Why are capricorn men so damn confusing ?

There's this capricorn guy that I've known for quite some time and I really like him and sometimes, he seems to be interested in me also...But then he suddenly stops talking, for no reason and we seem to go well, nowhere...He hasn't asked me out or anything, we just talked a lot and sometimes flirted and when we seem to actually "evolve", he stops responding... Why does he do that ? Is he scared to go further and give it a try or is it all just a game for him and he's having fun doing stuff like this ? What's your experience with capricorn men ? Thank you!

Just ignore the person above, he's obviously bored, having a shit day, and wants to impress everyone on the internet.

Need more backstory, Keyra. How did you meet etc.?

He might be thinking the same thing about you? Have you given him any indication that you'd like more? Might be because he doesn't know how you're going to respond. I tend to push forward then I start feeling like I've gone too far, so I back off to see what happens. He must be young? The older we get the more direct we are and the more willing we are to take chances.

However....on the flip side...

It could also be that he is friendly, wants to be friends; then sees you want more so he backs off because he doesn't want to hurt your feelings. He likes you, as friends but doesn't want to date you. Caps pretty much go after what we want, though we can do it indirectly as well as directly - whichever works (we will change the approach depending on the circumstance or outcome of previous apporaches).

Why don't you just invite him to go out with a group of friends. Or ask him to fix something for you and then you cook him dinner for "payment". Or have a drink together and plant a kiss on him. Or trip and fall on his....lap. 🙂

Basically what I'm saying is stop analyzing and just do something about it. You can even come right out and tell him or ask him - that gains you more respect than just wondering.

Ok, hopefully this will help, I've gotten to know 2 single Cap guys. One is a cool rock star rebel with a cause, and the other a straight-laced certified teacher. Both men are cautious and slow to open up when making their assessment. They do seem to like flirting and joking around... but then again, that doesn't really mean anything at the end of the day does it?***

When it comes to commitments, both will NOT over promise, or say yes to something unless they mean it. They are not flaky in that sense! Going silent or not responding when things "evolve" is a sign that he is still deciding, not that into you, or they have someone else in mind. Good sign is that he's flirting which means there's a possibility!

When a Cap likes/loves you, HE will be the one to pursue, and push things forward. They are not passive in relationships, but they are careful, and patient. My Cap fwb makes it quite clear what he wants and has somehow gotten us to move forward in a massive way. I always feel like he's subtly guiding us towards the future even if he says he's "accepted" certain timelines about our relationship. They are hard workers and do not give up easily 🙂

When they want you, they want you to meet their family and best friends. They will spend time with you regularly, will ask for a big commitment, will share their goals for the future with you included, will spend money on you, and will try to engineer situations to get closer to you. They want to meet your family, and they want you to talk about them to your parents.

As Truecap says though, they will pull back though when they feel like they have gone far and will want to see how you respond.*** I've seen this quite a few times.

If you like him, try to get closer to him somehow, and let him know you're open to more in a casual way. Be yourself as they can tell when you're being "fake". Good luck!

My most important questions here are still:
- Where do you know each other from?
- Why do you think he is interested?
- Is he even single?
- What kind of 'proof' have you given him that you are interested? (notice I said proof. Most women I know tent to leave hints... which are useless for men, and especially Cap men)
- What is your own sign?

Don't try to analyse Cap men. It will lead you nowhere. The best thing you can do is ask directly. If you are too afraid to do that then you don't stand a chance anyway.

Posted by TigerCap
Don't try to analyse Cap men. It will lead you nowhere. The best thing you can do is ask directly. If you are too afraid to do that then you don't stand a chance anyway.

Exactly!!

Cap men like someone independent and confident women; someone who's direct and open. Hum halling around the bush won't get you anywhere.

Posted by fnclassy
Never ask out a cap man. they can smell fear. play it cool and leave him alone for awhile until he decides he is interested in you.

Negative.

I don't think they would mind unless it comes across as desperate or insecure.

Some Cap men are slow and slighty insecure deep down (shhhh!!! It's a secret). They are the type that need a push in the right direction.

Some Cap men are arrogant and over confident, but they would appreciate someone who is direct about what they want.

Either way, just don't sleep with them too early. Make the earn the goodies.

I'm a Cap guy deep down Cap guys unlike Scorpios Aires and a lot of signs are afraid of failure and take things personally. Though if you really want this guy you may have to be direct. The Cap has to be certain in making commitments, they usually take them seriously.

You guys have been talking for a bit you may have to make the final make or break move. Personally I make that move most of the time if not it's mutual. I will say last year a female kinda took that role and I didn't know what to and missed a good opportunity but I say give him a nudge. Tell him u like him and want to he with him likely he will say the same as long as he doesn't have important work or projects that too much of his time.

In a nutshell Cap men are confusing BC love is low on their totem pole compared to other signs. Success and being all they can be is number one. A relationship to them is more a luxury than necessity BC it takes away from them being "productive". That doesn't mean they aren't good lovers it just has to be like a mutual agreement almost a contract. Whether they tell u it or not they like to always know exactly where u stand.

