help with my gemini girlfriend?

we've been dating for a little less than two years.. I feel like I've become boring to her. What can I do to keep her interested in me?

Posted by wineaux
what has she done to make you feel this way? is she distant? aloof? not spending as much time at home? background please 🙂

Well we text a lot, but lately not so much. I became ill a few days ago and asked her to text me and she said she would but ended up replying a couple hours between her texts. The other day I called her out on it and she said she just needed space... I asked if it if was because I wasn't stimulating enough and that's why she needed her space and she said yes. Fast forward a few hours and we're taking a break for however long we're taking one and we're just friends atm. From my understanding it's because I'm not stimulating enough and she needs time to get herself together (school isn't going so well.)

Oh uh ,space? Not good,did you insult her at any time in the recent past?

Posted by cloudyminded

Posted by wineaux
what has she done to make you feel this way? is she distant? aloof? not spending as much time at home? background please 🙂

Well we text a lot, but lately not so much. I became ill a few days ago and asked her to text me and she said she would but ended up replying a couple hours between her texts. The other day I called her out on it and she said she just needed space... I asked if it if was because I wasn't stimulating enough and that's why she needed her space and she said yes. Fast forward a few hours and we're taking a break for however long we're taking one and we're just friends atm. From my understanding it's because I'm not stimulating enough and she needs time to get herself together (school isn't going so well.)

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Uh, dude! Take the skirt off!! Damn! You're answering your own question! People stop encouraging him! WTF!

~GM

Oh shit! Wait! Dude's a Pisces!!!! That just changed everything!!!

~GM

I'm a Brotha from Chicago, and even I've worn a Kilt! Ha!

~GM

I know GT! I'm just having a bit of fun as I sip on my Caipirinha!!

~GM

No! He's a Piscean honeybunch! So, he's just trying to figure out a way to attack her emotionally, so he can then become the victim. Trust me. Pisceans are sneaky like that. 😉

~GM

Touche' pussycat! I almost forgot who you Queens are! Ha! Tis true Milady! Gem men are the same way. I'm losing my touch? Or maybe I just need to refuel with my Air peeps! Hmmmm..... 😉

But you're right, GT. Pisceans talk a great emotional game! But, nada!!! Gems tend to fly around in circles only to realize there was never any land in the first place.

*Clicking my glass with GT with a devilish twinkle in my eye*

Well this isn't something new. A few days of you being sick would not have garnered this reaction from her. Take care of yourself first and don't communicate until you hear from her. If she hasn't appreciated you by now then she never will.

Posted by Mistery
Well this isn't something new. A few days of you being sick would not have garnered this reaction from her. Take care of yourself first and don't communicate until you hear from her. If she hasn't appreciated you by now then she never will.

Yeah I'm not communicating with her unless she talks to me, after all she's wanting a break. But why's she trying to see me? I'm not trying to do that hah

stop smoking pot

Awwwww Shucks!!!!

Sounds like you guys communicate way to much through text, as every other word is "i texted/we texted/she texted".. No wonder it gets boring, predictable and staid. Isn't it better to live life in the real, here & now, tactile physical world where you actually (sincerely) get to know and bond properly with someone? To find out if they are really right or wrong for you. My advice, strictly communicate face to face.. Everything else is lazy and plastic and what everyone else is doing, (try something novel).

I'm a Gemini who's been in this situation. Relationships can get too comfortable, predictable, and clingy, and a Gem girl might forget that what she has is pretty darn good and start looking around elsewhere. When a relationship gets too long, you get into some hard emotional stuff that isn't fun and it's easier to bail. Not that a Gem will do that if they feel the person they are with is the right one. We will actually put up with more than most.

I have never left a relationship strictly out of boredom (although it was tempting), but I HAVE left because the person was so clingy that I felt I couldn't breathe. Gems need some space to want their partner, and they also want someone who will challenge them and not always act like the Gem is "the shit". We already think we're the shit, and you're behaving as if we are is actually an invitation to ignore you. It's compelling when a man is nice but is a little hard to get, off-limits, or magnetic and aloof.

