V-guy and a Cappy gal

I've been dating a Cappy gal. Our most recent date was the 4th date. I'm starting to fret a lot. I'm a nearly 46 yo male (on Aug 31) She's 52.

Besides passionate kissing, there has been nothing else... no sex of any kind. This worries me. She's already told me "kissing is no big deal" and "I make a better friend than a girlfriend".

After our last make out session, which lasted several hours... Her email to me the next day included "don't rush things". I'm thinking... RUSH? IT's been FOUR dates!

I'm thinking now, I'll give her two more dates to "play" or I'm going to demote her to a plain old friend, and give up any thought of sharing any passion with her.

She had me from date one. Although I held myself back, because I needed to see how she was around horses (a HUGE passion for me). I soon found her to be a good rider, and on another date, a good horsewoman... although not quite as devoted to horses as I am... but still enough to let myself go and start to dream about her.

But still she's holding back. It goes against conventional wisdom... but I LOVE sex on the first date... it endears me all the more to a gal. However, I know some gals need time to think things out... but FOUR DATES? Am I being unrealistic here? Common Cappys... I need some advice here = )

I think she's "oh so hot" but can only handle so much kissing without sex... before I have to put a stop to it... it's just too much hope... too much heat... too much, too much. I can't handle this much longer.

At one time she asked me "what's your timetable?". I hate being put on the spot like that. I am no wheelerdealer. I suck as a salesman... I always err on the side of caution... giving myself time. I told her "a year and a day". Her reply was "it won't take that long if I dig you".

But the truth is... time is rapidly running out. If I think she doesn't REALLY dig me after say... six dates... then I figure, it ain't NEVER gonna happen. And I'm not about to tell her the ACTUAL time table, because I HATE fakers. I don't want her if she PRETENDS to dig me, just to keep me.

So I'm thinking, if two more dates go by, and no passion... I'm going to quit trying. Quit being the first to kiss... and even if she kisses me first... give a peck, then say... "look at the time, I have to go". Then quit thinking of her as a potential mate.

I suppose I'd give her a little more time... not write her off completely. But basically from that point on, figure it AIN'T GONNA HAPPEN.

Hi Clydelover 🙂

I dated a virgo man and had feelings for one who had amazing potential.

Before you completely write her off .... wait until you get more replies my friend 🙂

Unlike Aries, cancer, libra, virgo, sagitt. and leo women, capricorns (along scorpio women) cannot just have sex with someone they have just been on a few dates with. why? Because we are just not that easy to get in bed -- there, I said. We look for more in a man then just a good time in the sack.

The capricorn women who randomly sleep around are severely jaded and they are not truly interested in men for any sort of long term relationship.

Honestly, the fact that she hasn't sleep with you or suggested sleeping with you reveals that she is still trying to learn who you are. The fact that she is older means that she has probably been through many men who have broken her heart.

If you really are interested in her, then you need to try and learn who she is too -- from the inside, not from what she presents to you.

Talk to her and let her know how you feel about the relationship, but by all means DON'T convey the "I really want to sleep with you" message -- just try to see where her mindset is.

LOL, I know how cray it can be with a virguy and a capgal 🙂

The attraction so strong, you almost want to have sex on the second or third date 🙂

LOL, this is probably why most people misundetand each other in this type of relationship. The virguy wants to move fast but the capgal wants to take things slow 🙂

Like I suggested, talk with her and see what you both want out of this whole situation.

*** Quick Tip ***

If you want an actaully love relationship with her and she can really sense that you are not out to just play around wirh her ....

then the two of you will make the most passionate love you have ever had -- not the glossy kind, but the earthy kind 😉 😉 😉

Oh yeah,

And yes you are being unrealistic if you want a cappy to open her legs after four dates 🙂

Calm that "partner" of yours down, he get what coming to "him" if he waits 😄

Cappysweetie,

You are so funny. 🙂

At least you're honest. I just get a kick out of how you express yourself. The last sentence had was really funny. LOL

Wow... thank you CappySweetie = )))))))) Your reply has raised my mood from the depths back to the light = ))))

Then there's hope... tears are coming to my eyes as I type this... My feelings for her are strong. I will be patient.

Ferg

YAY!!!!!!!! Clyde 🙂

I'm glad I can help, I hope everything turns out well. You seem to be a down-to-earth and well-grounded type of guy, most cappy women secretly love that in a man -- the whole "glossy male image" thing is just a front.

Think of capricorns as the ambitious little librain, she's very conservative and she doesn't advertise herself. But underneath all that coolness, there's a white hot, passionate, tender, generous woman 😉 Who waiting to let her hair down, under button her top and roll down her stockings 🙂

lol. ayayaye, cappysweetie.

ya. what she said. lol. cap women tend to take their time when it reeeeeeaaally matters. patience with a motive is her language. so start talkin to her, honey... and i do mean that literally and figuratively.

patience with a motive is her language.

Very true indeed ... if she didn't have interest, she wouldn't be talking to you right now ... and she certainly wouldn't have kissed you.

LOL, cappy women have raging hormones go nuts when they start to get crazy about a man ... that can give the impression that she wants sex ... yes she does, but not only after a few dates. It's important for her to get to know you first.