Will this Cappy men come back again?

2 months after breakingup he contact me on my Yahoo messanger.

1 month late, he texts, ask me hang out but I reply him on the next day (my phone problem). He texts back with short and cold words. I asked why u wanna see me, he didn't text back.

1 week late, I text him, ask his ideas about an important thing. He reply immediatly. We text and text back. Then I ask him out for talking, he do not reply!

3 weeks late. He text me in the early sunday morning to hang out for a coffee. I'm still sleeping so I text him back after 6 hours. He do not angry. We meet in the evening.
He asks me few questions, he doesnt talk much but really pays attention and listens to me. He looks at me, smiling, flirting, tring to hold my hand. I smile back, it seems like we're going back together.
He invite to go (i dont remember, maybe for dinner or sth...). Suddently, I said:
"Do not try to cheat me again, I won't go with you anymore!". He's shocked, we both freeze for seconds. Than he says he just wanna bring me to my home.

2 hours late, I lost my jacket, so I text him if he see it in the coffee shop, he texts me back, he shows his cares abt it.
In the night, I text him again like: I didn't mean to be shy, I wanted to smile more, talk more with you. I feel like you. just not as much as I did.

I waited for 2 days. so I text again, that: I dont know why I said so, i shouldnt say that you're planing to cheat me again... don't hate me, ok?😢 He keeps cold, do not reply me.

5 days late, he contacts me on my Yahoo.
5 days late again, he contact my yahoo again, both 2 times he talk about sth else around the world not love! Just short conversations, I feel if I say more, he will bored, takes long time to reply, even he was the one who starts.

I find out that he sets his contact invisible to me after we meet again. My friends told me his yahoo status messenger these days are about depressived, get boring,...

We dated for 2 months, then for some reasons we end it, at this time he fall in depresstion too, he sets invisible to me too! after few time, he sets available to me again.
I just don't know why, he wanna hide his weak feelings to me? he don't wanna be disturbed by my caring question?


Will he back again? I still like him... Can I do something?

I'm a Taurus girl, and 6 years younger than him.

"And what is it with everybody's relationship being determined by what's done on facebook, email or messenger? Wouldn't you rather interact with someone in person or at least through a live phone call?"

That right there!! And after reading this post I almost felt like I want to throw text messaging up against the wall it frustrates me to no end lol

Will he come back? I'm certain he would if you both stop the cat and mouse tag game through text etc...(come back for good in what way) no one can really predict that.

My friends told me his yahoo status messenger these days are about depressive, get boring,...

And so I don't know if my calling will make him feel more tired 😢

I'm just thinking... may be he just wanna be friends... and I'm think too much? Do I?


Thank you, tiki33 and QuietSt0rm 🙂

If he ever contacts you again, tell him you are too depressed to speak to him :-)

Posted by MissBizarre
If he ever contacts you again, tell him you are too depressed to speak to him :-)

to make he never contact me again ? 😕

im cappy female but i come back..i reject a person due to logic when my heart says otherwise then with time my logic changes..BUT...I only come back to the people who dont hump my leg. If your trying to maintain contact and appear clingy I wouldnt come back...but if its very occassional contact eg once every month id probably become fonder

and if you ever want success with someone avoid contacting them in messages chat at all costs. Messangers etc and offline online with all the obligation to talk when youve nothing to talk about and hiding from each other..its the nail in the coffin of most relationships.

Plus the fact you cant see the persons facial expression body language, hear the tone of their voice leads to paranoia, negativity, and bluntness that usually spoil things. The obligation to talk daily or hide quickly dries up any good feelings

Posted by michellemabelle
and if you ever want success with someone avoid contacting them in messages chat at all costs. Messangers etc and offline online with all the obligation to talk when youve nothing to talk about and hiding from each other..its the nail in the coffin of most relationships.

Plus the fact you cant see the persons facial expression body language, hear the tone of their voice leads to paranoia, negativity, and bluntness that usually spoil things. The obligation to talk daily or hide quickly dries up any good feelings

Thank your michellemabelle 🙂

I met him and I can see all the ways he flirt me, smile, touch... I pretty sure he was attracted and we were feel good but I tunred him off (like said above). So should I call him and ask for another meet?

I heard about on the first date guys can flirt and do all the things like they are in love but actually they just in the mood. And on the next they disappear, never contact again... But I just wonder if they do treat ex gf like that 😢

These days also avoid him like he does to me (yahoo, facebook, IM...). In case I cant have him back I hope I will forget him by this way.

I guess this is the best thing I can do now. Contact him seem to take more risks... Thank you so much oxlostxo >😄

I will wait and try, Thank you dears🙂

Every time I come back to read these posts, things start to make a lot of sense. A cap broke it off with me almost two months ago for "logical" reasons. A couple of days ago he instant messaged me. Nothing special, just your average, "hi, how are you?" type deal. For someone who told me to "have a good life" you would think he wouldnt come back, but he appeared just like everyone has been saying.

Posted by paranormalbadgirl
Every time I come back to read these posts, things start to make a lot of sense. A cap broke it off with me almost two months ago for "logical" reasons. A couple of days ago he instant messaged me. Nothing special, just your average, "hi, how are you?" type deal. For someone who told me to "have a good life" you would think he wouldnt come back, but he appeared just like everyone has been saying.

well, I think if we girls didn't dump or betrayed the cap, cap will come back around us to see if there is anything attractive him.

men do this kind of back and forth crap because we women allow them to do it, it's his way of saying i want my cake and I want to eat it too, I want to have you around to give me sex, rub my back, listen to me talk, cook me food, jump through hoops, play the doting girlfriend role but I also want to remain independent and single and any amount of pressure that requires me to give back beyond my comfort zone and be committed beyond my comfort zone is not what I want so I'll leave to alleviate the pressure I feel and come back to pick back up again when things are cooled off to maintain those benefits I receive when I'm with you, IMO that's not a bad idea but it's just so misleading and confusing to women that don't understand this kind of mentality. This is what men do when they don't want to be in a real relationship.

Posted by tiki33
men do this kind of back and forth crap because we women allow them to do it, it's his way of saying i want my cake and I want to eat it too, I want to have you around to give me sex, rub my back, listen to me talk, cook me food, jump through hoops, play the doting girlfriend role but I also want to remain independent and single and any amount of pressure that requires me to give back beyond my comfort zone and be committed beyond my comfort zone is not what I want so I'll leave to alleviate the pressure I feel and come back to pick back up again when things are cooled off to maintain those benefits I receive when I'm with you, IMO that's not a bad idea but it's just so misleading and confusing to women that don't understand this kind of mentality. This is what men do when they don't want to be in a real relationship.

I really admire you for what you said tiki 🙂

It seems like a young girl like me must learn a lots to win the love game 😢

Sopi you'll be alright no matter what happens between you and your cap, I didn't learn what I know over night...