Agentgem24
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Why won't he give up and leave me alone?
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He's actually already witnessed my "drama", I've already dated him. And I told him to leave me alone, and he doesn't let up.
He says he really just wants a chance to prove himself and that he got a new apartment and has a job that pays him a lot more so he can take me out. He says he was at a weird place in life then and going through a really hard time and he misses me blah blah.
It is tempting...the chemistry; how I laughed, the best sex ever, he for sure is a looker. It's just hard, I'm not really sure what I want right now and I'm not looking to be in anything serious atm. I'm more focused on getting myself to where I need to be.
He says he really just wants a chance to prove himself and that he got a new apartment and has a job that pays him a lot more so he can take me out. He says he was at a weird place in life then and going through a really hard time and he misses me blah blah.
It is tempting...the chemistry; how I laughed, the best sex ever, he for sure is a looker. It's just hard, I'm not really sure what I want right now and I'm not looking to be in anything serious atm. I'm more focused on getting myself to where I need to be.
Capricorn is opposite Cancer right? Yeah, I just don't know...I guess I can just take it slow and at least get some coffee with him right? lol.
He's 6"5..sculpted, handsome...
He wasn't just the best for sex...but EVERYTHING else!
I guess it's just my wavering between wanting to be in a relationship and focus on myself. I don't want to keep hopping around.
He's 6"5..sculpted, handsome...
He wasn't just the best for sex...but EVERYTHING else!
I guess it's just my wavering between wanting to be in a relationship and focus on myself. I don't want to keep hopping around.
My cancer best friend thinks he is just playing games with me...who knows.
It's a guy thing, not a cap thing.
He's gotten sex from you before, some guys are like that, they are like Tom cats, if you feed them once they come back when they are hungry. If he texts or calls and you acknowledge him at all, it encourages him, fuels his fire and he will keep trying to wear you down until you just cut him off completely. You just have to be firm, tell him to leave you alone, and ignore him if and when he comes around again. Eventually he will get the hint. That's IF you can leave if and well alone and stop feeding into it.
He's gotten sex from you before, some guys are like that, they are like Tom cats, if you feed them once they come back when they are hungry. If he texts or calls and you acknowledge him at all, it encourages him, fuels his fire and he will keep trying to wear you down until you just cut him off completely. You just have to be firm, tell him to leave you alone, and ignore him if and when he comes around again. Eventually he will get the hint. That's IF you can leave if and well alone and stop feeding into it.
I guess maybe it's just the me being so confused in general and my medical issues that are causing me to worry...The medical stuff has really been stressing me out.
Posted by capgirl69
It's a guy thing, not a cap thing.
He's gotten sex from you before, some guys are like that, they are like Tom cats, if you feed them once they come back when they are hungry. If he texts or calls and you acknowledge him at all, it encourages him, fuels his fire and he will keep trying to wear you down until you just cut him off completely. You just have to be firm, tell him to leave you alone, and ignore him if and when he comes around again. Eventually he will get the hint. That's IF you can leave if and well alone and stop feeding into it.
I have been leaving him alone. I didn't even respond to him for 3 whole months and he kept trying and saying sweet things. The sex is on MY mind, but he hasn't said one sexual thing to me in the slightest.
Posted by Synapse
I have this desire to tell you to shut up and focus on yourself then if you don't know what you want.
You may want to tell him that because you're unsure of what you want (IN GENERAL, NOT JUST HIM), you need to focus on yourself until you figure it out.
I agree with this. I told him this. He says he doesn't want to put any obligations on me, he just wants to say he's sorry and for me to meet him for coffee.
Posted by Agentgem24Posted by Synapse
I have this desire to tell you to shut up and focus on yourself then if you don't know what you want.
You may want to tell him that because you're unsure of what you want (IN GENERAL, NOT JUST HIM), you need to focus on yourself until you figure it out.
