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Posted by Agentgem24
He says he obviously wants to see me and it's not about other girls, I know he's not that. He just wants me to slow it down because he doesn't want it to feel like an obligation and we've been talking 24 hours and I'm trying to make it into like we are dating. I do that...a lot. And he knows I do, and how I'll get really hyped up at first then suddenly loose interest in the guy and not feel like it anymore after 2-3 months.
I mentioned the past guy and he said "what happened, you seemed really intersted in him?" I said "he looked really good on paper and he was sweet, I thought the feelings would come. I did like him...." He cuts in, "at first you mean" I say, "but then I realized I couldn't stand him and moved on. He wasnt the right fit for me and I didn't know why I was with him" I said, "it's natural to have attraction to someone while your in a relationship, just not act on it. If my eye continues to wander, I break it off before something would happen because loyalty is important to me" he says, "you mean like the last guy..."
Then I said something sweet "something dating like" and he said, "really? Because just 48 hours ago you said you hated me..."
Could it be because he knows how fickle I am (he said so, he says I'm the most fickle person he knows) and he doesn't want to fall into the same pattern? My pattern is not intentional. I just get attached extremely fast. Especially when intimacy is involved. And then things fizzle out or I lose interest and realize I don't like that person.
I said I just want to see him and don't want to feel like it has to be up to him and me be left wondering.
He says,
"You don't have to be told. We will figure out another day soon. The both of us"
Blahhhhhh
Those are your Gem traits. At least you're recognizing them and will be able to tone them down. That's a positive!
Stupid gem traits! I also worry that maybe we only have an intense physical chemistry/connection, and not so much other? Hard to tell...
Posted by Agentgem24
Stupid gem traits! I also worry that maybe we only have an intense physical chemistry/connection, and not so much other? Hard to tell...
Don't be soo hard on yourself relax n take it easy. He likes you the hard part is over enjoy the ride that will come...
Agentgem...You are revealing way too much information about your past relationship. Don't give the Cap room to mimic the person YOU NEED and yes they can mimic just like any other sign.
He will put his super hero Cape on be what you desire which gives him an opportunity to experience being a woman's super hero. He can and will CREATE feelings of neediness by assuming to be your hero and to be clear it's not done to hurt you more than it is about his own ego.
So have a bit of mystery. He's already growing bored of you "He just wants me to slow it down because he doesn't want it to feel like an obligation and we've been talking 24 hours and I'm trying to make it into like we are dating."
Keep in mind an Alpha Cap must be in control and when you were avoiding him, telling him to go away well in his Alpha male minded kind of way he needed to WIN, he needed to be back in control again and now that he's in control look at what he's saying NOW...."He just wants me to slow it down because he doesn't want it to feel like an obligation and we've been talking 24 hours and I'm trying to make it into like we are dating."
He's telling you he's going to go real real slow well...What the fuck happened to all his excitement about you? What happened to the begging and chasing, it went out the window when he captured you.
Although I agree Caps do not play the kind of head games like other astrological signs they do have their own way of playing distinct head games, for example, competing covertly or overtly for an EDGE over the woman so he can be in control. Cap males games always seem to fall in line with being in control, dominance etc. Ego driven kind of games.
You may have an Alpha male Cap are tremendously hard to be with. Cap males that are more driven to succeed in life versus driven to succeed over a woman are more reasonable...
Plus he's shown you he's a jerk so him getting a redo to show you a different side of himself is ego driven more than anything. He can't have you believing the worse about him but reality is he's still a jerk.
Your flaw is you're physically driven to want to mate with him. He know this...You lose.
You lose control over yourself, you lose a significant amount of control that you could share with him instead of him having control over you and your happiness, you lose bargaining power and you lose the ability to speak candidly about what you want.
He will put his super hero Cape on be what you desire which gives him an opportunity to experience being a woman's super hero. He can and will CREATE feelings of neediness by assuming to be your hero and to be clear it's not done to hurt you more than it is about his own ego.
So have a bit of mystery. He's already growing bored of you "He just wants me to slow it down because he doesn't want it to feel like an obligation and we've been talking 24 hours and I'm trying to make it into like we are dating."
