Betsy, u know what, its really not good for a person who has no selfconfidence because you are like killing your self with shame. It's not good & healthy for your personality dear! If you want to gain self confidence you should realize the effects of this consequence. U know what to tell you the truth back when I was in high school, I really really dont have a self confidence in myself cause I see myself as an ugly girl and I wear clothes that I look pretty stupid that doesnt fit me. My friends teases me cause im like this & like that, I feel inferior of myself. Everynight I cry cause I feel pitty to myself. I look at myself at the mirror & cried, I realize that I dont want to be like this forever, being treated by people in un very nice way. When I go to college I changed, I change the way I dress & my posture. I feel good about myself & im not insecure of people anymore but, my classmates in high school got insecure of me because I change. They asked me what I did to gain the confidence, I just told them nothing, I just found the real me! Which is practically true! I wont forget this experience of mine that changed me into a better person, I feel good about myself with lots of confidence. You know what, with my experience, I discovered that you are the one who's making your personality either you want people to mistreat you or respect you. Its all up to you! What you have to find in yourself Betsy is the real you! The only problem with people is they dont seek whats the real inside of themselves, they usually ignore it. The outcome of this is insecurity because you yourself dont know who you are & what you are really made of. Usually happens is you feel uncomfortable of yourself. You should reflect yourself Betsy. Try to look at yourself in the mirror & pretend that you are not what you see in the mirror & tell her what her problem is. what I mean is see what you want to change of yourself & improve it for the better. Those things that cannot be change like your nose or whatever you think that is imperfect try to accept that & learn to love it! You'll be amaze by the result! trust me, I've been there! email me if you have time & if you have problems.