I agree with this. I told him this. He says he doesn't want to put any obligations on me, he just wants to say he's sorry and for me to meet him for coffee.click to expand
Yea he was really down when I was dating him. He hit a lowest point and was really hard on cash and he felt super insecure and inadequate that he couldn't take me out etc and seemed rather mopey. Stressed me out. He seems to be doing a lot better now.
Posted by Agentgem24Posted by capgirl69
It's a guy thing, not a cap thing.
He's gotten sex from you before, some guys are like that, they are like Tom cats, if you feed them once they come back when they are hungry. If he texts or calls and you acknowledge him at all, it encourages him, fuels his fire and he will keep trying to wear you down until you just cut him off completely. You just have to be firm, tell him to leave you alone, and ignore him if and when he comes around again. Eventually he will get the hint. That's IF you can leave if and well alone and stop feeding into it.
I have been leaving him alone. I didn't even respond to him for 3 whole months and he kept trying and saying sweet things. The sex is on MY mind, but he hasn't said one sexual thing to me in the slightest.click to expand
Just because hes not saying sexual things right now doesn't mean it's not all about the sex. You didn't respond for 3 months but he was still trying to wear you down even though you were seeing someone else and told him that. Sounds fishy to me.
Posted by capgirl69Posted by Agentgem24Posted by capgirl69
It's a guy thing, not a cap thing.
He's gotten sex from you before, some guys are like that, they are like Tom cats, if you feed them once they come back when they are hungry. If he texts or calls and you acknowledge him at all, it encourages him, fuels his fire and he will keep trying to wear you down until you just cut him off completely. You just have to be firm, tell him to leave you alone, and ignore him if and when he comes around again. Eventually he will get the hint. That's IF you can leave if and well alone and stop feeding into it.
I have been leaving him alone. I didn't even respond to him for 3 whole months and he kept trying and saying sweet things. The sex is on MY mind, but he hasn't said one sexual thing to me in the slightest.
Just because hes not saying sexual things right now doesn't mean it's not all about the sex. You didn't respond for 3 months but he was still trying to wear you down even though you were seeing someone else and told him that. Sounds fishy to me.click to expand
He did in the beginning until I saw him I was happily seeing someone. He backed off and didn't really text me much until he found out I was single.
It could be good for sex, but then knowing me I know I would eventually have feelings that would mess things up.
Why can't I have freaking sex without feeling emotions and attached?? From what I recall, I believe he is a Pisces moon and Capricorn Venus. Aries Mars.
Why can't I have freaking sex without feeling emotions and attached?? From what I recall, I believe he is a Pisces moon and Capricorn Venus. Aries Mars.
Because you don't want the stress of it? I'm going through enough stress to determine if I have cervical cancer or not...that's BIG stress. Among work, school, blah -.-
Ah I see, yeah that would put a damper on things. It's not all a relationship is, but I feel it is important to an extent. I couldn't date someone without a car.
At least not with living in Texas lol
That picture is scary...Did you change your name Neuro?
Why a melt down?
Posted by Agentgem24
Ugh. So I dated a Capricorn very briefly, about 5 months ago. No big deal. I liked him a lot, we only went on a few dates and we slept together way sooner than I wanted but we both had that chemistry and our dates typically lasted 6-15 hours. To this day, he is the BEST I have ever had in bed.
Well he was rather a jerk to me at times, I showed my friends the text messages and they all said the same thing. I can get rather clingy after intimacy and he kept saying things on how he didn't want to plan for a day to see me again, that we should go with the flow etc. I thrive on planning however, when you go to school and work 50 hours a week and have a big social circle...planning is the ONLY way you have time for anything! He was also really hard on money and we lived kind of far from each other, I wasn't in a position to be spending all my gas either and I for sure was NOT going to be the only one doing all of the work. No thanks.
Well ever since then, he hasn't let up on contacting me. He has been relentlessly contacting me and I didn't even reply for the longest time until today. He says he has a new job and he's moved closer and all he wants to do is at least meet up with me and say he's sorry and to prove he's better than that. I didn't talk to him at all except to tell him to leave me alone in the 3 months I was dating the Scorpio. I've had tons of guys contacting me (especially past ones) And I just am at a point where I'm over it and kind of don't want to be with ANYBODY.