Pisceans are pretty good at spontaneity, so use it on her. Never let her figure you out all the way. For the love of God, don't let her finish your sentences. Geminis love surprises. Make it a habit of taking her places without telling her where you are going, and things like that. Stay inventive! And if she remains uninterested, don't think she'll stop coming around to tease you. She is going to want to believe that she could still have you if she wanted you. If you would like to drive her nuts, make it obvious that this is not the case.

Oops...I didn't write "the butter". Didn't know some words were off-limits, so use your imagination to insert the proper word in place of "butter"!

Yeah well she broke it off with me because didn't want to be in a relationship with me where she can't put in her all... she says she needs to be more independent and take some time to herself and i don't deserve to be treated like a bitch "because [i'm] not a little bitch at all and i don't deserve to be treated like one." honestly i don't mind..

Actually that's all they do is put themselves first. I mean, that is why he posted this thread isn't it? She was able to see the emotional selfishness.

"But it's good practice for the next Gem who'll fall for your mysterious dreaminess, your endless compassion and your endearing gentleness (just practice putting yourself first sometimes)"

That's the trap. None of it is true, believe me. It's a ploy to lure people in so they can feed.

Are you crazy—

Nope, not trapped at all! HaHaha! Can you imagined ME being trapped? Wow! That's would bode not so good for the trapper! But, I have watch MANY people (especially Cancers) fall for that trap. Sucks the energy from people, except Gemini's. It's weird I know.

He didn't get dumped. He put himself in that position by being emotionally selfish. Sorry, not being mean, but it's true. What woman wants a man the wears a skirt? Geez!

And don't go cocking that thing at me, I'll cock back!! HaHaHa!!

Posted by GeminiMind
Nope, not trapped at all! HaHaha! Can you imagined ME being trapped? Wow! That's would bode not so good for the trapper! But, I have watch MANY people (especially Cancers) fall for that trap. Sucks the energy from people, except Gemini's. It's weird I know.

He didn't get dumped. He put himself in that position by being emotionally selfish. Sorry, not being mean, but it's true. What woman wants a man the wears a skirt? Geez!

And don't go cocking that thing at me, I'll cock back!! HaHaHa!!

you're fucking gay dude

No, I'm not. And don't make it personal, dude. You're whining about some girl that you came off to as weak and you're calling me gay? C'mon! You can always tell if you speak the truth to a Pisces because they get upset rather than to explain why it isn't true. But yet, they don't. I could teach you something about yourself son, but would you really listen? I still have love for you though! 🙂

Posted by GeminiMind
No, I'm not. And don't make it personal, dude. You're whining about some girl that you came off to as weak and you're calling me gay? C'mon! You can always tell if you speak the truth to a Pisces because they get upset rather than to explain why it isn't true. But yet, they don't. I could teach you something about yourself son, but would you really listen? I still have love for you though! 🙂

No I'm just tired of reading what you have to say about Pisces people. Thus, I do not wish to explain to you why it's not true and reread the last few posts and you'll see you have misread. And since you're so prejudiced against all Pisces, lemme just remind you that Pisces are represented by Neptune which "Neptune's symbol in astrology is the cross of matter piercing the crescent of personality, setting it free to manifest at a higher level than personal ego." Having to feel higher than your Pisces girlfriend just shows you are concerned with your ego and that is very emotionally selfish.

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Posted by cloudyminded
Yeah well she broke it off with me because didn't want to be in a relationship with me where she can't put in her all... she says she needs to be more independent and take some time to herself and i don't deserve to be treated like a bitch "because [i'm] not a little bitch at all and i don't deserve to be treated like one." honestly i don't mind..

cut your losses and look ahead. All you can do is learn from this experience.

There's lots of women out there, you'll find another one.

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Thank you!!!! I'm not going to blow sunshine up his ass! Deal with your loss and use your brain and not your heart. Some women like that shit. Gemini women hate a weak man. That's why Gemini men usually end up with Aries woman, cuz those are some bad ass warrior bitches!! Me and my ex-wife can still get together, hustle on the pool table and kick the shit out of everybody in a bar while back to back!! HaHaHaHa!!

