was told to come to Cappy board

Him..Virgo 39 yo
Me...Scorp...37

Ok...started dating a Virgo guy about 3 months ago...due to my trveling, we have only gone our 9 times or so. No committment, no talk of anything like that. My issue is the few calls in between as I always intiate the call, but he always answers or calls right back and we end up making plans.

We are intimate and have been for while.

I asked last night if he was intimate w/ others as well, he said YES, with one other woman. I said I needed to know because if we are going to be intimate and then the disappearing act occurs, it makes me feel disrespected. I was taken back a bit....his reponse is "I told you from the beginning I am not good at relationships and not good at calling"

I said I was not asking about a realtionship but rather respect.

What are your thoughts on this?

Hmmm... maybe Master Branh (Virgo man) will appear to address this one...

Well, I've heard that a man saying "I'm not good at relationships" is like a 'red flag' - like he's letting you know up front not to expect commitment out of him... This is what alot of my "commitmentphobic manuals" say!

At least he's telling the truth about the other woman? I guess it will have to be your decision of whether you want to accept the situation and continue on with him?

I don't know sweetie, respect to me has always been something you earn not demand. How do you earn it, listen to the little voice inside that you judge yourself by, generally if you respect yourself, others will respect you as well.

Personally if I thought someone I gave myself to was with someone else, I would freak and split, big time. But I'm a cancer and we are known for not sharing. If he sais he is not good at realtionships, then he probably thinks he should not be held accountable for using you. You might try cutting him off and letting him know what is bothering you. If he sticks around and you feel cherished, ask for exclusivity first. (Unless what you want is just sex not love and respect)

I think you deserve better, save yourself for the right guy and next time ask your question before you give yourself. If for no other reason, b/c there are too many diseases out there.

Ouch...Brahn you are brutal

he likes her or he wouldn't keep getting back to her, he just doesn't take her seriously.

He may have no SELF-respect, and think that he's not worthy of love and a real relationship.

Branh~ you're far too black and white. If I'm going to be black and white, I say the dude is a mess. We know very little... has he been married? Divorced? Kids? How's his career status?