Gemini ex keeps texting me...don't get wat he want

I was dating this Gemini guy (27 years old) whose definitely not a typical Gemini coz his moon and Mars are in Pisces and sun and Venus in Gemini so he's quite a sensitive Nd emotional guy... I'm an aqua ( 24 years old...with Aqua sun and moon and Pisces Venus and Mars)

So we broke up coz our relationship would turn into an LDR ( I broke up) and it was on good terms..but then I found out I was pregnant and I wanted to keep the baby and thought I'd let him know ( I didn't want to get together with him but thought he should know and he was super scared and said he wasn't ready for it and I should go for a termination)...I thought about it a lot and I'm doing my MBA and decided to not keep the baby coz I couldn't offer him/her anything....

I wrote to him and told him that I aborted and he didn't say anything...and I'm a very positive person and although I was sad and broken I wanted him to not worry and said to not blame himself etc....he didn't call..write...nothing for 2 weeks...then since yesterday he has hijacked my phone with his texts...he didnt say he's sorry I had to go through that nothing...but asks me if I still love him...?.....then he asked if I thought he was really a very bad person'? And do I hate him etc....

So what's up with this guy..I haven't answered him...I don't hate him coz he was my best friend ...but I find him selfish for thinking about himself and his feelings...I don't want to answer him but part of me feels sorry for him coz it seems like he's feeling really guilty...or maybe not...

What do you guys think? should I ignore him?

I'm not playing any mind games at all...I just don't know what to say coz he left me all alone...I hate sympathy but he could have empathized coz it's not easy....he kept forcing me to go for termination and he couldn't sleep and was so depressed that it did affect me.... I didn't want him to be depressed..

I've always been there for him..always lifted him up and I'm not a player at all...but I'm just still hurt...I don't trust him...

And FYI we used contraception but it didn't work...no contraception is 100% safe....we were both very careful but shit did happen and it has changed me completely....the worst experience of my life but this is no ones prob I know coz those who haven't been through it have no iffin clue....

He wanted the abortion and he got it. You don't owe him anything. Let him go. Accomplice to a crime is not the best fundament for future friendship.

Thanks everyone for your input... Well, I'm definitely moving on that's for sure...and I'm not going to answer him coz I think that's for the best...I'm not blaming him for what happened but what I don't get is how can he just disappear for 2 weeks without even saying he felt sorry I had to go through it..a lil empathy would have helped me a lot....I had all my friends and family there for me but he was my best friend and I I loved him the most but it seemed like he didn't care..I know he can't handle emotional situations but still a text would have been comforting...

So the damage is done and I just can't be super cool about it anymore....I mean heck I even sent him a very positive text after the procedure that I was fine and he shouldn't feel guilty or bad coz I ain't blaming him...but no reply and So I didn't bother to write again...I never chase men...


I think now he's just feeling guilty and is a lil lonely ( I was his best friend and lover....it's like we had this secret understanding of hearts until he went MIA for 2 weeks after the abortion)...,

I guess it's time he grows up...he's 27 but acts like a kid at times and depends on me (more so emotionally..I was kinda like his cheerleader) a lot...

I really care about him and really wish him the best and really hope he finds a decent girl...but I just cant be his friend anymore coz the damage is done....and I don't want to be a part of his life anymore...you can't hurt an aqua and disappear for 2 weeks and then come back and act as if nothing happened....this is immature behavior....and I don't like immature and irresponsible people....

I agree with Busyeyes, you should at the least contact him. It takes two to tango and you both had to ultimately make a decision. Did you happen to consider that maybe his feelings are a reflection of yours? He could be having second thoughts that it was a bad decision and to get through it, he needs your support in a way. An abortion is a tough decision for anyone to make. He likely stepped back because yes, though he is guarding his feelings, maybe he really feels bad about the whole thing. I know you said in your last post you were done, but you should remember that sometimes these things can bring people closer because through it, maybe he can better reflect how he really feels. It sounds on both sides from what you describe that there are unfinished feelings left open. Either way no matter what you ultimately decide to do, I think you should at least talk it out in a mature way. You need to place the ball in his court and if he is trying to come to you, be willing to discuss it. No need to act like a teenage girl in distress..

