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Undeniable signs a Gemini Guy is really into you??
How to Tell if a Gemini Man Really Likes You
Many people say a Gemini man shows interest through constant talking, teasing, and curiosity about you. But in real situations, the confusing part is the inconsistency, where he can be very engaged one day and distant the next. Some see this as testing or losing interest, while others think it is just how he processes feelings. The pattern often feels like strong attention mixed with unpredictability.
Agree with MissGemmi,
Flirting + Consistent Communication = Im into you.
Gems are prone to crushes that last 1-3 months. Don't get too comfy during this phase, because it might burn out and Gem will disappear once the fire is gone. For the long haul, we're actually kind of particular with who we end up with.
Hmm all very helpful, thank u 🙂 so if a Gem when he does talk with you kind of studies you and your answers what does that mean? Like I feel I'm being interrogated almost and then it's regular banter. This has been going on for years. When you say consistent... Meaning the Gem is always maintaining contact? Or they are just consistent in general with responding?
When im into someone i can ask lots of questions and i enjoy analyzing their answers, the main reason is to get to know that someone and see if he is really interesting...
Yes, always maintaining contact... i mean like chat almost everyday even if its only small talks.
I cant be without knowing about the person i like for long. Contact and communication is important for me.
Yet, not sure about when you say 'its going on for years'.... i cant stay flirting and stuff for long with someone i like, if nothing is happening ill try to make it happen and if it still doesnt then i move on.
Thanks for the reply Tete 🙂 it is a complicated situation with me and my Gem buddy...he can not be in relationship right now so I feel he has me on back burner. I prob initiate more conversation but he promptly replys to every one of them. What are your thoughts on that... Just curious 😄
Any push and pull games is they are not into you.
Posted by Moonbutter
Thanks for the reply Tete 🙂 it is a complicated situation with me and my Gem buddy...he can not be in relationship right now so I feel he has me on back burner. I prob initiate more conversation but he promptly replys to every one of them. What are your thoughts on that... Just curious 😄
Oh well...
The reason why he can not be in a relationship right now could be important to explain his behavior.
How often is he the one who starts the conversations?
If he replays promptly is a good sign, why dont you make this little experiment?
Dont contact him, and see how long it takes him to contact you.
When he does, see if he say something about you not contacting him.
I don't start conversation with the one i like, and i take a little to reply, but i do it on purpose, and also im a girl :-p.
But if he doesnt reach me, i will go like "Hey there stranger" hahahahaha (my way to complain).
Good advice Tete 🙂 yes, in the past he would reach out to me asking if I forgot him, haha... Now it's more like he will contact with something relevant like, someone was talking about this made me think if you...and the convo usually goes on for awhile, sometimes hours...typical Gem i suppose, lol. I have Mars Gemini so I can relate on some level.
Octoberbaby...I think the push pull stems more from his complicated situation. I truly believe he would at least try to be with me at some point if it were possible.. But I think that's where the head vs heart comes into play..he has venus in cancer so he's conflicted lol
Posted by Moonbutter
Good advice Tete 🙂 yes, in the past he would reach out to me asking if I forgot him, haha... Now it's more like he will contact with something relevant like, someone was talking about this made me think if you...and the convo usually goes on for awhile, sometimes hours...typical Gem i suppose, lol. I have Mars Gemini so I can relate on some level.
Thank you Moonbutter :-)
I do that with the one i like, tell him that something reminded me of him... good sign as well.
hours of chatting, yup, typical gem... but only if its interesting stuff...
Although, let me ask you... is it worth it (for you) to stay around long enough to see if something happens?
Wont you be missing out other available guys?
Have he told you that he wants to be with you but cant?
Welcome Tete 🙂 I knew from the get go he didnt want a GF and in the years I've known him he never had one... He just sends strange, mixed msgs to me that make me think he wants to be with me in the future. I'm not waiting on him though... I'm just keeping the door slightly ajar. Moon in Sagittarius keeps me open to possibilities lol
Posted by Moonbutter
Octoberbaby...I think the push pull stems more from his complicated situation. I truly believe he would at least try to be with me at some point if it were possible.. But I think that's where the head vs heart comes into play..he has venus in cancer so he's conflicted lol
True. But it's all in what you are willing to put up with and if you feel like he deserves your patience.
