONG! Now why dont you put your glasses on and start from the begininng.

Well precisely Virgolady..I have no issue with cutting anyone off..I can do it as though they never existed..this post was about how these cappies guys can't seem to say no..and how it takes them ages to go from friendship to relationship and vice versa..thereby having a line of women holding on for hope that one day he may turn around and say yes...but its been blown out of all proportion by Bran and his analysis..so be it..quite hillarious to read actually..I am perfectly capable of solving my own problems..I don't need advice from anyone..I never listen to anyones advice but my own anyway..and so far I've done great..The cappy guy I was on about in earlier posts is good friends with me..we've never told each other once that we like each other, we haven't even met so falling for him is impossible..talking online and meeting face to face are two different things as any human being in their right mind would know..yes I was intrigued at the start because I've never really come across a cappy guy before and we share a lot of similarities..so I came on this board..and yes astrology interests me and I have said numerous times that personality traits differ from each individual..so astrology is not always bang on..

anyhows..Its crappy weather outside..

Work together yes, dated no-thats where you were wrong. I didnt get the impression that he was against dating me because we worked together, after our incident I mentioned finding another job and he told me not and that there was no reason to ruin my career-he knows I love what I do. I just have to be me. You either accept and love it or move on. I dont think women on here would be eager to change themselves to get their Cap, honestly these guys are tough, and what makes it worse is that you're in a constant struggle of "do I let go or hold on" I only let go because he flat out rejected me. Now if he rejected me out of fear (most likely) is not my problem. If you tell me know, or cant reciprocate then I would be foolish to hold on. If he wants me he can come and get me.