What's up with the NON-expressiveness?!

I love being a Cap; esp with my Leo moon! What I absotively cannot stand is the Cap tendency of not being expressive!!! I am sooooooo ready to let my Scorpio know exactly how I feel and everytime I see him, I want it to come out and IT DOESN'T! He's very intuitive and he knows how I feel about him through my actions, but I want to tell him also. It's just so frustrating! I know other Caps have this issue...how do you deal with it?! Do we need that whole "idealistic" perfect moment to tell the person we want to spend the rest of our lives with how we feel!! What's crazy is that I have no problem telling my friends (guys and girls) but with the object of my affection I can't. Could it be that we take it so seriously and we can't seem to let go when it happens?
I love him so deeply it f'n hurts and yet I can't seem to let my mouth form the words. There have been times where he senses I want to say something and he just patiently waits and stares....woe is me, it never comes out. 😢

Great question, Shorty! When you get answers, please let me know! Haha!

I've noticed with my Cap boy and friends...that they will say something rather cryptic which I'll not understand off the bat...and then realize later that they were meaning something entirely different on a much more sentimental level. By the time the realization occurs, moment gone...and the Cap just sums you up as not understanding him/her.

I understand girl, its hard to open up emotionally. I still have problems opening up but my Scorpio has helped me tremendously because he's very expressive and always says how he feels. Because of him, I have opened up to the point I can comfortably tell him I love him, but I'm not in love yet...lets see what happens at that point (knowing me, I'll keep it in until he shows & confesses it first).

I know if I already know how they feel and they tell me, if I am not expected to say how I feel, it is a little easier for me to express myself. I also remind myself that he's an emotional Scorpio and NEEDS to hear how I feel, not just feel it. Scorpios need reassurance too and without it, you could lose them. I wouldn't want to lose him so I tell him how I feel, but its much easier when he doesn't put me on the spot by asking me. I find that I'm able to express myself easier on paper, I guess my Gemini rising & 3rd house Mars in Leo comes in handy that way.

Its harder for me to tell my friends & family. I almost never do. But since I been with my Scorpio, I have told them maybe 2x that I love them.

How do you like being with a Scorpio man? Any tips/tricks...

LWCAA, I can relate to them...I've been told the same thing. lol! Sometimes it boils down to that whole vulnerability issue.


"I find that I'm able to express myself easier on paper, I guess my Gemini rising & 3rd house Mars in Leo comes in handy that way."
CapAngel, I can totally relate! I also have a Gemini rising, so I don't know if that's what it is...but I've always been able to express myself better thru paper...I actually write down what I want to tell him sometimes so it's easier for me to visually "see" it, if that makes any sense. I find that it helps me sort out my emotions; and sometimes they get so overwhelming that I surprise myself. It's good that you have an expressive Scorpio...I see it helps you with being more experessive. Mine is in between; I think he has to really feel something in order to express himself which I can understand, because I do the same. I find that if I'm not put on the spot either, I'm more willing to say something.
I was in a long-term relationship with another Scorpio before my current boyfriend, and I just find that we complement each other in so many ways; Caps and Scorps are very similar in many ways than what most astrology sites give us credit for. I find that they are the only sign that is willing to be patient enough with me, and willing to stick around to find out what's underneath the "tough exterior" we show to others. Compared to my other relationships with other signs, the Scorps were the only ones that were willing to care enough to break down my walls. I think possibly because they want others to care enough to break down their walls as well, so they understand. They are rewarded ten-fold for that because us Caps are so very loyal which is something Scorps look for in a mate. With me and my Scorp it did take us awhile to get off the ground, so to speak, because I think we were both trying to build trust...but I think that the best relationships are formed when there is patience and you both take your time getting to know each other before jumping into a relationship. At least, this worked for us. My issue now is telling him how I feel...verbally. I think security plays a big part in how we express ourselves to others.
What is your Scorp's rising sign?

Cap, sometimes I idealize how I want to tell him in my mind and how he'll react....but then my pessimistic side kicks in and I realize that it most likely won't happen that way. I wish I could be as passionate and moved when I tell him, as when I idealize it in my head. I think he understands me pretty well, so he knows that I'm struggling with it but he's patient and he'll wait until I'm ready. But like CapAngel said...I don't want it to be too late. I think I just have to stop thinkin' about it so much and just go with the flow

Hey Shortyrock,
I noticed we are like astro twins planet-wise except for our Moon/Venus signs everything else is the same! WOW! Our Saturn Return is coming up this Fall/Winter, I hope it goes good!

My Scorpio's rising is Virgo but we're not 100% sure. His mom said he was born 3am, but once he gets his birth certificate, we'll verify that. His moon/venus/neptune is Sag, all conjunct. Sagitarrius is also his 3rd house of communications so I think this helps with his expressiveness. Add a Libra Mercury and its obvious why he tells all his friends & family he loves them on a regular basis.