~GM

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Posted by GeminiMind
No, I'm not. And don't make it personal, dude. You're whining about some girl that you came off to as weak and you're calling me gay? C'mon! You can always tell if you speak the truth to a Pisces because they get upset rather than to explain why it isn't true. But yet, they don't. I could teach you something about yourself son, but would you really listen? I still have love for you though! 🙂

No I'm just tired of reading what you have to say about Pisces people. Thus, I do not wish to explain to you why it's not true and reread the last few posts and you'll see you have misread. And since you're so prejudiced against all Pisces, lemme just remind you that Pisces are represented by Neptune which "Neptune's symbol in astrology is the cross of matter piercing the crescent of personality, setting it free to manifest at a higher level than personal ego." Having to feel higher than your Pisces girlfriend just shows you are concerned with your ego and that is very emotionally selfish.

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I've been with a Pisces woman for 4 years and she agrees with everything I said. So, since I have to spell it out for you.....It's a generalization, not an exact science. But, you are proving my point, little do you know. Listening is a skill, acquire it.

~GM

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Posted by cloudyminded

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No, I'm not. And don't make it personal, dude. You're whining about some girl that you came off to as weak and you're calling me gay? C'mon! You can always tell if you speak the truth to a Pisces because they get upset rather than to explain why it isn't true. But yet, they don't. I could teach you something about yourself son, but would you really listen? I still have love for you though! 🙂

No I'm just tired of reading what you have to say about Pisces people. Thus, I do not wish to explain to you why it's not true and reread the last few posts and you'll see you have misread. And since you're so prejudiced against all Pisces, lemme just remind you that Pisces are represented by Neptune which "Neptune's symbol in astrology is the cross of matter piercing the crescent of personality, setting it free to manifest at a higher level than personal ego." Having to feel higher than your Pisces girlfriend just shows you are concerned with your ego and that is very emotionally selfish.

I've been with a Pisces woman for 4 years and she agrees with everything I said. So, since I have to spell it out for you.....It's a generalization, not an exact science. But, you are proving my point, little do you know. Listening is a skill, acquire it.

~GM

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Whatever you say my friend

Let me just say, I purport to know nothing, and I'm damn proud of it! I'm a student of this game called life, so it you think it's "ego", so what. Who doesn't have an ego. Mine is just a true ego, not a false one, can you dig it? Alas, you're just proving my point. The beauty of the Fish Gemini combo is that we're suppose to learn from each other. But, it's ALWAYS

~GM

Posted by GeminiMind
Let me just say, I purport to know nothing, and I'm damn proud of it! I'm a student of this game called life, so it you think it's "ego", so what. Who doesn't have an ego. Mine is just a true ego, not a false one, can you dig it? Alas, you're just proving my point. The beauty of the Fish Gemini combo is that we're suppose to learn from each other. But, it's ALWAYS

~GM

To be honest I don't know what your point is. But whatever it is I probably already know it and have considered it. I'm a player in this game too and I have learned a lot of things. I've seen some crazy shit in this relationship, some reactions I never expected. Some were good and some were horrific, all of the emotional problems I caused her made me retreat because I didn't want to fuck things up. But alas I did and I've learned, and that's okay, I'm still young and there's plenty of fish in the sea.

Cloudy, I'm not trying to hurt your soft ass. I'm just giving it to you straight. You asked, well here it is! I'm not a woman on this thing. So, I'm going to talk to you like an adult male.

Let me just say, I purport to know nothing, and I'm damn proud of it! I'm a student of this game called life, so if you think it's "ego", so what. Who doesn't have an ego. Mine is just a true ego, not a false one, can you dig it? Alas, you're just proving my point. The beauty of the Fish Gemini combo is that we're suppose to learn from each other. But, it's ALWAYS the Pisces rigidity, and lack of exercising their mutable powers that kills it every time. Then you guys wonder why you turn 90 never finding what you would call "true" love. Sad actually. However, my Pisces has an Aqua moon so she gets this, because she knows there's actually something to GET. From some of the posts that I've read, she runs circles around most of these Pisces here. So, I'm kind of fortunate in that way.

See, a chart is much like a house, which has many rooms. Some people here only speak Sun. I try to learn every planetary language in mine. Ego, uh......no! I have yet to meet a Gemini with a huge ego. We just know what we know, deal with it. See, if it were you, it would be YOUR ego, and it's how YOU would handle things. It's typical Pisces projection my friend, and soooo fucking boring. I can speak water, earth, wind, and fire. Can you?

