Are Gemini's stubborn?

I was trying to teach my Gemini guy a lesson today and he may have switched it on me! lol.
Are Gemini men typically stubborn?

Silently..... 🙂

"Stubborn" is usually what I'm called by someone who can't get me to do what s/he wants (as though I should automatically do something just because that person thinks I should). It's not really a fair term.

Posted by forthelove
I was trying to teach my Gemini guy a lesson today and he may have switched it on me! lol.
Are Gemini men typically stubborn?

This sounds "smart', not "stubborn"...LOL! Yes, more details, please!

I don't think I'm stubborn at all, very flexible, if anything. I think he just called your bluff.

You guys have all made me laugh. I was trying to get him to do something that I want him to do.
So here's the thing. We have a thing about how quickly he returns my text messages and "checks in" during the day. So..... on Friday when we talked about it I had decided that I wasn't texting him anything that didn't require a response. So he started our usual good morning text and I ignored it on Saturday. Then he sent me another one during the day on Saturday and I ignored it as well. I did call him later but we weren't able to connect. He seems fine this AM but I really can't understand why he doesn't get my point on this. He is usually very flexible and attentive.

I should also add. He is 52 and has been divorced for about 7 years. I am one of the first serious girlfriends he has had since the divorce.

I still don't understand this lesson you're trying to teach him.

Ok, so he is usually attentive and flexible and now hes not? well, didn't you just ask him to not text as much?

Plus it seems like he got into a habit of texting you throughout the day. Habits are hard to break for Gemini's, even good, attentive, loving ones, give him a week or two, he will break out of it and comply, I'm sure of it.

He may get used to that freedom and text someone else, careful what you wish for with a Gemini. 😉

DeeGee, I got a little confused, too. I think she's saying that he doesn't respond quickly to her daily check-ins.

forthelove, I just want to make sure I understand what you've written: You were experimenting with responding to his texts in the same manner than he always responds to yours (so that he would see his annoying texting behavior mirrored in your actions and change his ways). Is that a correct interpretation?

Let me try and clarify. We do text but their are times when he responds to my message later then what I would like. As a Cancer if simply hurts my feelings and says to me "your message is not important enough to respond to now". We talked about it on Friday and he seemed to think my interpirtation was silly. So to teach him a lesson, I intentionally, did not respond to his messages all day Saturday. But then after a few drinks, I did send one and no response 🙂 We talked about it this morning and he said he was complying with my wishes becase I apparently said I wasn't texting him any more on Friday. I just wanted him to see how it feels when he text me and I don't respond.

He's a great guy but I have learned with him over the past few months that face to face communication is always better with him #1 and #2 he is very literal so I have to watch what I ask for sometimes 🙂and #3 I can not make him do anything he doesn't want to do - including responding to me when I want him too.

In the end, he always knows how to win me over with that Gemini charm but this is something we will have to work through.

Posted by Whimsy
"Stubborn" is usually what I'm called by someone who can't get me to do what s/he wants (as though I should automatically do something just because that person thinks I should). It's not really a fair term.

Thats him to a "T"!

Posted by forthelove
Let me try and clarify. We do text but their are times when he responds to my message later then what I would like. As a Cancer if simply hurts my feelings and says to me "your message is not important enough to respond to now". We talked about it on Friday and he seemed to think my interpirtation was silly. So to teach him a lesson, I intentionally, did not respond to his messages all day Saturday. But then after a few drinks, I did send one and no response 🙂 We talked about it this morning and he said he was complying with my wishes becase I apparently said I wasn't texting him any more on Friday. I just wanted him to see how it feels when he text me and I don't respond.

He's a great guy but I have learned with him over the past few months that face to face communication is always better with him #1 and #2 he is very literal so I have to watch what I ask for sometimes 🙂and #3 I can not make him do anything he doesn't want to do - including responding to me when I want him too.

In the end, he always knows how to win me over with that Gemini charm but this is something we will have to work through.

This is immature. If he is at that age and you're trying to control him like this ^^ then I think you've got another thing coming! Thats just how he is. Personally if I am into someone/have a crush/like them, I am pretty attentive and make sure that I get back to that person asap. If i am NOT so interested, then i wont respond straight away. Other things will pre occupy my mind and i'll forget to reply.

Dont nag him about it. That would be annoying. At least appreciate that he is actually getting back to you rather than completely ignoring your texts. Keep your texts and phone conversations short and sweet. Dont drag them on. Thats dreadful. Specially if we're not that into you. Try and see him face to face more than any other type of contact. Dont text him 24/7. Give him room to breathe. I think you might be suffocating him or be more into him than he is into you.

I may be reading too much into it...

Laters. lol

Also, NEVER try and 'manipulate' a Gemini into doing something you want them to do.

Perhaps suggest it, discuss it and let the Gemini know how it makes you feel. We're open to discussion and we like people being upfront with us (even if it hurts our feelings) than playing games/beating around the bush or trying to manipulate. We can generally see right through that.

Forcing us or 'tricking' us/playing games to make us do something you want us to do may backfire when we realise what is going on and the motive behind it. If the gemini realises this (they're being manipulated/controlled), you might get more than you bargained for and the gemini will definately play your game and beat you at it OR will do a 360 turn and you might see their evil twin.

It may also result in him being turned off you.

Ok, now I get it....lol

Hell, I don't know, maybe its me, seems like there are more important things in life to worry about. Kind of trivial in the whole scheme of things.

Just be glad you have someone that cares for you and you him. Why sweat the small stuff? if it ain't broke,, you know the rest.

People worry about stupid shit these days.