Thank you all for your replays. Well to give you more details, we've known each other from the internet, he is a friend of an acquaintance of mine and he knows very well I'm interested in him. i said to him I would like to meet him and he said he wants that too, but yet he won't ask me out. He is single or so he told me. When I asked him why can't we meet , he said something like he isn't brave enough to do it...but I think he was just kidding. He doesn't seem shy and that introverted.
By the way, I'm Sagittarius and I have Venus in Capricorn and I read somewhere that this means I'm attracted to Capricorn men, anyway I do like that they're smart, funny and quite charmers. But I've never been with one. Do you think I should ask him out ? Tigercap, you suggested that ? But how to do it ? I mean, I have a strong ego also and I don't want to be rejected. I feel really bad when he ignores my texts so I can imagine a scenario where I ask him out and he doesn't even respond... Or should I just wait for him until he (if) decides to do it ?

Waiting for him will take forever. Or what would be the best less riskiest thing to do is talk to your acquaintances and see what he tells them about you.

You should be attracted to whatever your MARS sign is. It's the men that are attracted to their venus sign.

Only talking on the internet? Then it's not real. Relationship wise and romantically, people don't exist until you know each other in person. That's the attitude you need to have. If he's too chicken to meet, there is a reason. He could be serious, but, he might be with someone already. He might be catfishing you. He might be bored and only having fun, something to do. I would put it to him. Let's meet here and when. If he refuses, forget about him. Who wants a guy that's a yellow belly? It's time to sh*t or get off the pot. Know what I mean?

He might texting as too annoying I feel like you have resolve. Just by being fully and see how he takes it. Only real way to know.

I know someone that spent months chit chatting on the internet, through Facebook. And he never would meet up with her. Turned out he was married...and bored. She was just entertainment to him.

True cap actually said it well I wanted mention the mars thing too. Venus is how you deal with friends and express love the feminine form. So his sun is attracted to you Venus at least somewhat and vice versa.

Oh, I understand. My Mars is in Scorpio and that explains a lot. No, I'm sure he is not married, he is just 26 and still living with his family, but i did thought about him being with another girl, but I don't think he would still talk with me if he had a gf. Anyway, someone mentioned here about him being too busy with work and stuff and I remembered he told me that. He said that he has a lot of stuff to handle and he would like to have time for a relationship, not to be something shallow. But then again, he also said he is going to "pursue" me soon...

Oh, I understand. My Mars is in Scorpio and that explains a lot. No, I'm sure he is not married, he is just 26 and still living with his family, but i did thought about him being with another girl, but I don't think he would still talk with me if he had a gf. Anyway, someone mentioned here about him being too busy with work and stuff and I remembered he told me that. He said that he has a lot of stuff to handle and he would like to have time for a relationship, not to be something shallow. But then again, he also said he is going to "pursue" me soon...

Oh, I understand. My Mars is in Scorpio and that explains a lot. No, I'm sure he is not married, he is just 26 and still living with his family, but i did thought about him being with another girl, but I don't think he would still talk with me if he had a gf. Anyway, someone mentioned here about him being too busy with work and stuff and I remembered he told me that. He said that he has a lot of stuff to handle and he would like to have time for a relationship, not to be something shallow. But then again, he also said he is going to "pursue" me soon...

Oh, I understand. My Mars is in Scorpio and that explains a lot. No, I'm sure he is not married, he is just 26 and still living with his family, but i did thought about him being with another girl, but I don't think he would still talk with me if he had a gf. Anyway, someone mentioned here about him being too busy with work and stuff and I remembered he told me that. He said that he has a lot of stuff to handle and he would like to have time for a relationship, not to be something shallow. But then again, he also said he is going to "pursue" me soon...

That's exactly what I thought, that's plain rude to just ignore someone, he could at least answer. Anyway that's the reason why I won't ask him out. I will just give up. I did notice that he tends to do that, to insist when I ignore him, but when I give him attention, not being desperate or saying stupid stuff, just asking him how he is etc, he ignores me.
Also, I've noticed that he is sneaky, I mean he talks with double meanings, not being upfront and honest, just like a stupid mind game and I honestly hate those.

Posted by Keyra
Oh, I understand. My Mars is in Scorpio and that explains a lot. No, I'm sure he is not married, he is just 26 and still living with his family, but i did thought about him being with another girl, but I don't think he would still talk with me if he had a gf. Anyway, someone mentioned here about him being too busy with work and stuff and I remembered he told me that. He said that he has a lot of stuff to handle and he would like to have time for a relationship, not to be something shallow. But then again, he also said he is going to "pursue" me soon...

Baloney about being too busy with work!! A capricorn will MAKE TIME for someone they really like.

26 and living with his folks? RED FLAG! He should be living it up in an apartment with roommates.

Lots of guys will internet chat, text and talk to other girls if they are with someone. Have you asked him if he had a gf?

I'm just saying, don't put all your eggs in his basket. Have options. Always have options until you are exclusive with somone.

I'm also saying, take a chance and put it out there. Tell him you like him and want to get to know him in person that you think yall can have fun together. Do SOMETHING!!!
You can analyze all day long, but where does that get ya? Sitting at home chatting on the internet.

