To He!! & Back....

Hey guys,

I haven't posted in a while. Been extremely stressed and going thru nothing but he!!. Just to let you know, I'm pregnant by the cap. I found out a couple days ago and it's been so hard because I've had to break it to the aqua that I've been seeing the cap and had to break it to the cap that I'm preg w/his child. Tough, tough week. I'm extremely upset and just beat. The only thing that has helped me is that the cap has been extremely supportive in all this. He'll be great thru this whole thing, I know that. But it's still just hard. So pls just pray for me.

MyCap

HOLY **** !!! What are you going to do, what is the plan? You're 29, right? Nothing wrong with having a child at that age. I'm sorry, I don't know what to say. I've been there- a couple of times, with my ex-husband, before we were married. First time, I was 27 and it was inconceivable to me to think of having a baby then so ... And then at 29, another mishap, and we decided to get married, etc., but had a miscarriage early on. I'm very glad that he's being supportive. That's the most important thing.

MyCap,

I know you are stressed right now but try to keep your chin up. I'm sure your Cap won't desert you. Draw on your faith now. It will bring you much comfort in the days and months ahead. And remember, a child is a blessing.

I will keep you in my prayers.

Well CapGirl, me and the cap haven't really discussed all the details. We still have lots more to talk about. He asked if I wanted to move in w/him. I told him that I want to move in because he wants me there, not because I'm having his child. It's just crazy b/c I've always wanted to be married before I had a child, you know do it the right way. It was crazy b/c the cap called me tues evening while I was actually getting the preg test done. I left the phn in the car. I called him back when I left and he was yelling at me, askin me whats been going on w/the aqua and then some other guy that I was kind of seeing while me and the cap were broke up months ago for about two weeks. He was saying that he didn't think that I was being truthful w/him about these guys and then he told me that we were done, nothing was changing his mind, he couldn't trust me anymore, etc. Then I said, well ur gonna be a dad. And he got really silent. Was shocked, but then actually started talking about it w/me. He's called me everyday, a couple times a day to check on me and then he said he'd go to all my drs appts w/me and all that. If he wasn't supportive I'd be even more upset about the whole thing.

Thank you VirgoLady. I'm trying to stay calm in all this, but its very hard. He did assure me that he wouldn't desert me. He said he was raised better than that. Yes, please pray for me, I neeed it!

Children are a blessing but do you really want to have a child with a man that you weren't even technically in a relationship with? And the fact that he knows you were dating other men is going to stay with him always. I really hope everything works out for you, but as a mother, you really need to be realistic about your situation and come to grips with the fact that you may have a better chance of winning the lottery than living happily ever after. Because if he's more attentive now than he was, then you have to know its about the baby and not you, so dont take his kindness and consideration personally, he's simply looking for a child that MAY be his. Good luck.

Febpisces~ That was a particularly rude and bitchy thing to say, especially since you are rather new to this board and don't know the full story, unless you've spent a solid evening reading all the threads on here. For you to advocate an abortion, not even knowing her beliefs on same, is further pretty damm rude and presumptuous.

Mycap, I'm going to send you a private message if you don't mind.

I actually have read the entire Capricorn board. I print out all the pages and read it like a book at night before I go to bed so I'm pretty familiar with her story and everyone elses....along with the term "cookiemonster" Really didnt mean to offend but I'm a single mom and sometimes the truth and reality dont always come across like a field of lillies. Also, I'm willing to bet that majority of the people who read this probably feel the same because its the truth plain and simple. She wasnt with him exclusively, she was seeing other guys, he is more attentive now that she's preggers, and she should consider her options. And no I'm not advocating abortion, I'm totally PRO LIFE. For me, the best thing I could have ever done for myself when I was in a SIMILAR situation was take the facts head on. If her dreams come true in the end than she should consider herself a blessed lucky woman.........but until that time comes you have to be prepared, and you cant prepare for what's to come until you deal HONESTLY with right now.

Perhaps I just feel that a messageboard is no place to be giving or receiving advice on an issue this serious, involving 2 peoples' lives and futures. To me, this takes on a whole new level better left for support and discussion from those who know her and are in her life- friends, family.