What do you think is his deal, why is he so persistent when he seemed so aloof before?
Does not make sense -.-
Makes perfect sense, he wasnt in the best place before financially, he was aloof because he was insecure, and if uou were already beggining to have resentment ( " I was NOT going to be the one doing all the work") he was right to distance himself before. Once he got better footing, his confidense spiked, and he moved closer.( I dont know of a guy moving in closer to a girl unless he wanted something more than sex unless his work is closer due to the move, he did it to make it easier on you guys) I'm inclined to say dont be with him if you want to just be fwb, but pisces moons are known to have calming effects on people, may he's meant to calm you down through this hard time.... I can only imagine... I say do what you yearn for, you only live once.
Oh and he doesnt go away because of the aries in mars ^.^, the more you say NO the more he'll persist.
Posted by LucriuPosted by Agentgem24
Ugh. So I dated a Capricorn very briefly, about 5 months ago. No big deal. I liked him a lot, we only went on a few dates and we slept together way sooner than I wanted but we both had that chemistry and our dates typically lasted 6-15 hours. To this day, he is the BEST I have ever had in bed.
Well he was rather a jerk to me at times, I showed my friends the text messages and they all said the same thing. I can get rather clingy after intimacy and he kept saying things on how he didn't want to plan for a day to see me again, that we should go with the flow etc. I thrive on planning however, when you go to school and work 50 hours a week and have a big social circle...planning is the ONLY way you have time for anything! He was also really hard on money and we lived kind of far from each other, I wasn't in a position to be spending all my gas either and I for sure was NOT going to be the only one doing all of the work. No thanks.
Well ever since then, he hasn't let up on contacting me. He has been relentlessly contacting me and I didn't even reply for the longest time until today. He says he has a new job and he's moved closer and all he wants to do is at least meet up with me and say he's sorry and to prove he's better than that. I didn't talk to him at all except to tell him to leave me alone in the 3 months I was dating the Scorpio. I've had tons of guys contacting me (especially past ones) And I just am at a point where I'm over it and kind of don't want to be with ANYBODY.
What do you think is his deal, why is he so persistent when he seemed so aloof before?
Does not make sense -.-click to expand
Makes perfect sense, he wasnt in the best place before financially, he was aloof because he was insecure, and if uou were already beggining to have resentment ( " I was NOT going to be the one doing all the work") he was right to distance himself before. Once he got better footing, his confidense spiked, and he moved closer.( I dont know of a guy moving in closer to a girl unless he wanted something more than sex unless his work is closer due to the move, he did it to make it easier on you guys) I'm inclined to say dont be with him if you want to just be fwb, but pisces moons are known to have calming effects on people, may he's meant to calm you down through this hard ti
I agree with Lucriu. He wasn't in a place before to be the best boyfriend. Now he is and he realizes how great you are. He's stable, he has more money, he's happy. All he wants is a chance. Why not give him a chance to show you how great it could be?
Sometimes people deserve a 2nd chance.
If you don't want any part of it, then stop responding, delete his number, block him, do what you have to do. Just make sure that's what you want.
Sometimes people deserve a 2nd chance.
If you don't want any part of it, then stop responding, delete his number, block him, do what you have to do. Just make sure that's what you want.
Yeah I really do what to give him a chance. I just have a tendency to hold onto things that have burned me and be very hesitant to go back. Cancer in venus/mars perhaps?
I'm very deep into my shell right now. Terrified of getting hurt again.
I'm very deep into my shell right now. Terrified of getting hurt again.
He's been texting me pretty steadily. We have plans to meet for coffee this Friday. He has a new and better job but he JUST started it yesterday, as well as just moved. All of his stuff will be in his apt by next weekend. He says he still needs to wait on a few paychecks to get his budget set up since this is a very new transition and moving costs etc, but he wants to do the coffee Friday and then get like shakes and walk in the park downtown etc.
Once he gets his next few paychecks and budget coordinated, he wants to take me somewhere nice he says.
