In a nut shell, i am with this gemini girl, and i am a scorpio. She has a 2 yr old as well as a baby father who occasionally takes her though they have a mutual relationship for the kid. (it doesn't seem to be much of an issue unless i start thinking too much) When we have our up moments, we are up in the sky, oh so high, but when we are not - the disconnection is beyond belief. I hate it, its like straight silence. We will have like 2 week runs, sometimes 3 or even 1, then there will be a few days where she is less attentive/persistent. Me being a scorpio, it causes my mind to go everywhere, and think all kinds of things. Some positive to that, I do have alot of patience, and i know sometimes you have to stay quiet. So i have learned to keep my cool and have good composure majority of the time. The whole disconnection just makes me have trust issues though. I mean is it just me or is it hard to believe that a relationship works like that? (The last girl i dated in college was a sag and she called me to hang out every day) With that being said, i have expressed to her this a few times and it seems to keep happening. Shell also make plans and go out without telling me and so forth ?? Can someone explain this? or relate? I always give my all, except when i feel i dont recieve it. I am all about equality though it is hard to find. If you treat me good, i'll treat you ten times that, but if you don't respect me, you get nothing - lucky if i even speak. Pretty much, you only get what you give. I have been very upfront and open about everything, and always have. The lack of consistency / and the seriousness is what is driving me nuts. I can be very lighthearted and playful knowing that this is going in the right direction, but when the lack of is there - i come to a halt. I come to a halt because i dont want to be in anything that is just going to get me by a few months or fill a void. That is not me nor my MO. I also come to a halt when the contact lightens. That throws me off. We will have minimal conversations sometimes due to both being hardheaded ...or at least that is what i am thinking. I usually know when she is playing games and call her out. Being a gemini though, she just denies it. So with that being said, doing the opposite actually worked - less attention, creating a gap - but i wasn't fully happy, because that is not why i am here. Im not trying to treetrunk around. Anyone with any suggestions?
