Young Cap + Older Scorp = —

Well if you both feel the same way toward each other then yes proceed but with caution and also make sure you both can work together and not have hassles nothing worse than working with someone and they cause hassles further down the road.

Also maybe you looking too much into this and need to take a step back and look at things again as the stars arent that reliable source of whether you two will be compatiable or not

You strike me as one who doesnt want commitment, what if down the road both you and she wants commitment and have you factored in this variable that may or may not happen and what you would do if this were to happen?

Could you both still work with each other if she or you both fell in love with with each other or another, could you still maintain the professional workmanship or would that cause unneccessary stress upon you both, would this be a determinable factor in well you did say you could handle working together so that would be a start.

I am female {older Scorp} and he is male {younger Cap} and we work in a highly-transient industry so I'm not overly concerned about our work dynamics if things don't work out. I think we both respect each other enough, and have made sure to make our friendship our base, to simply go about our lives without negative drama or interference if one's feelings lean differently.

I guess, what it really boils down to is, the heart wants what the heart wants, and the rest is up to the universe. In the meantime I will take your advice of stepping out of the situation so as to get a broader perspective, and take the temperature as needed. I will also work on my patience {again and again and again} regarding mystery.

People with commitment issues always want impossible situations that will not end well to begin with.

In typical commitmentphobe fashion you pick a guy whose most likely too young to get emotionally involved with.

Phobic people play with fire and love to get burned so they can be free again to try all over again in another impossible situation with someone else.

Go ahead go for it. You'll either turn into an obsessive emotionally attached needy person that borders on being stalker that may or may not cross into that or run for the hills b/c there is no in between with people that suffer from commitment issues.

Posted by Solarity
I feel such a strong connection to him that I know I have to set emotional boundaries for myself or I will fall foolishly into the possibility we could become more serious to each other, and that things could become more exclusive than I originally thought. I am commitment-phobic and do not want kids nor a traditional committed relationship, which is a huge part of why I considered dating someone so much younger - men my age are bitterly divorced and/or desperately 'ready' to commit to a traditional relationship.

I am so confused by this post I do not know where to begin.

I think you just need to take a step back and figure out what you want, it doesn't seem like you know.
Take time to be by yourself.

Men our age of the bitterly divorced type are perfect if you don't need or want a commitment.

But, I don't see you, as a Scorp, being able to just fool around with no type of commitment, based on the Scorps I know- so I can understand why this might be confusing.

I don't see a Capricorn having a real relationship with someone in the workplace, unless you're his boss and he is using you as a stepping stone. I know I wouldn't. I would never risk my reputation at work. If I did end up having an affair with someone at work, I certainly wouldn't tell anyone about it.

May I ask for advice on getting through commitment phobia then, Tiki? Other than continuing to try by putting oneself out there in dating and relationships? I use the word as an expression since most relate to it, not as a label I'm stuck wearing. I've acknowledged that I have a fear of commitment, but it's mostly because I won't commit to someone I know isn't 'right' for me - as in, I don't feel the relationship is adding to our lives so why continue with it? I don't take commitment lightly, and when I love I love fully, so perhaps that's not a phobia so much as a consideration that those who may be co-dependent don't always qualify. Perhaps I should consider myself 'extremely selective regarding relationships' instead. I simply don't enjoy traditional male-female committed relationship models, such as most my age still cling to, so if that is wanting the best of both worlds so be it. It's not the first time I'll contradict myself, nor will it be the last. He's also not the first young guy I've dated, nor am I uncomfortable dating younger {or older for that matter - the guy I dated before him was 12 yrs my senior}. Age is just a number to me.

IF my young Cap and I do fall in love and things go swimmingly, I don't know why I would want to leave whatever relationship we've created, and wouldn't unless it wasn't working for either of us. I'm a firm believer in moving forward amicably and communicating openly, so I wouldn't become one of those emotionally attached needy stalker types nor would I just ditch and run. I'm not a coward nor am I a sadist. On the outside, having had many brief relationships could make me appear aloof towards commitment, and I was simply acknowledging the possibility of the 'non-commitment' label. Please, let's not get caught up on labels and sticking heels into the sand.

It's VERY new, capgirl, which is why we aren't saying anything to anyone at work. However, we aren't being overly paranoid since we work in a restaurant {which is a notorious environment for workplace flings and a commonly accepted meeting place}. I'm not his boss, and I have considered that he may be 'using' me as a stepping stone, but I think it would be more for the experience of dating an older woman than sleeping his way up an imaginary ladder. Posting this - and reading responses - helps me to figure out what I want, and was my intention in doing so. It's not so much that I don't or do want a commitment, but more asking if anyone had any advice or experiences they can share as an older female dating a younger Cap man.

Posted by tiki33
People with commitment issues always want impossible situations that will not end well to begin with.

In typical commitmentphobe fashion you pick a guy whose most likely too young to get emotionally involved with.

Phobic people play with fire and love to get burned so they can be free again to try all over again in another impossible situation with someone else.

Go ahead go for it. You'll either turn into an obsessive emotionally attached needy person that borders on being stalker that may or may not cross into that or run for the hills b/c there is no in between with people that suffer from commitment issues.

Hmmm...

The only thing here I hear is that he is committed to being non committed in a non committal way, LOL

Now if thats not cunfusing i dont know what is

Ummm indeed another stalker could be a runner my how things never change