Once he gets his next few paychecks and budget coordinated, he wants to take me somewhere nice he says.
Posted by Agentgem24
Yeah I really do what to give him a chance. I just have a tendency to hold onto things that have burned me and be very hesitant to go back. Cancer in venus/mars perhaps?
I'm very deep into my shell right now. Terrified of getting hurt again.
😕 .... *grins* Mars AND Venus in Cancer? Do you sometimes get the urge to cook for him? =D
Lol geeze how did you know? Lol yah....-blushing-
With the Scorpio I dated, with how stuck on the ideals he was where a woman should be in the kitchen and do all the cleaning, thought I couldn't do my police stuff because I was a woman and would get hurt...I didn't want to do ANYTHING for him. I cooked maybe twice for him, reluctantly. I'm extremely strong willed. He had that attitude, it infuriated me and I made him bow to MY whim. He was the only guy I ever got that way with honestly, I was such a bitch. But he liked that? He was a push over. I didn't put up with anything from him.
This Capricorn though....I put up with so much and got burned so that's why I'm very hesitant. He has Capricorn Venus, and Aries mars. I have Cancer in both. Can those 2 be compatible? I believe his moon is Pisces with mine Libra and I have a Gem mercury and his is Aquarius. Not sure of his rising sign.
With the Scorpio I dated, with how stuck on the ideals he was where a woman should be in the kitchen and do all the cleaning, thought I couldn't do my police stuff because I was a woman and would get hurt...I didn't want to do ANYTHING for him. I cooked maybe twice for him, reluctantly. I'm extremely strong willed. He had that attitude, it infuriated me and I made him bow to MY whim. He was the only guy I ever got that way with honestly, I was such a bitch. But he liked that? He was a push over. I didn't put up with anything from him.
This Capricorn though....I put up with so much and got burned so that's why I'm very hesitant. He has Capricorn Venus, and Aries mars. I have Cancer in both. Can those 2 be compatible? I believe his moon is Pisces with mine Libra and I have a Gem mercury and his is Aquarius. Not sure of his rising sign.
Oh CC, I'm by no means talking relationship. If something WERE to happen, it's going to go very slowly. I've already decided I mainly need to focus on myself and do my own thing. And that doesn't mean I want a fwb either, this would just be hanging out casually as 2 people and making up for loss time. Kissing at max.
But I do not want to rush anything or relationship jump at all. I told him this, and he knows.
But I do not want to rush anything or relationship jump at all. I told him this, and he knows.
I've got multiple past flames chasing after me right now. It's super annoying and distracting. Why now? Lol go away.
But really, the only one I am "interested" in, is the Cap. But I am by no means wanting a relationship or to rush anything, anytime soon.
But really, the only one I am "interested" in, is the Cap. But I am by no means wanting a relationship or to rush anything, anytime soon.
Posted by Agentgem24
Lol geeze how did you know? Lol yah....-blushing-
With the Scorpio I dated, with how stuck on the ideals he was where a woman should be in the kitchen and do all the cleaning, thought I couldn't do my police stuff because I was a woman and would get hurt...I didn't want to do ANYTHING for him. I cooked maybe twice for him, reluctantly. I'm extremely strong willed. He had that attitude, it infuriated me and I made him bow to MY whim. He was the only guy I ever got that way with honestly, I was such a bitch. But he liked that? He was a push over. I didn't put up with anything from him.
This Capricorn though....I put up with so much and got burned so that's why I'm very hesitant. He has Capricorn Venus, and Aries mars. I have Cancer in both. Can those 2 be compatible? I believe his moon is Pisces with mine Libra and I have a Gem mercury and his is Aquarius. Not sure of his rising sign.
