Why so darn jealous??

You would think after dating a guy for almost a year the whole jealousy issue would have died out by now......


BUT. As a cap, there are just sometimes WHEN I AM FUMING WITH JEALOSY. I know its not attractive blahblahblah....

But omg at times I go insane with aqua! And he's left feeling shocked to the max, with a 'what da hell'is going on look that he gives me at times when I'm just too intense for him to handle!!!

It's not so much that I don't trust him...because I know he truly cares. BUTTTT.........The chicks that come up in his face....OMG...and then they give me this weird look like 'you though u had him all to yourself huh?? *evil grin* going on....lollll okay...I just noticed how pathetic I sound. hahahaha

omg. peleaze I beg of yall lemme know I am not alone...?? I dont wana be jealous anymore....
BUT. He can get close to women...the minute a guy talks to me, its like they committed the greatest sin :-o!!! I couldnt even go hang out with a friend...whos a guy...a close friend...something about 'if went to hang with a girl, a close friend...how would I feel'? At first I liked this weird possessive thing hes got going...BUT now, oh hell to the no!!I'm off to hang with ma peaple. guuyyyzzzz....I need some cap reassurance...😢 I wana take part in a pegeant...thee biggest peagent in my country...miss namibia...i wana make a difference...plus,all those connections I'll be making will be worthwhile...even though he keeps reassuring me he wants me to try it out...he brought up how ill have no time FOR HIM :-/ or skul....im getting sick of this 'you're all mine'act...i fear I'll break free soon...

I've got a little jealousy, too. Could be the scorp rising and venus in my chart. Observe his reactions and see how he responds to the girls. If he isn't returning their interest, then you are good. Can't help that other women are attracted to your man, but what matters is his response. If he is responding appropriately, then you don't have anything to worry about. Therein lies the trust.

Posted by crabcakesandmayo
I am sure you're not alone and SOME jealousy is healthy but don't let it take over. I was born with the notion that no one can ever be owned or controlled and therefore it's completely outta my hands if my bf/so does something I wouldn't like and I feel very blessed to have this attribute. Remember that he is with you because he loves you bar being a douchebag and if latter proves true you're better off anyways, yes? 😉 Just sit back, enjoy the show when girls walk up to him and play it coooooool.....be aloof...but remember to NEVER develop any passive aggressive tendencies!! if your bf sees you being "cool" and then 2 months later you're very "uncool" by bringing up old sh!t, he'll be very confused.

im so glad I'm not alone in this...I thought I seriously had issues!! Yes yes...if he is a douchebag I'm out...lol
I used to be able to play it cool...BUT that was before we truly bonded...like crazy. At first I was pretty cool about it....the closer we get, the more I wana lock him up in a room.lol okay not really...but yes, I will keep that in mind...gotta keep it cool* thank you crabzzz

The thing is truecap...he's an aqua...and omg are they strange...
He's very friendly at times...and most of the time they take advantage,or make up their mind that he cares about them...but that's who he is...
He had this close friend of his that he would be there for...and she started coming onto him...after a while...
I see stuff like this...they literally melt in his presence...


but the funny thing is...the next day...they won't even look at him...he attracts this funny shallow attention seekers...
he's never given me a reason from his side to think he's interested...thinking about it...

Posted by Sunrays
Ahem....this hits a spot! I have a cancer moon. I feel insecure... a LOT...at times 🙂 lol
I think i was always this way!??

Earlier i had no BIG issues with this.If i felt insecure i would shut out that person and poof the problem is gone.
But that stopped working because of the relationship dynamics around me!! lol
You can run but there is no where to hide.

Now i attempt to face my insecurites. The only thing to do is to stay in control. Observe but do not react. Do not infer anything. I just try to remember that insecurity / jealousy is internal. Plus it is not attractive!
damn it is hard...but there is no other option. I dont like to feel this way!!

fingers crossed ...here is hoping that it will work everytime and then one day i would have overcome this problem....and NO ONE or NOTHINg can make me feel that way again!!

I feel I was always this way too...and people always have to go waaaayyy out o prove they care about me...like, they will give me all of this attention, but the minute its gone, I feel like they just do not deserve me...:-/
I honestly wish I could master the whole 'not reacting' thing...even without reacting at that moment...something in me is already building up...until I wake up one morning upset and my fuse burns...I don't want to react...BUT I react to everything in sight...lol! without having to...cancer ascendant and pisces moon... 😢 I cannot choose what to react to...it simply happens.
Then my cap sun gets an idea into my head...and i am stuck with it because it seems all I see are confirmations of that idea...'omg the way she keeps smiling and always hugging him for long means she's into him'and then thats all I see...everywhere...

and BAM!! I snap...how do I stop reacting to stuff i DON'T EVEN KNOW I'M REACTING TO UNTIL IT'S TOO LATE??

Posted by Sunrays
"Then my cap sun gets an idea into my head...and i am stuck with it because it seems all I see are confirmations of that idea...'omg the way she keeps smiling and always hugging him for long means she's into him'and then thats all I see...everywhere..."

that is soooooooo me!!


I will be at peace with myself. I will act with dignity.

I face my fear of being compared to another woman. I face my fear of being taken for granted.
I look at it and let it be. I dont do anything about it. I just watch.

Take the control back.
You are so disturbed because you have handed over control of the situation to something outside of yourself.

This seriously hits the spot. I will act with dignity...because I'm better than this.
I have one question for yah....WHERE ARE YOU FROM— U just make sense right now...this is actually what I've been needing. True. I can deal beautifully with whatever comes along 🙂

Thank you Metoo...and yeah, the issue is not that I feel I'll be replaced and stuff...I mean this is the one man I truly trust...so much. Had me thinking alot you know...and that's all that matters. You either trust them, or you don't. And no matter what happens, I trust him*

And yeah...I feel it's something I need to do, the whole pegeant thing...im not so much a beauty queen, but I want to use this as a platform to make a difference...so I am doing this no matter what...

Some call it possessive, I call it Love.




🙂

Start seeing the humor in it. You say they don't look at him the next day -- it's because they know he's not interested. In your head, just sit back and laugh at them because in the end, you know he's yours. Be proud you have a man everyone else thinks is attractive.