I totally agree that Scorps seem to be the few that care to break down our walls. They have that patience & understanding that many lack.

Security is a huge part of how open we'll get with others. The more I feel secure, the easier it is for me to open up. Even if its just a little bit, my Scorpio understands and thanks me for the effort.

How long have you been with your Scorpio? What's his moon, venus, mars & rising?

OH My! So you are dating a Scorpio Shortyrock? We kinda have something in common ... maybe 😛

I think capricorns just express themselves differently -- like we don't give anything in an outwardly fashion. As for me -- I do it way too much. I'm alittle more expressive then I want to be.

That's so funny how our planets are almost identical! We have been together for a little more than a year and a 1/2 now....half of it in a committed relationship. Actually he's the reason that brought me to DXP a year ago, lol!
His moon and venus are in Sagittarius; his mars is in aries and his rising is up to question because he's not 100% sure of his birth time. His mercury is in Scorpio.
I see you have a Sag venus like him...this aspect makes him more spontaneous and fun in love. He doesn't like the boring, stagnant relationship...he needs lots of space and adventure, he's restless. He doesn't take relationships lightly, and it takes him awhile to get into a relationship because of the fear of losing his freedom. He's very friendly and this makes his otherwise (scorpio) pessimistic nature more optimistic. My ex was a triple scorpio....WOW!!! He was INTENSE about EVERYTHING..I think it was too much for me; my Scorp now blends with my planets better. 🙂

Cappysweetie, I posted a response to your age issue w/ the Scorp in another thread. 🙂 Is this your first time dealing w/ a scorp?

"I see you have a Sag venus like him..."

Nope, nope, nope I'm have an Aqua venus 🙂 I'm on the Saggie/Cappy cusp though!

I saw your response, it helped a great deal 😄 I've had a Scorpio boyfriend once before, but that situation was terrible. I can tell that this scorpio is different than my ex-scorpio.

"I see you have a Sag venus like him..."

That was actually meant for CapAngel, hehehe! It's possible your ex's planets weren't complementary to yours....and yes, I do believe caps express themselves differently. I'm more about action....the words eventually come as well, but I must have that security.

Bullerina,

It's good you are able to read him...not many people can or take the time to I'm sure. If he's afraid of losing his freedom, do as you are...give him space so that he doesn't feel threatened.

"I see you have a Sag venus like him...this aspect makes him more spontaneous and fun in love. He doesn't like the boring, stagnant relationship...he needs lots of space and adventure, he's restless. He doesn't take relationships lightly, and it takes him awhile to get into a relationship because of the fear of losing his freedom."

Yep, and that describes both me & my man. Their Sag moon is a blessing, so optimistic, funny & friendly. I wish I had a Sag moon, I am too serious.

So have you thought about what would make you feel more comfortable opening up?

"Their Sag moon is a blessing, so optimistic, funny & friendly."

Yes, I agree. But, sometimes I find I am the more optimistic one out of the two...he says it himself. Could be his Scorpio influence that may dampen the Sag at times?

At times I wish I could change my Venus, lol! Sometimes I feel that my Cap venus makes me way too serious in love...I love the cautious part because I don't jump into a relationship with just anyone, but sometimes I think I'm way too cautious and too deliberate. I wish I could just go with the flow more....although I come across as aloof and indifferent, he can see that I'm very warm...he helps me loosen up. But, we did have trouble in the beginning because I didn't understand why he preferred to just wing our relationship when I wanted to know where we were headed. I needed constancy and I would get flustered when he changed things up on me but I learned that's his nature. I've learned to be more spontaneous and I think that's helped us ALOT.

"So have you thought about what would make you feel more comfortable opening up?"

I actually haven't thought about it...I'll get back to you, lol

How long have you and your Scorp been together?

We been together 1 yr 7 mos, long-distance.

I have been with a Cap for almost 11 years. Yeah, you ladies are in the beginning of relationships. You will eventually open up, once you are for sure he is not going to leave. I know how you Caps are. You will talk to yourself. But, then not express your words. But, in time, you will say EVERYTHING that comes to your mind. Especially once, you ladies see your Scorp men are for keeps.

krobe03, I think you hit the nail on the head! There is so much I want to express, but the words don't come out. I think deep down I need to know he is in this for the long haul and won't leave me high and dry with my vulnerabilities. That can only come with time. Thx!

The reason is with waste. Capricorns don't waste their time and energy. They hate it. When you're dealing with a social climber, don't be loud. Don't be in the least bit annoying. They're the 'proper' sign (along with Virgo), but they have remarkable common sense and never want to be embarrassed.