UmMmm..... Moon in pisces goes with everything = ). They??re able to blend their emotions to the needs of those around them. Which is kinda strange because he is either sencing that even though you??re hesitant to give him another chance, part of you NEEDS him to be there (maybe thats why out of all the suitors only he is the one you??re interested in.) OR he's letting his aries energy get the best of him and keeps taking no for a ??Try harder.?? Once a cancer lets someone in to their heart (specially a cancer in venus) and that person leaves... It's supposed to be THE worst thing you can do to a Cancer. I can only imagine the residual emotions that this leaves. All in all i Say cook for him till you??re red in the face and cant lift your arms 😕
Posted by Agentgem24
He's actually already witnessed my "drama", I've already dated him. And I told him to leave me alone, and he doesn't let up.
He says he really just wants a chance to prove himself and that he got a new apartment and has a job that pays him a lot more so he can take me out. He says he was at a weird place in life then and going through a really hard time and he misses me blah blah.
It is tempting...the chemistry; how I laughed, the best sex ever, he for sure is a looker. It's just hard, I'm not really sure what I want right now and I'm not looking to be in anything serious atm. I'm more focused on getting myself to where I need to be.
Omg I would jump at the chance!! Capi's are cancer opposites n they attract each other like magnets!
They don't like planning its fun sometimes to just spontaneously meet up on the day. Try it and go with the flow. Ask him the night before u are free n say u wana meet - use the chemistry between u n he'll be thinkn of u all day at wrk.. Trust if he's willing to put the effort it ... I say let him and see how attentive he is.. What have you got to loose? If he's not free no big deal have a pamper night planned as back up.. Paint your nails catch up on a book/film/tv series..
Yeah our venus is opposite. Mine cancer, him Capricorn.
But sun signs, I'm a Gemini with Libra moon and he's Cap with Pisces moon
But sun signs, I'm a Gemini with Libra moon and he's Cap with Pisces moon
Not to mention he is soooo yummy! 6"4..built...dat face ~.~ the intimacy has been on my mind these entire 5ish months, even with me ignoring him. He has the bear tongue ever!
But I don't want to jump back into that too soon. He says he doesn't want to expect too much and his main purpose is to make things right and remind me he can put a smile on my face. He's not expecting more, but he would certainly like it and can't wait until Friday.
But I don't want to jump back into that too soon. He says he doesn't want to expect too much and his main purpose is to make things right and remind me he can put a smile on my face. He's not expecting more, but he would certainly like it and can't wait until Friday.
*best, not bear lol
Have fun on Friday xxx
Hehe I will give updates 🙂
It better not get cancelled! I would be so peeved -.-
Apparently Friday is today lol. We were texting and he says, "fuck it, I want to see your face now" so I'm heading to Starbucks to meet him now lol
Posted by Agentgem24
Apparently Friday is today lol. We were texting and he says, "fuck it, I want to see your face now" so I'm heading to Starbucks to meet him now lol
Hehe capi has the hots for you !!
Have fun xxx
We did have fun lol. 3 hours at Starbucks. We both wanted eachother incredibly much but I wanted to wait but I said just a kiss. He said I had told him us moving too fast was the mistake we made before so he wasnt going to even kiss me right now as that would lead to more.
He said we are going to take things super slow and despite his libido he's glad we didn't do anything tonight.
I had asked if we were still on Friday and he said prob not because something would prob happen. He's gotta see me sometime though....
I wonder what he's playing -.- my Cancer best friend thinks he's playing games.
He said we are going to take things super slow and despite his libido he's glad we didn't do anything tonight.
I had asked if we were still on Friday and he said prob not because something would prob happen. He's gotta see me sometime though....
I wonder what he's playing -.- my Cancer best friend thinks he's playing games.
Also I can't tell what his moon is!
He was born jan 12th 1989 at 2:45 pm in San Antonio, tx. One site says Pisces moon based on military time, the other says Aries moon based on the location. So which is it??
Also, he's a Gemini rising.
He was born jan 12th 1989 at 2:45 pm in San Antonio, tx. One site says Pisces moon based on military time, the other says Aries moon based on the location. So which is it??
Also, he's a Gemini rising.
No she doesn't....but she is very protective of me and remembers the rude screen shots of his texts I sent her when he was being an ass (as does my Taurus male room mate) and they think I'm making a mistake. They remember how upset I got and don't want me to fall down that path again.
