What should I expect?

Hello, NYLeo here

I am new I have been reading this forum quite a bit. I appreciate how informative everyone is and hope that I could get some help with what I view as a small issue.

Background story

I visit different locations for my job and in one location there is a Capricorn guy that I eventually started to text. He told me he liked me and wanted to do various sexual things to me. He begged me to go out with him the first and second time. Since then he has been begging for kisses and to come by my house. When we have hung out he was all over me I had to literally do a spin move to get away. The guy has a girlfriend and to make things worse he said he values his fish tank over his current girlfriend. I told him I wasn't interested and he said it was going to happen anyway (sexual stuff). He contacted me initially on May 25th and we have texted everyday since. Yesterday he said he was no longer interested just then after I laughed at him and stated I don't think it is a good idea for us to do anything and still wasn't interested??_perhaps one rejection too many for him. Funny thing is I have told him off and told him no repeatedly.

The straw that broke the camels back for me was: He said he did not want to have sex with me just yet and only wanted to experience me orally (who says you can choose, I don't even want to!). I laughed at him (what nerve) and told him no. I just wanted to be the guys friend.

I told him that I would not text him anymore and respected his decision I also said I did not intend to offend him and did not like that he tried to make that type of a decision for me. I also said that I am not into no strings attached sex. Then erased his contact info from my phone and deleted him from FB.

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Question

Now I still have to go into that location for work in which he is one of the managers...is it gonna be ignore city with him now? Or worse yet is he going to try to be mean or vengeful to me in some way? I would just like to be prepared for what I may be walking into.

Thank any and all in advance who reply!

Have you kept any of his text messages? I'd be hanging onto a few of those in case he tries anything stupid at work. You shouldn't be in the position where you feel concerned about what he will do - that sucks, but it happens when you are dealing with pathetic jerks. Hang onto a few of his textual masterpieces for awhile to see what plays out.

Oops just realised you said you had deleted his contact information from your phone :-)

Funny thing I just purchased a new phone, but still have quite a few texts in my old phone. Including pictures of him in the buff he sent. It's not charged, but they are still in there.

Lucky for me.

Thank you MissBizarre for the advice I will continue to hold on to it. So I assume there potential for him to act like a jerk?...*sigh*

Unless there is more to this than you are telling us, I don't see anything to suggest he would somehow turn on you and try to jeopardize your job just because you said no to his sexual advances.

Thank you all for your thoughts.

So update. I went in today and all seems well. He ignored me. I didn't even look his way so I am not sure if he looked mine. I don't forsee any further issues. No texts or other communications. I am concerned he will lie about the true nature of our interactions to his co workers, but there is nothing I can do about that. I think since the last rejection he has let go of the hope of anything. A friend of mine said I should go right up to him and say hello... after all it's not my fault he is a jerk...I passed on that. There is really no need at the moment.

All seems well. Holdin down the texts still just in case.

NY, he is probably more afraid of what you can do with that naked shot of him!

I would not speak to him even to say hello. That will keep him out of your way, which by the sounds of it is an ideal situation for you at work.

You don't need to feel intimidated or concerned by a Toxicorn in your personal or working life.

:-)

LOL @ afraid of the naked shot! That along with the well documented begging. I was very uptight the first go round, but I see it was for no reason.

Today I had to ask his help at the request of my boss and the guy was nice and actually offered his help for tomorrow because he couldn't today. It could be because there is a possiblity for him to get free stuff from my company, but as long as it is a civil situation I am ok with it.

Thanx for the reply MissBizarre. Have a good one =)

Oh goodness...

I can see where this is going LoL!!!

Hopefully he no longer crosses the line.

Uh oh, Inana04 if you see something please let me know so I can prepare against it. I need no drama in my work life.

Quietstorm LOL @ *snip snip* I feel sorry for his girlfriend.

Posted by NYLeo
Uh oh, Inana04 if you see something please let me know so I can prepare against it. I need no drama in my work life.

Oh no, I don't think you'll have any drama. I don't know for sure, but hopefully it stopped. I'm talking about something else, but don't mind me lol.

OK Inana04. Thank you for your input.