Keep in mind an Alpha Cap must be in control and when you were avoiding him, telling him to go away well in his Alpha male minded kind of way he needed to WIN, he needed to be back in control again and now that he's in control look at what he's saying NOW...."He just wants me to slow it down because he doesn't want it to feel like an obligation and we've been talking 24 hours and I'm trying to make it into like we are dating."
He's telling you he's going to go real real slow well...What the fuck happened to all his excitement about you? What happened to the begging and chasing, it went out the window when he captured you.
Although I agree Caps do not play the kind of head games like other astrological signs they do have their own way of playing distinct head games, for example, competing covertly or overtly for an EDGE over the woman so he can be in control. Cap males games always seem to fall in line with being in control, dominance etc. Ego driven kind of games.
You may have an Alpha male Cap are tremendously hard to be with. Cap males that are more driven to succeed in life versus driven to succeed over a woman are more reasonable...
Plus he's shown you he's a jerk so him getting a redo to show you a different side of himself is ego driven more than anything. He can't have you believing the worse about him but reality is he's still a jerk.
Your flaw is you're physically driven to want to mate with him. He know this...You lose.
You lose control over yourself, you lose a significant amount of control that you could share with him instead of him having control over you and your happiness, you lose bargaining power and you lose the ability to speak candidly about what you want.
He's going to prove to you he's a good guy and like a real Alpha Cap he's either going to dump you by growing very distant or he's going to string you along just because he can. He will not stay with you, matter of fact he's already gone. Isn't he?
Don't turn into a doormat. The Cap is sure he's got you hook line and sink her.
When a man show you who he is the first time believe him.
The one growing theme that I see male Caps play out with women is they are control freaks and a woman's sense of control over herself is a big threat to him.
His primary goal is to be in control but he can't do that if she says no, not now, go away, stop etc.
His mission is to use an arsenal of emotional,mental maybe even physical weapons to gain and/or regain control over her.
He does not have a plan after he's gained a significant amount of that control back. The reaction to you giving in to him makes him want to flee so he leaves, disappears, grows distant, string her along.
That strong primal desire to win drives him to pursue as if he has any army of 300 behind him but what women fail to realize is that once he's accomplished that goal he becomes absent, cold, rigid, distant.
Don't turn into a doormat. The Cap is sure he's got you hook line and sink her.
When a man show you who he is the first time believe him.
The one growing theme that I see male Caps play out with women is they are control freaks and a woman's sense of control over herself is a big threat to him.
His primary goal is to be in control but he can't do that if she says no, not now, go away, stop etc.
His mission is to use an arsenal of emotional,mental maybe even physical weapons to gain and/or regain control over her.
He does not have a plan after he's gained a significant amount of that control back. The reaction to you giving in to him makes him want to flee so he leaves, disappears, grows distant, string her along.
That strong primal desire to win drives him to pursue as if he has any army of 300 behind him but what women fail to realize is that once he's accomplished that goal he becomes absent, cold, rigid, distant.
Very strong, TRUE words. I for one will not put my eggs in one basket. I hate to be controlled, left wondering, and trying to figure if they like me. A guy that likes you, will show it. Not say slow down. I'm suspicious of him.
Sure ill go with the flow, but not JUST with him. I AM single, and I will do as I please.
Aloof, not caring, and popular gem is back 😉 maybe it's meant to be, maybe it's not. But I certaintly will not play games and have him be the only man/thing that occupies my thoughts.
Sure ill go with the flow, but not JUST with him. I AM single, and I will do as I please.
Aloof, not caring, and popular gem is back 😉 maybe it's meant to be, maybe it's not. But I certaintly will not play games and have him be the only man/thing that occupies my thoughts.
Yes Agent just do your life. Don't focus on him at all. He have to earn a space to live in your head space.
He's gone because he's accomplished what he wanted to accomplish. He'll be back but don't be so eager to be with him, instead put your life first.
