Social Touching out of control?

This topic was created in the Virgo forum by Lobo on Friday, April 1, 2011 and has 16 replies.

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@Lobo
15 Years1,000+ Posts

Hi everybody virgo-leo here. I was talking to a friend about the unnecessary need for hugs and handshakes that are "expected" nowadays at social places are events with perfect strangers. I think most people have been in a social situation where their forced to hug someone or shake a multitude of strange hands. I find it annoying and uncomfortable. I know some people like to kiss on the cheeks I think that is crazy. I just hide or say that I have a cold coming on. I don't know what do you guys think.

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@Virgobeauty
15 YearsVirgo

Yea I don't kiss anyone on the cheek (unless its my mom or my son), and vice versa. I don't mind a hand shake, but even then I sometimes want to break out my hand sanitizer lol.

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@Candeh15
16 Years1,000+ PostsVirgo

I feel like I'm the only virgo here who loves to touch, ie hugging, a light touch, ect.

I feel the people in the US are too confined and worried about their own space, actually. Places in Europe, it's more accepted.

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@VirgoM20
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By 'virgo-leo', do you mean Virgo with Leo rising?

I'm a Virgo with Leo rising and I feel really uncomfortable with physical contact with anyone except my significant other. With her, conversely, I love lots of physical affection.

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@UrsaMediocre
16 Years1,000+ Posts

I always overthink & get anxious w/ the whole physical greeting on 2nd or 3rd meetings w/ people because that may indicate where I stand w/ them. I usually do the shake-up/half-hug combo w/ my male friends, hug my female friends, dap it up or give standard handshakes w/ acquaintances so when people give hesitant handshakes or light hugs, I feel like they're not comfortable around me. Even if you don't know me or barely know me & give me a robust physical greeting, I'm definitely buying you drinks tonight.

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@ceevee
15 Years

I can't stand it at all! It's not that I don't like hugging or being touched, it just something for my most inner circle of people. It irritates me when strangers or people I feel I only know on a superficial level try to hug me. I don't show any indication that I want it, yet they just barrel right on over and grab me like a defenseless slab of flesh and bones.

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@Lobo
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Posted by Layna
Candeh... I'm somewhat the same way. Was surrounded by mostly British people few years before I came here.

Yeah I had a female roommate that was British too, I think they call it snogging. It was a social thing but she said it was really for the boys she liked.

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@Lobo
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Posted by VirgoM20
By 'virgo-leo', do you mean Virgo with Leo rising?

I'm a Virgo with Leo rising and I feel really uncomfortable with physical contact with anyone except my significant other. With her, conversely, I love lots of physical affection.

I really just started to get into this astrology thing, so I'm not to sure. I knew that I was a virgo and then discovered the cusp of exposure. It described me with an uncanny detail. I'm still learning 08/28 4:30am. I like dxp so far.

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@Lobo
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@ Layna thank you dxpnet is a little crazy. Most threads are very entertaining and informative.

@ Lena282 yea I think part of it is a hygiene issue for me, kinda a germaphobe. You never know who didn't wash their hands after using the bathroom.

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@LeGendary ViRGo
17 Years1,000+ Posts

well you do have mouth right just tell people that u barely dont touch me simple as that.

i dont like people touching that i dont know i dont know if they wash they hands or are they clean lmao.

and i hate fake smiles and handshakes but i dont care cuz im not really a social person unless i have to be on a superficial level of course lol.

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@deepcappy
15 Years

Posted by Candeh15
I feel like I'm the only virgo here who loves to touch, ie hugging, a light touch, ect.

I feel the people in the US are too confined and worried about their own space, actually. Places in Europe, it's more accepted.

I agree with you. I lived in other cultures and people are more open to hugging and kissing and all that stuff. I guess they're talking about funky people in that case I agree.

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@buttercup
15 Years

I am very affectionate. I talk with my hands and very fluid with body language. Hugging and kissing come naturally to me. Handshakes are required in work space. I handshake males and cheek-to-cheek with females I've met more than once. I'm also born in the cusp of exposure.