But isn't it nice to hear all views rather than just what you want to hear?..I am sure you will be fine Mycap..but remember a child doesn't help relationship problems..A lot of women are under this false misconception. So let me get this right, your in a relationship with an aqua and you had a short term fling with a cappy who's child you are now carrying?

Well my thoughts are with you..remain strong and do what YOU want to do..not for the benefit of a situation or someone..

Peace

First of all febpisces comments were kind of rude, but as someone said shes just giving her life experience. U can't assume things if you don't hear my side of the whole thing and know whats going on w/me and the cap at this moment in time. I'm not wanting him to become exclusive w/me jsut because of the child I'm having. I know for a fact, febpisces, that this child is his. I was never in a relationship w/the aqua man. Yeah we hung out, were friends, but that was it. We've never slept together, nothing to that extent or level. Yes the cap knew aobut the aqua, but he also have 'girl' friends.

Missmorals, you are totally wrong. I've been with the cap for 10 mos now and am not in a relationship w/the aqua. I don't know where u got that from.

Maybe I shouldn't have told the board about this. Most of you seem to be putting me down, but thanks to the ones who are supportive.

I"m not pushing for a relationship w/the cap jsut because of the kid. Me and him are discussing a lot of things and what we r going to do.

Yes, see, as to the above questions that had to be asked by Missmorals. I rest my case.

Thanks for ur support CapGirl. U always have my back!!

And missmorals, you make it sound as if I got pregnant just so I could be in a relationship w/the cap. That's not the case at all, you don't even know me. If you have those kinds of opinions, keep them to yourself. Good Lord.

I totally agree. Maybe you should have kept this news to yourself for a while, because it seems to be a contradiction.......from what I've read on other threads it certainly didnt sound as if you were WITH him for 10 months especially when he wasnt returning your calls or doing a dissapearing act, just someone you were trying to figure out......as with most Cap men. Because if you were really WITH him that long, "breaking" this news to other men should not even be an issue. And if from what I've read about you and the Cap you've been "with" for 10 months is any indication of whats to come, then you are going to be dealing with this for a LONG LONG time until some kind of resolution unfolds. Didnt mean to come across as rude, but its just my opinion. I'll pray for your child because it is the only person in this situation who is truely innocent.

Mycap, I didn't make a direct comment, I asked you a question. Its a sensitive topic so I guess you will feel like people are not being supportive..I was speaking in generic terms when I said many women are under this false misconception cos I've seen it happen one too many times, I didn't make the comment to hurt you in any way or form..apologies if you read it like that..

Capgirl..if you read my comments u will see that I asked a question, I didn't make an assumption. I don't have time to read dissertations on capricorn boards..I was reading Mycaps first comment on this topic..

MyCap~ Hopefully, you will get any advice you need from your loved ones. To protect/maintain the integrity of your situation and decision, I would not seek advice here which will just confuse you. I saw it as you providing an update and you did not ask for anyone's advice here.

If this board had a moderator, as it should for legal reasons, this thread would be shut down/locked.

yes I do, my son was born 12/28/85, and God knows how his traits evolved, this is why i am so intrigued by this whole thing. He was raised with as much or more love and attention as my other two kids who are a little older so he got more attention being the youngest and I had more time to spend with him and his various sports, school etc. BUT and this is the intriging astrological stuff, he is SO very different than my other kids, with some of these cap male qualities we speak of. Retreating, silent, etc. and from day one i remember looking into his eyes which are dark dark brown and saying " you are gonna be one lady killer" because he's got "that" look.
so who the heck knows, i really think they might be born that way

Mycap, you have my support, 100% . This is life and life happens, right? Just for the records capricorns make excellent fathers as do taurean women, so this child (if you have it) will be very loved! I am also 29 so i think I can understand how you must feel, I am very, very pro-choice but I also believe there is nothing wrong with keeping a child even though he/she wasn't planned.

Feel free to email me if you just want to type, or want advice!

Positive energy to you!

Ur right CapGirl, I wasn't looking for advice, I was just updating. I already know what I'm going to do and I know that this child will be loved. That's that.

LeoWithCap, I will not have a cap. My due date is Nov 15, so he/she will be a scorpio.