~GM

Speaking of Earth, Wind & Fire! Hey I'm a Gemini sun, Taurus moon, with Leo rising! That makes me Earth, Wind, & Fire!! Hell yeah!

Yo, GT! You've got me at a disadvantage! You know my ugly mug, yet I don't know yours! Ha!

GeminiMind, you don't know me in the slightest. You don't know my mutable qualities so I'd prefer you to not talk about something you don't know, thank you. Gemtaur are you talking about me? Please excuse my absence, I just saw my ex to smoke a cig and talk about things. She says there's a 99% chance she's gonna want me back lawl

Uh huh.

Posted by GeminiMind
Uh huh.

it's no surprise you've got a leo ascendant

Posted by gemtaur
Ugh!!! Fishy. Come on. Where is your head— Don't be a doormat. You're doing the same thing sweetie.

You should've told her: Who says I'm going to take you back? There's a 99% chance I won't.

And I hope you weren't the one who brought this subject up with her. Ahem, ahem.

All this Gem talky talky for naught. I give up.

The two of you can dance with each other.

I'll pass, he'll probably step on my feet due to his cocky nature. And no trust me I didn't bring it up. I wouldn't even give her a kiss goodbye.. currently her status on facebook is "you wouldn't even kiss me goodbye"
I told her I wouldn't take her back. believe me. i'm done with this on off on off shit

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Posted by GeminiMind
Uh huh.

it's no surprise you've got a leo ascendant

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Rising signs just show how you are "PERCEIVED". It has nothing to do with personality, at all. Just for future reference.

Posted by gemtaur
Ugh!!! Fishy. Come on. Where is your head— Don't be a doormat. You're doing the same thing sweetie.

You should've told her: Who says I'm going to take you back? There's a 99% chance I won't.

And I hope you weren't the one who brought this subject up with her. Ahem, ahem.

All this Gem talky talky for naught. I give up.

The two of you can dance with each other.

LOL!!!

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Posted by GeminiMind
Uh huh.

it's no surprise you've got a leo ascendant

Rising signs just show how you are "PERCEIVED". It has nothing to do with personality, at all. Just for future reference.

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Yeah and I perceive you as a schmuck off a baby. Like I said I'm not surprised.

Ah, yes! We FINALLY get the TRUE you! I'm laughing my ass off at the predictability! Wow! Some of you fish are sooooo sloooooow....But, there are two types of fish I guess. When you resort to name calling, you lose points my friend. Again, thank you for proving my point.

~GM

Aww I lost points with you?

Yup! When you put the skirt on, and decided to keep it on! LOL!

Posted by GeminiMind
Yup! When you put the skirt on, and decided to keep it on! LOL!

It was never on, schmuck. Although you were never on either eh? Hah

Huh— Well, as long as you understood that shit, I guess!

Posted by GeminiMind
Huh— Well, as long as you understood that shit, I guess!

Oh, I forgot to do you the kind favor you did me, which was to define something I didn't know!
A schmuck is a foreskin. Just saying so you can understand the joke.

Gemtaur, last time I broke up with her she swooped me up in her car and cried to me for an hour, begging me to take her back. What was I supposed to do in that situation?

After a while fish start to smell after they've been dead for a while. He's just exposing the real reason why the Gem girl wanted nothing to do with him. Not realizing that I'm setting him up to do so. Poor little guy. 😢

Posted by GeminiMind
After a while fish start to smell after they've been dead for a while. He's just exposing the real reason why the Gem girl wanted nothing to do with him. Not realizing that I'm setting him up to do so. Poor little guy. 😢

Alright just get the fuck off my thread then.

She's probably just using him for the rebound, because he's weak. Young people today play more stupid games.

pisces 😢 im aquarius dated one..they are very very very difficult to handle...that i need space. in terms of not having their own ..own..how should i word this? their own "interesting" character to bring to the table. Too sensitive as well...also too nice (niceness has no virtue)

cloudyminded: i say you need to break it off with her...shes bringing you along a ride as she is sorting out her own confusion hence her coming in and out back and forth. Ask yourself this:

do you really think that is what you want?