Posted by Moonbutter
Welcome Tete 🙂 I knew from the get go he didnt want a GF and in the years I've known him he never had one... He just sends strange, mixed msgs to me that make me think he wants to be with me in the future. I'm not waiting on him though... I'm just keeping the door slightly ajar. Moon in Sagittarius keeps me open to possibilities lol
Bingo he doesn't want a gf and don't think that YOU can change his mind you will be wasting your time trying to pursue a emotionally unavailable man. When a guy wants to be with you he will do anything to keep you...don't get your hopes high date other people.
Oh I know, I'm not waiting on him... I've been dating the whole time. He just makes me feel bad sometimes he seems to get jealous but I'm kinda over that now.
Posted by Moonbutter
Welcome Tete 🙂 I knew from the get go he didnt want a GF and in the years I've known him he never had one... He just sends strange, mixed msgs to me that make me think he wants to be with me in the future. I'm not waiting on him though... I'm just keeping the door slightly ajar. Moon in Sagittarius keeps me open to possibilities lol
I know how it is like to be open to possibilities, I myself am doing the same at the moment with a Leo... well, not sure if there is a possibility there... oh well, my situation is complicated.
But hey, we are fun as friends so you can have that with him. So far, all you have mentioned are things that i do with guys that i like... You said that he get jealous? i only do that with the people i like, even with friends.
Keep on dating and lets see how he manage to get over his situation and reach you :-)
Thanks Tete. 🙂 I just generally care for the guy in a way I never cared for anyone...I just want him in my life even just as friend. Without him in my life there's an unexplainable emptiness so in some way I kinda think we're soul mates. Btw I have venus in Leo I dunno if that could be helpful but I can try if u like 🙂
Oh yeah ScorpioStarGazer... Sounds good but with Gemini just remember they like a challenge so don't let him know he has you in his gem clutches haha...my last 2 serious relationships have been with Geminis(still with my Gem) Scorpios are intense and Gemini is lighthearted so just keep things fun and light and stay in control of the date. Gems be tricky lol. Do u have any Gemini in your chart? Sagittarius or aqua?
Looks like you two, Moonbutter and ScorpioStarGazer are doing good with your Gem guys.
We like the mystery and the chase, so make sure to not show us everything right away.
Always be yourself, we can tell when you are just being what 'we want you to be'.
Avoid tantrums and childish drama.
don't be clingy.
As for me Moonbutter, well... its a long story and a bit embarrassing... i will send you a message with it.
Check your inbox :-)
Ok I'll look for it Tete 🙂
Posted by Moonbutter
Ok I'll look for it Tete 🙂
It says that the message was sent. yet isnt in my 'sent message'.
Let me know is you got it.
Cheers!
Posted by MissGemmi
Flirting without consistent communication, equals just being friendly.Flirting with consistent communication, equals (for me)I'm into you.
For some...it's the other way around. But that's why we are called Gemini 🙂
Geminis always stay friendly (unless we sense you are 'dangerous' with a hidden agenda).
I agree, until you do something hurtful then....distance and lots of it. When I figure it out then I might come back if I still care in some way or other.
@ Gemeliorist, I agree I saw it for myself with my gem guy friend... I said something jokingly and it really hurt him he cut contact for almost a year and then popped up outta the blue again. Guess I mean something to him in some way that he wants me in his life or I guess that's just Gemini? I know for me I can cut people out that I don't have a deeper connection with.
Tete...I didn't get the msg yet 😢
Agree with MissGemmi and octoberbaby91
Flirting + Consistent Communication = Im into you.
Any push or pull games = no into you.
Right! Unless the Gemini is adamant about not wanting a relationship with anyone and doesn't know what to do with you because you are More then a friend but can't be "that more" at the present time. Then it becomes complicated and confusing IMO. What do u think?
@SSG you can bet he's researching it and will test you. Not to put you down or anything like that though. 🙂
@MB he could have been waiting for you to contact him, but yeah him contacting you likely shows that he liked something about you and probably felt safe enough to contact you again. Most often, even if not in contact, the person we feel something for is rarely far from our minds.
I've had that experience with someone that I've cared for and the timing was off as was the communication. It's really important to try and communicate with that person even if you don't get an immediate response. Just try to put it out there without losing yourself (common sense). 🙂
Maybe u are right Gemeliorist that he was waiting for me to contact him but I didn't out of respect for him because he told me I had hurt his feelings and would be best not to talk anymore. I thought I had lost him out of my life forever until he contacted me. I guess I just wish I knew what I mean to him...:/
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Hey Gems, I think there is a huge misconception between Geminis just being friendly, and Gems who are flirting with actual feelings. Sooo I'm coming to you to please help clear this up for the rest of us mere Mortals, lol.