Put your life first is about keeping your scheduled appointments with other things and other people. Hanging out with your friends first. Doing your homework or college homework. Going to social outings first, going out on dates with nice guys who know how to date, keeping up with your hobbies and then you can squeeze him in (maybe).
No more last minute dates either. Don't allow him to sense that you're so available he can have you any time he pops back into your life. Take that control back by not being so available to him.
Put your life first. Put your life first....Did I say put your life first?
Putting you and your life first isn't to punish him, it's more about having control over whose going to be in and out of your life.
Putting yourself first looks like you BEING IN CONTROL of YOU which is very attractive to an Alpha male.
His goal will always be about how can I get her to forget her life and focus on me, revolve her life around me and the quicker you do revolve yourself around him the quicker he's out the door not to be seen or heard from again for awhile.
Go back to putting his ass off like you used to, you'll get more attention out of him when you appear not to need him for anything.
He'll be back but don't be so eager, do it your way on your terms and let him head fuck himself trying to get it his way, you'll never get rid of him as long he sense he can't have it his way.
As long as he's not in control fully he'll continue to work and work towards a goal. Caps will climb that rocky mountain forever to reach to the top.
He's gone because he's accomplished what he wanted to accomplish. He'll be back but don't be so eager to be with him, instead put your life first.
Put your life first is about keeping your scheduled appointments with other things and other people. Hanging out with your friends first. Doing your homework or college homework. Going to social outings first, going out on dates with nice guys who know how to date, keeping up with your hobbies and then you can squeeze him in (maybe).
No more last minute dates either. Don't allow him to sense that you're so available he can have you any time he pops back into your life. Take that control back by not being so available to him.
Put your life first. Put your life first....Did I say put your life first?
Putting you and your life first isn't to punish him, it's more about having control over whose going to be in and out of your life.
Putting yourself first looks like you BEING IN CONTROL of YOU which is very attractive to an Alpha male.
His goal will always be about how can I get her to forget her life and focus on me, revolve her life around me and the quicker you do revolve yourself around him the quicker he's out the door not to be seen or heard from again for awhile.
Go back to putting his ass off like you used to, you'll get more attention out of him when you appear not to need him for anything.
He'll be back but don't be so eager, do it your way on your terms and let him head fuck himself trying to get it his way, you'll never get rid of him as long he sense he can't have it his way.
As long as he's not in control fully he'll continue to work and work towards a goal. Caps will climb that rocky mountain forever to reach to the top.
Yeah he's not even texted me today but I haven't contacted him.
I gave him crap before because he was expecting me to be free and I said I wasn't going to cancel on my friends. I said, "I am NOBODIES beckoned call" he goes, "you are my beckoned call" I told him wrong, and go go fuck himself lol.
I gave him crap before because he was expecting me to be free and I said I wasn't going to cancel on my friends. I said, "I am NOBODIES beckoned call" he goes, "you are my beckoned call" I told him wrong, and go go fuck himself lol.
Lol yeah he did text, "how was your day?" I didn't respond right away and he's not my top priority
Posted by NicroblizPosted by tiki33
Yes Agent just do your life. Don't focus on him at all. He have to earn a space to live in your head space.
He's gone because he's accomplished what he wanted to accomplish. He'll be back but don't be so eager to be with him, instead put your life first.
Put your life first is about keeping your scheduled appointments with other things and other people. Hanging out with your friends first. Doing your homework or college homework. Going to social outings first, going out on dates with nice guys who know how to date, keeping up with your hobbies and then you can squeeze him in (maybe).
No more last minute dates either. Don't allow him to sense that you're so available he can have you any time he pops back into your life. Take that control back by not being so available to him.
Put your life first. Put your life first....Did I say put your life first?
Putting you and your life first isn't to punish him, it's more about having control over whose going to be in and out of your life.
Putting yourself first looks like you BEING IN CONTROL of YOU which is very attractive to an Alpha male.
His goal will always be about how can I get her to forget her life and focus on me, revolve her life around me and the quicker you do revolve yourself around him the quicker he's out the door not to be seen or heard from again for awhile.
Go back to putting his ass off like you used to, you'll get more attention out of him when you appear not to need him for anything.