As for you febpisces, you can say what u want. Everything you say is ur own opinion and doesn't matter to me. Keep ur sh#t somewhere else. U don't have to post on here, no one asked you to.

MyCap, I understand what you are going through. I went through the same thing with my cap man. We weren't dating and I was dating someone else and i found out later i was a month pregnant. I wouldn't say you would be unhappy (as febpisces said) Was I unhappy? No, i wasn't actually, but I was disappointed. Of course you want to be with the father of your child but shit happens and you have to move on. But everything is going to be ok, and it will be hard, trust me. It's still hard for me but I get over it and congratulate myself for doing the majority by myself. If you ever need a shoulder or even a ear, I'm here for you darling. I know exactly what you're going through.

Mycap, just saw your due date...cool, I can also relate to that one, my daughter's birthday is Nov 16th and she(although very strong willed and stubborn as a little gir, I always joked, where the hell did you get this from, ha!) is now the sweetest most wonderful person in the world. so I'm rooting for the 16th, as i said, anytime you need to talk feel free, it's an incredible journey no matter what the circumstances. i got married to the guy who i got pregnant with as i told you, after 3 quick kids, he left, so i raised them alone anyway. in some ways it was really really hard, but in others really great. As I said, as long as there is love(which i know you have) your child will be wonderful.

***My Cap**** Now that you are with child you might want to check your attitude at the door...Karma is a B!tch so there is no need to curse at me or tell me not to post my opinion. Your unborn child will get my prayers and sympathy, but I honestly think you played yourself with this Cap and I totally see right through you. Good luck!

I honestly can't believe you! You appear here out of nowhere, and take the liberty to spout off your mouth to give "advice" which wasn't asked for, and when it's abundantly clear that you have issues in your life jading your outlook and perspective. You're in no position to give a stranger advice, and then to keep lashing out at a woman who's pregnant and going through an tough emotional time is just unbelievably selfish and rude (like I'd said before). (I don't even need to identify you by name as to whom this is direct at.)

I dont give advice to strangers, I only comment. I dont have a "jaded outlook" I live life dealing in facts and reality which probably makes me a lot happier than most people and certainly more GROUNDED. You are quoted as saying "you're in no position to give a stranger advice" Then what puts you in a position to respond to me when I've never even entertained you. What is severly lacking in your life that you feel the need to defend someone you 1. Dont even know 2. Have no idea what her motives are. And lastly, if you and everyone else would stop playing martyr and get out of your "misery loves company" mode of thinking, then you will see what I see. This girl doesnt need to be patted up and showered with sympathy. Her first way of telling this board she was pregnant was in a messaged titled "To He !! and Back" This is not the e-mail of a women who is happy, and excited and ready to deal with the blessing of a child. Think about it. Finding out you are pregnant does not take you to the depths of He !! and Back regardless of what kind of situation you are in. I've been scoping this board for a long time and none of you ladies are stupid. In fact I think most of you are very intelligent with very good hearts. So dont get angry at me. We are all here for the same reason. We all deal with Caps to some capacity and need a suppost system. Just because I have my suspicions about ONE person doesnt mean I'm the "evil" newcomer. Besides, I havent even posted my Cap story yet........and when the time comes I would want you and everyone who wants to respond,, to respond honestly even if it hurts. This is about what we think and feel, so dont crucify me for giving out what I would want in return.

MC
I was not going to post anything relating to your issue but after reading all that was said I thought you need to hear this. My only suggesting/advice is to keep this part of your business off these boards. There are to many women on here that have opinions that you are not going to like especially women who are going through issues with Caps or not, women who are mad at the world for reason we do not know of, they are harboring there own hurt feelings of being abandon by them or any other man.

There is also a lot of haten going one. I AM NOT TALKING ABOUT ANY ONE PERSON IN PATICULAR. Just women in general we all know how we can be as women, some of us have been there done that, some of us have not been there, but seen it in other women, some of us wish it was them also.

You do what you need to do and the ladies that you feel comfortable talking with on these boards you need to talk with them in private. I do believe that shaiessence, and APW will be a good sounding board for you because they had a baby by a Cappy and know how they are going to be as father.

I wish you the best and since your baby will be SCORPIO, I am much please (HOT DAMN) SCORPIOS GOT IT GOING ON. You can just imagine how she/he will be verbally by reading my words...(LOL just joking) but she/he will be a beautiful person regardless.