@ Lust...thanks for your comments and support...you really get me....

@ gemguyaz34 and Busyeyes...I strongly feel I don't owe him anything..he chose not to care and choices have consequences....I just can't talk to him again.....Honestly, I have no hard feelings towards him...I have forgiven him (guess that's my Pisces Venus and Mars) but I just don't want unreliable people in my life that I can't count on....These past 2 weeks have made me wiser...I thought a lot..cried my eyes out ( I've always been this optimistic happy go lucky gal and I never share my feelings or emotions with anyone so everyone thought I was fine right away after it all ended but I wasn't...however, now I am and I'm definitely stronger and wiser now....)

If I ever see him again, I'll be nice and diplomatic but that's it...thank you so much everyone for your comments coz it made everything so much clearer...

Posted by gemguyaz34
Did you happen to consider that maybe his feelings are a reflection of yours?

I doubt it coz seriously not even once did he ask how I am...all his texts are about him...He says '....HE misses me coz HE felt special when we did this or that...he asked if I still love HIM? .... Do I hate HIM now?....seriously....it seems like it's all about him and his feelings coz he's hurt...lonely and heartbroken.....


And im definitely not acting like a teenager gal in distress...I have good intuition and I think I will save myself a lot of heartache in the future if I let him go....he's unreliable and immature...I wish he wasn't but he is...sometimes in life we have to go through certain experiences that make us wiser...I've grown a lot these past couple of weeks...I had to learn the hard way though...

Posted by busyeyes88

Posted by gemguyaz34
I agree with Busyeyes, you should at the least contact him. It takes two to tango and you both had to ultimately make a decision. Did you happen to consider that maybe his feelings are a reflection of yours? He could be having second thoughts that it was a bad decision and to get through it, he needs your support in a way. An abortion is a tough decision for anyone to make. He likely stepped back because yes, though he is guarding his feelings, maybe he really feels bad about the whole thing. I know you said in your last post you were done, but you should remember that sometimes these things can bring people closer because through it, maybe he can better reflect how he really feels. It sounds on both sides from what you describe that there are unfinished feelings left open. Either way no matter what you ultimately decide to do, I think you should at least talk it out in a mature way. You need to place the ball in his court and if he is trying to come to you, be willing to discuss it. No need to act like a teenage girl in distress..

I agree with you here. But seems as though the OP seeks revenge for an act she was also responsible for. Men sometimes react differently at times like this but the OP seems to be happier to let this hurt continue by not giving the ex a chance to find closures. From her actions it seems had she not aborted the baby would have been brought up in a cold dysfunctional, loveless relationship anyway. Afterall love is not about blame and forgiveness is being able to overcome your own self pity and see it from the point of view of the person who may have harmed you in the first place.

They were BOTH to blame and the OP is indeed behaving like a teenager...

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Busyeyes....I totally disagree with you but we're all entitled to our own opinions...You don't know me and trust me had I kept the baby it would have been the happiest lil thing walking on this planet ( I wouldn't have been a pathetic mom who'd talk bad about my ex with the kid...it's just not me..I'd make sure he/she would love and respect his/her dad...)...

When I found out I was Prego I was so excited and was happy even being a single mom but my ex kept telling me to not keep it and it was just a stupid de

Just FYI...I never had the intention of getting back together with my ex ( remember I broke up with him before I knew I was pregnant) nor did I ever assume he wanted us to get back together until last night when he texted me and said he really misses 'us' and wants me to give 'us' another chance...so that was a surprise for me too....

And I'm deff not punishing him and he knows that...he knows I've always considered his feelings and when he told me he was really scared and wouldn't be able to sleep for the rest of his life if I kept the baby...I told him not to worry but I need time to think about it coz it was hard... trust me he knows I was there for him more than he was there for me during that time....