He says he's obviously intersted in me but he wants to take things reallly slow and prove to me he's different. He doesn't need to see me on a regular basis because we aren't dating and he doesn't want me to think he only wants physical. Says he's in no rush and everything will happen in good time, he wants me to observe him and feel safe. He says today (switched from Friday) was originally just a reconciliation.
I'm such a suspicious and paranoid individual and hyper sensitive...it's hard to know what he's up to. I would think if he really liked me, he would want fo see me on a fairly regular basis.
I'm such a suspicious and paranoid individual and hyper sensitive...it's hard to know what he's up to. I would think if he really liked me, he would want fo see me on a fairly regular basis.
I read in between the lines of everything and tend to see the flaws and if none exists I create them or think it's too good to be true. A downfall of mine.
He says he obviously wants to see me and it's not about other girls, I know he's not that. He just wants me to slow it down because he doesn't want it to feel like an obligation and we've been talking 24 hours and I'm trying to make it into like we are dating. I do that...a lot. And he knows I do, and how I'll get really hyped up at first then suddenly loose interest in the guy and not feel like it anymore after 2-3 months.
I mentioned the past guy and he said "what happened, you seemed really intersted in him?" I said "he looked really good on paper and he was sweet, I thought the feelings would come. I did like him...." He cuts in, "at first you mean" I say, "but then I realized I couldn't stand him and moved on. He wasnt the right fit for me and I didn't know why I was with him" I said, "it's natural to have attraction to someone while your in a relationship, just not act on it. If my eye continues to wander, I break it off before something would happen because loyalty is important to me" he says, "you mean like the last guy..."
Then I said something sweet "something dating like" and he said, "really? Because just 48 hours ago you said you hated me..."
Could it be because he knows how fickle I am (he said so, he says I'm the most fickle person he knows) and he doesn't want to fall into the same pattern? My pattern is not intentional. I just get attached extremely fast. Especially when intimacy is involved. And then things fizzle out or I lose interest and realize I don't like that person.
I said I just want to see him and don't want to feel like it has to be up to him and me be left wondering.
He says,
"You don't have to be told. We will figure out another day soon. The both of us"
Blahhhhhh
I mentioned the past guy and he said "what happened, you seemed really intersted in him?" I said "he looked really good on paper and he was sweet, I thought the feelings would come. I did like him...." He cuts in, "at first you mean" I say, "but then I realized I couldn't stand him and moved on. He wasnt the right fit for me and I didn't know why I was with him" I said, "it's natural to have attraction to someone while your in a relationship, just not act on it. If my eye continues to wander, I break it off before something would happen because loyalty is important to me" he says, "you mean like the last guy..."
Then I said something sweet "something dating like" and he said, "really? Because just 48 hours ago you said you hated me..."
Could it be because he knows how fickle I am (he said so, he says I'm the most fickle person he knows) and he doesn't want to fall into the same pattern? My pattern is not intentional. I just get attached extremely fast. Especially when intimacy is involved. And then things fizzle out or I lose interest and realize I don't like that person.
I said I just want to see him and don't want to feel like it has to be up to him and me be left wondering.
He says,
"You don't have to be told. We will figure out another day soon. The both of us"
Blahhhhhh
Study aid...lol nice. Yeah I need some of that. I would LOVE my brain to take a vacation omg.
I need to study for real too. I haven't been studying at all but I've been making high Bs and As in everything in my psychology class, but I should prob study for my midterm this month!
You know what I did a lot of before that helped me escape, feel better? READ and write!
Anybody have good book suggestions? I love thriller/Sci fi/mystery/ crime drama type stuff. My favorite author is dean Koontz.
That could help. When I was feeling stressed, I would escape into somebody else's mind.
I need to study for real too. I haven't been studying at all but I've been making high Bs and As in everything in my psychology class, but I should prob study for my midterm this month!
You know what I did a lot of before that helped me escape, feel better? READ and write!
Anybody have good book suggestions? I love thriller/Sci fi/mystery/ crime drama type stuff. My favorite author is dean Koontz.
