@Freebird
21 Years1,000+ Posts
What do YOU think?
Freebird.....🙂...you know already what...!!! why you ask..??
Oh Q...silly you...I am just a very curious person and wonder what others think - that's all.
I really do NOT understand why a man would desire to stay in a relationship that is void of life and happiness...why?
The ONLY reason I can possibly think of is...money and if he can find "fun" on the side then why change anything. But.....does this not get boring and become unfilling after a bit?
I believe that a man's perspective is quite different than a woman's - don't you think?
I like your thoughts Q...share. *wink*
I really do NOT understand why a man would desire to stay in a relationship that is void of life and happiness...why?
The ONLY reason I can possibly think of is...money and if he can find "fun" on the side then why change anything. But.....does this not get boring and become unfilling after a bit?
I believe that a man's perspective is quite different than a woman's - don't you think?
I like your thoughts Q...share. *wink*
I was watching tv the outher night, and I ask myself, I said self why are you just sitting here alone? So I got up took a shower, put on some fine rags and went down to the local bar. I sat at the bar having a drink, a woman came in and sat down at the outher end of the bar, I moved down next to her and gave her my line. Do I come in here often?
So, let's say we meet people and we feed them "lines"....heck, why not - they don't know the difference. Then, if someone bites...yeah, for us! Bite after bite and soon one of them will be "hooked" and then....CAUGHT! Wasn't even part of their plan...they just wanted some hanky panky and FELL! Hmmmm...
Jake, you are too funny....and yes, you do come in here often but not often enuf!
Jake, you are too funny....and yes, you do come in here often but not often enuf!
I love that joke when your old you can tell jokes like that an not worry about be correct.
Back to the serious stuff:
When marriage was established nobody expected people would live long enough to get fed up with the arrangement.
Like baby teeth; you get a brand new set as teenager, but nature didn?t see fit to give us the THIRD set - which most of us will now need desperately for our prolonged old age.
Just MY thought...
When marriage was established nobody expected people would live long enough to get fed up with the arrangement.
Like baby teeth; you get a brand new set as teenager, but nature didn?t see fit to give us the THIRD set - which most of us will now need desperately for our prolonged old age.
Just MY thought...
i dont think people look far enough into themselves or the people they choose. fear....people get scared, scared to be alone. they settle and surprise in five years they hate each other.
i dont understand people myself. my last two girlfriends wanted to marry me but i was the unsure one, not only for myself but i didnt think i was right for them either. they couldnt see any of what i was talking about, it fell on deaf ears. there are a lot of reasons other than love that people marry for. i think its sad, but what am i to do other than decide whats right for me.
the cheating thing...if there werent so many willing takers, there woild be alot less offers.
i dont understand people myself. my last two girlfriends wanted to marry me but i was the unsure one, not only for myself but i didnt think i was right for them either. they couldnt see any of what i was talking about, it fell on deaf ears. there are a lot of reasons other than love that people marry for. i think its sad, but what am i to do other than decide whats right for me.
the cheating thing...if there werent so many willing takers, there woild be alot less offers.
Ci7, I really like you...
wanna get married?lol
What gets me is that most women do not beleive your in love with them. I don't know how many I told that elevator operators and bellhops are like ship captians they can marry you for $ 20 dollard.
Maybe it's possible that we grow to comfortable and familiar with each other. It's hard to keep the majic alive, it takes special effort. My mom always did little things like leaving a note on the bathroom mirror that said "I love you have a good day sweetheart" Or leaving little heart notes in his pockets that he would find at random. She would always get his coffee cup and things laid out for him every night before bed. I've heard my dad say more than once that those things kept their love alive. He speaks fondly of the little suprises she left him. And said he always felt loved, never having to question it. Just a thought, it worked for them.
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He eventually looks at me, pauses and says.."you know what I have realized in life? is that morals and fun can not ever work." Gee, holy firecrackers Batman!!! He then tells me that I would look really good riding on the back of his motorcycle. nah, me thinks I shall pass on this "off road" adventure.
I may be made from a whole different ball of wax here but I sure do have A LOT of fun and I do have my morals....so, what is wrong with this picture?
BTW...not sure if anyone else notices but lately, there are more and more 30 yr. aged marriages in a funk. Why don't they just get out? Got Shout? that seems to get everything out!
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