Take care sweetie.

This is my last comment directed at you, as I think you are a "troll"- not namecalling, but rather meaning you are simply here to stir up trouble and generate negative energy, and draw any attention you can to yourself in the process. Perhaps you have "scoped this board" out but you certainly have not offered support or shared on here, as the many of us others have been doing for months and months now. From what I can see, you challenged us that you've "Got us All Beat" in the thread you created but then refused or declined to share and exchange advice or information. Other than that, you have then exploded within this thread with negative connotations.

I am defending her because I have interacted with her on here for months, and it troubles me to see her getting judged and criticized, which, yes, you are doing indirectly and now, above, blatantly. You clearly have an axe to grind on this issue due to your own past or present circumstances. If I didn't know better, I'd think that you know her or this Cap. male personally, with the way in which you've stepped forward to critique the situation.

Yay Capgirl, you said it for all of us, what's that old saying about people who live in glass houses thing? We've all been in and probably will continue to be in situations in life that perhaps we didn't plan or didn't work out the way we expected etc, because....well, that's part of life.
Some people just love to kick people when they're down or upset, we ALL need support and kindness esp in times of stress.
I think mycap knows who is there for her, here or outside of here, and is an intelligent enough woman to know who she can really depend and lean on, and everyone needs that sometimes.
and yes febby what IS your story that has "ours all beat" we've all been to hell and back in a number of ways, so has the entire population, so what's yours?? and what makes you an expert in how someone should conduct themselves with an unplanned pregnancy. My first pregnancy was absolutely unplanned, and i won't go into all the details but i have a wonderful son and two other children who's father left and i raised them myselves, and you couldn't find three better people(heartwise) in the world. I love them dearly and can't imagine my life without them, sometimes things happen as they're supposed to, no matter how we think they should, who knows? maybe one of my unplanned kids will create a cure for cancer of something.
off the track here, Febby you built yourself all up so now tell us, what is so special about your story that beats the rest??

MyCap and CapGirl

Wtf?

This is an opinion board. Everyone is entitled to their opinions. If you don't like to be criticised then don't advertise your problems in "publicly open board".

I can give rats ass about that.

febpisces,

what is truly ur motive of calling me out on this board and not really posting on any other boards?

U say u have a story to share, so why the he!! aren't you sharing it? U seem a little weird. CapGirl was right in everything she said. You do seem like a troll.

MyCap, just because you're not married doesn't mean it's the wrong way, I know we prefer it that way but hey at least you won't have to worry about freezing and thawing eggs, and you know you CAN get pregrant. My ex-cap had a baby with his fiancee when they were very young - like 24 or something, they never got married, but he's very devoted to the cutie and she's six now and super cute and he's just in love with her. That's one of the things that got me even more hooked on the guy - I thought "now that's what I want in my baby-daddy". Don't worry, things will work out well. Congratulations on the baby. Babies are wonderful and 29 is a great time to have one. It will be fine! Don't worry. Who knows maybe if this hadn't happened you might not have felt ready until you were like 40 and then be disappointed for the rest of your life if you couldn't have a baby. MyCap - this is a good thing, it is the right time. Worrying and fretting won't change anything, except maybe for the worse. Relax and go with it, try to enjoy it, it will work out - baby is coming anyway whether you want to have fun with it or not so choose to have fun with it if you can. Lucky you! I am jealous. I understand your not feeling ready, but you will be ready and he's supportive.

MyCap when is your due date? When do you find out if it's a boy or girl? Do you have a name picked out? How far are you along?

capchic, thanks very much. I'm getting better about it. I had to get over the initial shock of it all and now I'm realizing that it is going to happen and Im getting happier about it. It was all just too hard to digest at first. Now I've told some of my family, so I'm feeling a lot more relieved about it all. I have so much support from them.

My due date is Nov. 15 and Im about 5 wks along. No, we don't have a name picked out yet. We are working on it. I have a list of names from long ago when I had thought about what I would name my kids if I had any but of course I want the cap to help me pick it out also.

Wooohoo the baby is a scorpio..Name it Phoenix please..lol..My birthday 11 Nov