The status quo will continue until one of you takes a chance. Find a local music venue of some type of music he likes and talk about this band is playing here or there. Ask him if he's ever seen them in person. Say you are thinking about going so you can check them out. Then ask him if he would like to join you. It's really that simple. You can do it in a lighthearted, teasing, no pressure, no awkwardness way such as "I am gonna go check them out, I'm giving you first dibs on joining me". That leaves him with the impression you have options and it will bring out the competitiveness in him (just don't make it a game - you do have options, you can ask a friend or another guy).

Come on girl, grow a pair!

Posted by Keyra
That's exactly what I thought, that's plain rude to just ignore someone, he could at least answer. Anyway that's the reason why I won't ask him out. I will just give up. I did notice that he tends to do that, to insist when I ignore him, but when I give him attention, not being desperate or saying stupid stuff, just asking him how he is etc, he ignores me.
Also, I've noticed that he is sneaky, I mean he talks with double meanings, not being upfront and honest, just like a stupid mind game and I honestly hate those.

I love double meanings!! Especially double entendres. Fun, sexy, flirty! You've not been picking up on them and running with it. You're not doing the same. Do it right back to him. To maintain a cap's attention, you must do so with intelligent (even if it's illogical) banter.

A text sent asking how are you is BORING! No wonder he's not responding. Text him something funny, or cute, or weird. Especially something that will make him laugh. Even weird stuff to make him think.
Like "okay, the zombie apocalypse has hit, are you prepared to battle for survival with the people in your vacinity right now?". Ya, weird, but unusual. 😉

Posted by truecap


I love double meanings!! Especially double entendres. Fun, sexy, flirty! You've not been picking up on them and running with it. You're not doing the same. Do it right back to him. To maintain a cap's attention, you must do so with intelligent (even if it's illogical) banter.

A text sent asking how are you is BORING! No wonder he's not responding. Text him something funny, or cute, or weird. Especially something that will make him laugh. Even weird stuff to make him think.
Like "okay, the zombie apocalypse has hit, are you prepared to battle for survival with the people in your vacinity right now?". Ya, weird, but unusual. 😉

^^This is true! You must be intelligent to maintain a Cap's attention. It's like foreplay 🙂

Posted by SunMoonStars

Posted by truecap


I love double meanings!! Especially double entendres. Fun, sexy, flirty! You've not been picking up on them and running with it. You're not doing the same. Do it right back to him. To maintain a cap's attention, you must do so with intelligent (even if it's illogical) banter.

A text sent asking how are you is BORING! No wonder he's not responding. Text him something funny, or cute, or weird. Especially something that will make him laugh. Even weird stuff to make him think.
Like "okay, the zombie apocalypse has hit, are you prepared to battle for survival with the people in your vacinity right now?". Ya, weird, but unusual. 😉

^^This is true! You must be intelligent to maintain a Cap's attention. It's like foreplay 🙂

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You'd better listen to these two ladies ^^^^^^

I'm used to dealing with an aqua, and maybe it's the aquas that like the weird, unusual conversational stuff, but I think caps would like it too, just because it's different than everyone else.

But I tried the weird , funny stuff also... He will just stop responding... He answers only when he is in the mood or bored or God knows why. He said about me that he likes that I'm beautiful and intelligent and we did tease and flirt a lot, yet he won't try anything.
So why bother anymore ? 🙂 I do have options, I mean I just wanted to meet him, he seems like a cool guy and we have a lot in common, but I really can't ask him out, I'm pretty sure he'll come up with an excuse.

I asked him if he's dating anyone and he said " no". I'm used with scorpio guys being manipulative, playing games, testing and I'm sick of those, I didn't want this with him also.

Then you defeat yourself.

How's that mindset working out for ya?

Hmm? Hmm?




(Not trying to be mean, just trying to encourage you. )

You'll never know unless you ask. What have you got to lose?

NOTHING!!!!

You don't know him now. If you ask and he says no, then you don't know him then and you wuit worrying and move on. That's the worse case scenario. There is really no risk.

Best case scenario is he says yes.

Posted by truecap
Then you defeat yourself.

How's that mindset working out for ya?

Hmm? Hmm?




(Not trying to be mean, just trying to encourage you. )

I mean this to be right after you said "what's the point...he'll probably say no"

And I'm not saying chase him, just ask him to join you somewhere, something casual.

Yes, you're right, but if he didn't respond how can I ask him out ? Wouldn't it seem desperate and weird to ask him out of the blue after he hasn't answer anything, if he wants to go somewhere with me ?

Posted by Keyra
Yes, you're right, but if he didn't respond how can I ask him out ? Wouldn't it seem desperate and weird to ask him out of the blue after he hasn't answer anything, if he wants to go somewhere with me ?

You might have said it but remind me again.. what was the last exchange you had, what was the last thing sent?

I asked him how he's doing and then I sent him a funny, flirty link and asked him what do you think of it or smth like that. And now I really don't know what to say anymore...
And I think that if he'd really be interested, he could answer and say smth also, right ?

How long ago was that?