He'll be back but don't be so eager, do it your way on your terms and let him head fuck himself trying to get it his way, you'll never get rid of him as long he sense he can't have it his way.
As long as he's not in control fully he'll continue to work and work towards a goal. Caps will climb that rocky mountain forever to reach to the top.
And if Agentgem24 continues acting this way, within the next five years or so, she's going to earn herself a not very flattering reputation...click to expand
What are you talking about....
?
Well I mean, he's not lol. I'm talking to a few guys. Just talking, just getting to know. Nothing special. Nothing physical. It's whatever. I'm just backing off him for awhile.
I don't do games so if he is going to be the one that has to assert his dominance and like it when I distance myself, then I won't waste much of my time on him, and more so with someone that I can be myself around. All of me.
Well I mean, he's not lol. I'm talking to a few guys. Just talking, just getting to know. Nothing special. Nothing physical. It's whatever. I'm just backing off him for awhile.
I don't do games so if he is going to be the one that has to assert his dominance and like it when I distance myself, then I won't waste much of my time on him, and more so with someone that I can be myself around. All of me.
Sorry, I have nothing to contribute. Just wanted to be the number 100 poster.
OooOoooH yeeEEeeEah. ^.^
OooOoooH yeeEEeeEah. ^.^
Lol ass hole! 😉
"And if Agentgem24 continues acting this way, within the next five years or so, she's going to earn herself a not very flattering reputation..."
Agent can talk to whomever she chooses, there is no law against talking to more than one man nor dating more than one man.
We are not even talking sex here so get the fuck out of here with that double standard bullshit.
Agent can talk to whomever she chooses, there is no law against talking to more than one man nor dating more than one man.
We are not even talking sex here so get the fuck out of here with that double standard bullshit.
Posted by tiki33
"And if Agentgem24 continues acting this way, within the next five years or so, she's going to earn herself a not very flattering reputation..."
Agent can talk to whomever she chooses, there is no law against talking to more than one man nor dating more than one man.
We are not even talking sex here so get the fuck out of here with that double standard bullshit.
I like you =) Feisty!
He's gone coz he not meant to be and thats that. No use in crying over something that was and now longer is, move on and forget about him. Theres plenty of others out there just like that to play with. You get a choice of them being stupid or just plain stupid. Pick and choose which you prefer coz they are all the same. I wonder the same thing at times and I am trying to tell him to move on and get on with things coz its far more easier to happier that way. Its too bland being like this. Of people are going to use you, you just have understand that and move on. Thats just the way it is these days. Well not all people will only good friends wont but the others I wouldnt even bother. Go your own way, find your own time and befriend someone else coz it aint happening here.
Posted by Lucriu
Sorry, I have nothing to contribute. Just wanted to be the number 100 poster.
OooOoooH yeeEEeeEah. ^.^
Lol
It's not misguided. It's double standards when a guy thinks he can fuck around and have a harem but if a girl does, oh noes she's a slut! I'm not even sleeping with these guys. There is no bad reputation to be given and if I was....who cares?? It's MY business. What is this high school? Are they all going to find out? Get the fuck outta here. We are adults, adults can do things as and with whom they please, responsibly. I'm not sleeping around. But if I was, it wouldn't be your right to judge. Guys do it a lot too. Part of dating is talking to, going out with multiple ppl. How else would you know what you like? I don't get physical unless I really like someone and IF I am, it's not multiple people at once. Maybe dating multiple, but physical is just one. And when I'm exclusive, it's only physical and dating that ONE person. It's how people generally work.
What tiki said rang with a lot of truth.
What tiki said rang with a lot of truth.
I'm cautious, I have been burned by men. But I do know there are good men and while I may take it slow to feel them out and be distrusting at first (I think everyone has a hidden agenda and I'm naturally paranoid and suspicious, no matter what gender) but no matter how many times I've been burned, I don't push all my past experiences on the guy just as I would expect him to do the same and avoid double standard. Of course, there are jerks and bitches. But there are good ones. Just so happens, sometimes you have to weed out multiple jerks until you find the good one.
