worrying, brooding, anxiety, concern, etc.

i r cap. i worry. (especially lately)

share your thoughts/experiences on 'worrying'. whudya worrying about these days if you care to tell?

and here's a question... is worrying ALWAYS a bad thing? can the excuse, 'i worry because i CARE' justify it, make it better, acceptable, OR something to be appreciated(?!) —

can caring for someone/something really be a cause for worrying about them/it? or is worrying just a selfish concern? or a paranoia? could be either, all depending.

it is easy to say that worrying is pointless as it takes a lot out of a person to worry. though it does prompt action in some cases where action is needed.

here's the dictionary.com definition-
worry:
To feel uneasy or concerned about something; be troubled.
To pull or tear at something with or as if with the teeth.
To proceed doggedly in the face of difficulty or hardship; struggle: ex.'worried along at the problem.'

and i read somewhere that the germanic root of the word 'worry' means 'to strangle.' ...i thought that was interesting and slightly amusing.

lastly, here's a quote to ease your worrying mind. dont remember who said it, sorry... "A great deal of our worries exist only in our imaginations."
so true.

personally, i feel that worrying can only hinder me. true, it has helped motivate me, but i know it has also made me shy away from things. anyways, i'd so much rather be motivated by will and desire for something great, not fear of something terrible.

with people... even though i have worried about others, loved ones, i absolutely can't stand others worrying about me. put plainly, it tells me that they have a lack of faith in me. which in turn makes me wonder if that means my worrying about others means i have a lack of faith in them. and this then leads to another question... are you dizzy yet? :p k, not that question, but it makes me wonder, what does me caring about someone have to do with me worrying about them?

i suppose there are different objectives behind 'worries.' sometimes i do feel selfish about it, especially concerning people. other times it really is selfless care and love for their well being. when it comes to performance... i feel like worrying can easily become a self-fullfilling prophecy.

my biggest problem with worrying is when it is completely invented and if im self-aware enough, i can usually tell when that is, but it doesnt always make it any easier to deal with it.

i've recently gone through a bout of worry in a certain fashion. it goes right along with our cap 'doom' emotions. blech. could happily do without.

Hey can I join in? Even though I'm not a true, real Cap.?

I never realize that I'm worrying but I guess I do... I don't think I'm as "in touch with my emotions" as alot of people (other signs), so I don't even realize that I worry. I think I worry the most about having kids... time is ticking... which is why I worry about my love relationships or lack thereof, which is why I'm on here ranting about Cap. men. LOL But seriously, I do worry the most about my personal life. My career is where it should be and I'm fortunate for my job/position so I tend to focus on what's lacking...

read this in an op-ed

"It has been claimed that each of us has a worry spot in the brain and, since nature abhors a vacuum, when one worry is taken care of, another rushes in to take its place."

this makes me wonder if anything we do isn't somewhat propelled by worry. can we ever do anything without worry shadowing us? small tasks aside.

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***hey, thank for you comments on that thread last night 🙂 🙂 🙂 ***

Well, I'm more concern about the future. I feel there so much going on and I wander whether or not I can make everything work.

or what is too little?

zactly... im a really worrying about worry? lol tsk tsk

First it's concern, then worry, followed by anxiety.. Not sure where the brooding fits in.. Anxiety is the worst. I try not to worry/anxious about things I have no controle over. and frequently being tested. Like how multiple choice can have that one tricky question!

realized my thought wasn't finished... and ya get stuck on it... Really try to see things from different perspectives. Also I get what you're saying about worry being a motivator.

ya... anything i have no control over is actually very easy for me to not worry about. though influence is some control. no control is something like the weather, or dying. i do think that people i may have some influence on is another place where my worrying can get out of hand. i tend to put a lot of responsibility on myself. to others, it would most definitely look like too much if they ever knew the extent. to me it just makes perfect sense, even though i can understand how, relative to anyone else, ridiculous it is. it's kind of funny that i always seem to have at least 2 knots somewhere in my neck and shoulder muscles.

Over the past few years the most that has given me worry/anxiety is either the health or safety of a loved one.I can be strong on the outside,and spiral inside.

...it's kind of funny that i always seem to have at least 2 knots somewhere in my neck and shoulder muscles...

need a man with some strong and willing hands! 🙂

'Over the past few years the most that has given me worry/anxiety is either the health or safety of a loved one.I can be strong on the outside,and spiral inside.'

those are noble concerns. i can relate to spiraling inside, but looking strong on the outside... heh.

LOL..

Yeah, I tend to worry about things I have no control over...the more I tell myself not to worry, the more I do.

Even if there wasn't anything to worry about, caps would worry why there isn't anything to worry about.

Even if there wasn't anything to worry about, caps would worry why there isn't anything to worry about.

lol, damn straight... the blissful streak wont last forever. i admit, when things are going great, i sometimes wonder what doom my karma from a past life might have in store for me.

Goodness gracious! can only speak for myself, and I have 3 planets in Cap..It's difficult to express/share when the feelings go so very deep.The confusion I feel makes it difficult to sort out what is mine,as opposed to what I'm receiving from others.We are psychic on a "feeling" level, and often times, it just doesn't compute. So, we take time to circle around the issue. In other words,we take time to look at it from various perspectives. I for one prefer not to burden others with the maelstrom (?) of emotions swirling about inside, until after I've figured out what the hell is going on inside of ME.

i know what look you are talking about, JD. i try to keep that one to myself because i know it's all up to me in that case. i end up feeling as though others pity me because they are helpless in helping me out. and really, i've come to find that the mood is all self-imposed. worry is self-imposed. which makes it a good thing that bouncing back is self-imposed as well.

if it helps you any with your cap friends when they're in that mood, JD... something to make them laugh or smile might help them realize the frivolity of being so down. i cant help but lighten up and even open up when someone does that favor for me.

'Sometimes I think caps worrying is nothing but their analyzing coupled with thinking about all the worst case scenarios.' ...true that, true that. not to mention that we probably belittle our own worth in the face of it too.

'We are psychic on a "feeling" level, and often times, it just doesn't compute. So, we take time to circle around the issue. In other words,we take time to look at it from various perspectives. I for one prefer not to burden others with the maelstrom (?) of emotions swirling about inside, until after I've figured out what the hell is going on inside of ME.' ...jaysus, are you my clone cuz this sounds just like me.

then dont let yourself completely loose 🙂 i know i know... easier said than done with your game face in the work place. especially when against a cap mood. but when we can make the connection, just knowing that someone else has a close understanding of what is going on because they care enough to pay attention is a twofold cheer. like a warm fire and smores :p

CP! Beautiful !!! Good night!