That could help. When I was feeling stressed, I would escape into somebody else's mind.
Most likely....I do have anxiety, much of it.
How come you only read self help? I enjoy fiction but it's been so hard to finish a book.
I was so into the game of thrones books but I'm now on the 4th and it's just soo slow compared to the 3rd.
How come you only read self help? I enjoy fiction but it's been so hard to finish a book.
I was so into the game of thrones books but I'm now on the 4th and it's just soo slow compared to the 3rd.
See told you it would be fun... Just take it real slow, concentrate on yourself, study for your mid term, read some books, or watch tv series I like to catch up on are: hart of Dixie, greys anatomy, breaking bad...
He's being cautious and if you've been fickle in the past over guys n loosing interest by moving too fast he defo doesn't wana risk falling into that.
I like the sound of him - all dreamy n irresistible... Resist u must for now and work on yourself and let him come to you..
Remember he's gotta work for it and prove to you that he's going to be better this time and then both of you together can move forward at which point you will be in a better position having worked on yourself first.
Most of all relax and it's great news he's here and wants to show u he can be.
I feel for u - I'd wana see him on fri too if I were you. But I can see where he's coming from wanting to take it slow n not ruin it by burning out too fast.. Like he says he knows u
He's being cautious and if you've been fickle in the past over guys n loosing interest by moving too fast he defo doesn't wana risk falling into that.
I like the sound of him - all dreamy n irresistible... Resist u must for now and work on yourself and let him come to you..
Remember he's gotta work for it and prove to you that he's going to be better this time and then both of you together can move forward at which point you will be in a better position having worked on yourself first.
Most of all relax and it's great news he's here and wants to show u he can be.
I feel for u - I'd wana see him on fri too if I were you. But I can see where he's coming from wanting to take it slow n not ruin it by burning out too fast.. Like he says he knows u
Yeah it's just so hard! I feel like he doesn't really want to see me :/
I lose interest if I don't have regular contact and see that person too...
Posted by Agentgem24
Yeah it's just so hard! I feel like he doesn't really want to see me :/
Look at it logically (can't believe I'm saying that as an emotional cancer)
He wouldn't get in touch n meet u if he didn't wana see you.. He may feel like he will spoil it if he sees you too soon before you are both ready?
Maybe....but how often should I expect to see and talk to him to know if he's still interested?
I would say, if he didn't contact me daily I would think he's not so interested. He says he is not the clingy sort, I am. But then again....my longest relationship was 4 years with a Leo and 3.5 of those 4, were long distance during the school year. I would go 3-6 weeks without seeing him and then summer and breaks pract daily. It's hard to say if it was because I really loved him, the distance that kept things fresh, or a combination of things that kept us together so long. We were only together 6 months before the distance started so honestly, it's pretty hard to say.
I would think seeing someone 2-3x a week when dating someone is perfect. Maybe 1-2 in the beginning. The Scorpio I recently dated was 4-6x and I think that wore on me REAL fast.
Idk...I guess I'm just super sensitive. Remember, I'm a watery gem. I'm Cancer venus/mars. My best friend, my mom, and my grandpa who are all very close to me, too are Cancer.
I would say, if he didn't contact me daily I would think he's not so interested. He says he is not the clingy sort, I am. But then again....my longest relationship was 4 years with a Leo and 3.5 of those 4, were long distance during the school year. I would go 3-6 weeks without seeing him and then summer and breaks pract daily. It's hard to say if it was because I really loved him, the distance that kept things fresh, or a combination of things that kept us together so long. We were only together 6 months before the distance started so honestly, it's pretty hard to say.
I would think seeing someone 2-3x a week when dating someone is perfect. Maybe 1-2 in the beginning. The Scorpio I recently dated was 4-6x and I think that wore on me REAL fast.
Idk...I guess I'm just super sensitive. Remember, I'm a watery gem. I'm Cancer venus/mars. My best friend, my mom, and my grandpa who are all very close to me, too are Cancer.
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