You're right I could have kept the baby and I regret not keeping it but at that time I felt sorry for it coz it seemed like his dad didn't want him/her and I just didn't want to force my ex to father a kid when he clearly said he's not ready coz that would have just made him even more miserable ( now don't assume I'm justifying my actions coz I'm not..I did what I thought was best for the kid)....,.financially I would have been able to support the baby because I have a decent job and am doing my MBA but I've always believed as a parent you have to not only provide for your kids financially but have to be there for them emotionally..physically and spiritually...you have to make good people....And I thought I have no right to ruin someone's life?..

And this is not a silent revenge...I just want to turn the page and move on and so should he..I told him already a million times that I'm not blaming him for what happened and I did that even after the abortion but I just don't want to keep repeating myself .....I don't feel like talking about my feelings and telling him I don't want to give 'us' another chance....I mean jeez isn't it clear I don't want...

Why, exactly, are you playing stupid? You may fool many, but, not me ... I see right through you.


You sound very immature ... in fact, I wouldn't be surprised in the least if there wasn't a baby, at all, and this was all a guise to try and force him into catering to your insecurities.

It looks like you are very resentful that he isn't supporting your feelings in the way you expect him to, and it's doubtful that he was all loving, until this, and suddenly he turned into an ass. Naaa, people aren't going to buy that bullshit. You must be really young.

You've always felt like you weren't his Princess, right? And rather than be an adult and address your issues with him, you bailed on him. And I'd be willing to wager that the "baby" happened because you couldn't handle the fact that he didn't come running to you. You were trying to get him to chase you down by bombarding you with sentiments and that didn't happen, so a baby suddenly did.

If it doesn't make sense, then it's false. And even more .....

The title of the thread, beats all ...... it acts as if you're surprised that he's even contacting you, as if you don't get what he wants .... when the reality is that you are creating situations, to manipulate him into carrying your feelings for you.

When a person reads this, they realize that the reason why he's contacting you isn't a mystery .... so why are you trying to desperately to make us believe that you have no part in the creation of his reactions to you?

@ P-Angel....I'm speechless @ your clairvoyance...you really are so talented and gifted to see through people and come up with the coolest interpretations.....ok..I was just being sarcastic...maybe what you said is what you might have once done in your life when you were younger but I'm not so pathetic as you make me to be nor would I ever stoop so low....

You know what....I can't believe your 56 and still bad at judging people...you shouldn't even be here to give advices because your intrepratations are waaaaaay off.....I'm 24 and proud to say that I definitely have better people skills and am better at seeing through people than you..that's for sure...seriously lady......get a life...I'm an aqua and we are super independent people...I would never try to tie a man down by getting Prego...I'm not needy at all.....

@ Lust...girly I tried to ignore him but last night he called me twice and then he texted me and I realized he won't stop until I answer him so I just answered his text...And it didn't stop there coz he kept texting and I answered back...like always I said I ain't holding a grudge and don't hate him coz he asked again if I hate him....and then he said he did me wrong..he loves me....misses me etc....

I told him I want to move on and leave the past behind and he said he can understand but he's been so sad for the past couple of days and doesn't know how to fix what he's done...I told him he doesn't have to...coz its history and I don't dwell in the past...I told him that happiness is a choice and we have our whole lives before us so we gotta move forward with a positive attitude and things will work out..and added 'good luck'......then I put my phone on silent coz he just wouldn't stop texting....this morning I woke up with texts from him saying he misses me and I'm the one.....


i have a soft spot for this man in my heart and I'm sure I'll always have it but move on we have to....

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@ Lust..my ex is also born in June..( June 6th to be precise )....And I agree with you... I've seen that most Gemini men often chase other air signs like Aquas and Libra and just can't let go...another Gemini I dated was also a June Gemini and he wouldn't stop chasing me around either...( never dated a May Gemini so can't say....I thought only Aries/ Taurus men were aggressive who just don't give up but geminis are adamant and just don't quit like ever....


@ Binota...thanks for your good wishes...