*pulls the girls apart* Girls, girls please dont argue, think about it, would you rahter be staring at Tates profile picture? I know I do 0.0
Lol I'm so happy that your life consists of nothing more than being mean to others on the Internet.
You know everything because....Internet.
He actually likes me? Everything about how he's acting says otherwise. Purposely keeping me distanced and canceling plans? That says pretty uninterested and all it does is push me away.
Are you new to the Internet or dxp for that matter? What do you think people do....it's ALL personal! Lol k
You know everything because....Internet.
He actually likes me? Everything about how he's acting says otherwise. Purposely keeping me distanced and canceling plans? That says pretty uninterested and all it does is push me away.
Are you new to the Internet or dxp for that matter? What do you think people do....it's ALL personal! Lol k
Posted by Lucriu
*pulls the girls apart* Girls, girls please dont argue, think about it, would you rahter be staring at Tates profile picture? I know I do 0.0
The sad part is....that's a guy yelling at me. It would make more sense if he was a girl lol
Posted by Agentgem24Posted by Lucriu
*pulls the girls apart* Girls, girls please dont argue, think about it, would you rahter be staring at Tates profile picture? I know I do 0.0
The sad part is....that's a guy yelling at me. It would make more sense if he was a girl lolclick to expand
Lol!!!!' damn.... thats... kinds sad 😢 I think he just wants your attention. Pet him ^.^ maybe he'll calm down 😆
Shut the fuck up NicroBITZ. You are an attention seeker and a control freak.
You have added nothing that has ever made any sense on DXP. Talking about hypocrite--look in the mirror bozo.
keep talking in code as if that makes you smarter than everyone else, not. I may be severely misguided but you're severely stupid so that makes us even.
You have added nothing that has ever made any sense on DXP. Talking about hypocrite--look in the mirror bozo.
keep talking in code as if that makes you smarter than everyone else, not. I may be severely misguided but you're severely stupid so that makes us even.
Posted by NicroblizPosted by tiki33
"And if Agentgem24 continues acting this way, within the next five years or so, she's going to earn herself a not very flattering reputation..."
Agent can talk to whomever she chooses, there is no law against talking to more than one man nor dating more than one man.
We are not even talking sex here so get the fuck out of here with that double standard bullshit.
It's women like you with your 'bitter and scarred by men, female empowerment' bullshit that others should be wary of.
While some of your points may be valid, more often than not, you're completely off the mark. But, of course, you're so far up your self-righteous arse to even realise it...click to expand
LOL@bitter, more like brutally honest. I hit a nerve nicrobittz. Get a life. Why come here and argue with me, If I'm wrong then dispel the Tiki Capricorn conspiracy.
Oh and this isn't about being right or righteous. This was a conversation with adults but your juvenile acting ass had to muck it all up with your temper tantrum.
Posted by Agentgem24Posted by Lucriu
*pulls the girls apart* Girls, girls please dont argue, think about it, would you rahter be staring at Tates profile picture? I know I do 0.0
The sad part is....that's a guy yelling at me. It would make more sense if he was a girl lolclick to expand
LOL
I hit a nerve, he can't help but yelp like a little girl.
Ow owww! Like an injured baby coyte sounds lol. How old is the dude anyways? Who lit the fuse on your manpon?
Posted by Agentgem24
Most likely....I do have anxiety, much of it.
How come you only read self help? I enjoy fiction but it's been so hard to finish a book.
I was so into the game of thrones books but I'm now on the 4th and it's just soo slow compared to the 3rd.
Agrees. The entire series gets bogged down in the 4th, and now we're stuck on a cliff just waiting...
Sigh....I honestly think he should have stopped after the 3rd. I'm not sure why the quality went so downhill after the 3rd? I think he may die before he finishes sadly...
*Giggles then smiles at creepypants*
😢😢//&&& BUMP &&😉)((/)==
😢😢//&&& BUMP &&😉)((/)==
dude
*Cough*
* Yawns and stretches * Morning CreepyPants =D
you're a trip luc 🙂
*Waves at Creepypants* Another beautiful day isnt it? =D
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