Why do caps blame them selfs....

If someone says something to them and they immediately think the worst of themselves....no one's perfect? Some things you can't control in life? Why can't they talk about such things? Even if talking will not change a thing but will clear things out for the other person.

I think it's all about the tone it's done in.

A critical tone, yeah, I can see it. However, a nice constructive tone, then I don't take offense and do better.

Caps kick themselves harder than anyone else can. I think it's because I expect perfection from myself. Remember, I can be critical at times, however, I'm more critical of myself than anyone else. I tend to hold everyone to the same standards I hold for myself.
So if someone points out my faults, the way I respond to it is the way it's presented.

Accuse me in a negative way, I'll accuse you of the same.
Accuse me in a positive way, I'll try not to do it again.

I don't know if that answers your question or not.

And no, you can't control everything in life, but you CAN control your response to it. If I respond to "life" in a way that I don't approve of, I'll kick myself for not responding in a more mature, logical way.

So, say, a crisis happens and I respond emotionally to it (which is normal human behavior), I'll feel bad and kick myself later on for not responding in a more rational manner.

Hope that helps.

I don't talk about it because it's an internal struggle. I don't see the point in dragging other people into my internal struggle, especially if I don't know how I feel about it or what I think about it. I need time to internalize and analyze to figure out myself.

Hope I answered all your questions.

Posted by truecap
I don't talk about it because it's an internal struggle. I don't see the point in dragging other people into my internal struggle, especially if I don't know how I feel about it or what I think about it. I need time to internalize and analyze to figure out myself.

Hope I answered all your questions.

Right.

First they blame themselves but then ultimately end up blaming you.

Posted by SpiceNSugar
First they blame themselves but then ultimately end up blaming you.

i can blame another in the heat of the moment but i always end up blaming myself soon after. there is always room for self improvement

Posted by SpiceNSugar
First they blame themselves but then ultimately end up blaming you.

Only if that's where the blame ultimately resides.

i also blame myself for blaming another in the heat of the moment lol