Gemini friend&coworker not talking to me

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Hey Gems.....Recently my Gemini male friend has been MIA and I think it's because he took a few of our conversations seriously that we always play and joke about. I am seriously considering quitting this job just so I don't have to see him again or any of his friends that knows me. I do have another job anyway that I like better. We work the same schedule and would we always have lunch together at work. We do work in different departments so he would always text and see when I was ready to go to lunch. Today...nothing. We have not talked since Thursday. He use to text me everyday just to say Hi beautiful, your the most gorgeous woman I know, and that he was happy to get to know more about me and he's not going anywhere no time soon. He would always joke and say in a few years we we be together with a family after he completes his second degree. I would say sure of course. We joked again about this Wednesday and I said well, you have three years to practice being a good partner, having sex (because he's only sleep with like two ppl), and being a good father. Since then he stopped texting and calling. I don't understand. We always joked and played around about this now he's left. By Friday I stopped texting him to see if he was ok because I started to get worried something happened to him. Today I texted him "Hi" from my friend's phone to see if he changed his number and he texted back in 3 seconds with "who is this?". After the text back I erased his number. I'm feeling stupid and somewhat embarrassed. We were so close and now nothing.
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@Capricornmoon
When he took me out to breakfast one day, he talked the whole time about some girl he was trying to hookup with that he has been friends with forever. Even though I was a little jealous of him talking about her, I did not show him and just continued with our conversation. I never tried to get any compliments or sweet talk out of him because I never cared what we talked about, I was just happy to be in his presence. Our friendship was/is so strong, his ego should play no part in it.
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@Exxtasyx
Thank youŠ I hope he does come around. I keep a very small circle of friends because when I care I sometimes care too much maybe. I have another good friend that's from Nepal and when I didn't hear from her, I called around, checked around with her family and friends, went by her apartment and bam, I find out she was in the earthquake when it happened. But as soon as she got back her family told her I was concerned and she got in touch with me right away. So I take my friendships very seriously.
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@Exxtasyx
Thank youŠ I hope he does come around. I keep a very small circle of friends because when I care I sometimes care too much maybe. I have another good friend that's from Nepal and when I didn't hear from her, I called around, checked around with her family and friends, went by her apartment and bam, I find out she was in the earthquake when it happened. But as soon as she got back her family told her I was concerned and she got
in touch with me right away. So I take my friendships very Yseriously.
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I had a friend from Nepal who was also in the Earthquake!! I know that is random to comment on, but he didn't reply for awhile as well. I was super worried, he ended up reaching out to me later because many the cell towers were destroyed there Yes, so you know where I'm coming from. I cried because I thought she was dead. The day I saw her I almost cried again. She lost so much weight and the story she told me about what she went through was heartbreaking.
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Posted by capricornmoon
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I need to learn that. I may need to try a Leo in that case. I love someone that is DIRECT. I'm not guessing or wanting to mind read how you feel about me. Friendship or relationship. Get straight to the point lol!
Try a Leo..or your fellow Cardinals, Cap, Cancer, Aries. A libra woman might be too nice for a Gem male. Scorpio women can be disgruntled bitches, lol., they're better equipped to give a Gem male a run for his money.
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I guess I will have to take it as a lost'
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Posted by littlemegabyte
Don't listen to the Gemini haters polluting this thread, he was not being deceptive. Listen to exxtasyx - he is a gemini - I am a gemini, his ego was bruised, maybe he is surprised by his strong feelings for you (appears to me that he has feelings for you), and he needs to step back and think about it. Gemini men are easy, as exxtasyx said, if you ignore him... he WILL come crawling back! Just give him some time.
I will. Can't help worrying about his well being though. I'm very patient and will just go about my biz....
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Posted by littlemegabyte
Don't listen to the Gemini haters polluting this thread, he was not being deceptive. Listen to exxtasyx - he is a gemini - I am a gemini, his ego was bruised, maybe he is surprised by his strong feelings for you (appears to me that he has feelings for you), and he needs to step back and think about it. Gemini men are easy, as exxtasyx said, if you ignore him... he WILL come crawling back! Just give him some time.
I couldn't agree more! His ego is bruised and he will eventually get over it. Just ignore him like mentioned above. He already knows you miss him so its just more reason for him to give you the silent treatment if you keep contacting him. Even though you are worried stop checking up on him. We tend to find that annoy...its like you're trying to keep tabs on us( I have a Libra friend that does this and it annoys me). As far as making up hypothetical situations to "test" you, I only do that when I really like someone and im trying to test the waters.
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Posted by littlemegabyte
Don't listen to the Gemini haters polluting this thread, he was not being deceptive. Listen to exxtasyx - he is a gemini - I am a gemini, his ego was bruised, maybe he is surprised by his strong feelings for you (appears to me that he has feelings for you), and he needs to step back and think about it. Gemini men are easy, as exxtasyx said, if you ignore him... he WILL come crawling back! Just give him some time.
I couldn't agree more! His ego is bruised and he will eventually get over it. Just ignore him like mentioned above. He already knows you miss him so its just more reason for him to give you the silent treatment if you keep contacting him. Even though you are worried stop checking up on him. We tend to find that annoy...its like you're trying to keep tabs on us( I have a Libra friend that does this and it annoys me). As far as making up hypothetical situations to "test" you, I only do that when I really like someone and im trying to test the waters.
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Thanks....I'm taking it all in. Us checking on ppl we care about is just how we are. Keeping tabs on someone, hell no. I've never once looked through a bf's phone or invaded their privacy. I will always show the ppl in my family and circle I care. It's when I don't they better get worried....
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6 Geminis - can be 6 almost completely different individuals - and same goes for any other sign. All 6 could be a bit child like (more or less) - and into playing games, but only 1 might be into playing other people and the other 5 might be more fond of actual games - like computer games, puzzle, and so on... Just an example.

In this particular case - it's possible that he was just being friendly with you and took you more as a good friend than a possible romantic partner (which is something - he only joked about). And if you gave him the impression that - you're serious about this... it's possible that - this possibility scared him, as in - he's not sure - if he's interested in you - in that way. The friendship you shared might have been legit - though, if you have a romantic interest with him - a relationship - you should make this clear (with words). The best way to find out what's in the mind of Gemini: simply - Ask him! ^^ And he might give you a detail answer about this.

What Capricornmoon said - could also be possible, if your Gem - has a Scorpio ASC and a Capricorn Moon. This type of Gemini - might indeed, be kinda cold and manipulative in his way of getting things and cause of the Capricorn moon - you'd need to babysit his feelings till he find you safe enough - to trust you. As the saying goes: we see others how we see ourselves - and with this combination (scorpio asc cap moon - though, this is just one of the plausible combos) - that Gem would fear the possibility of meeting another chancer.
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Well, i've been friends with women - who kept acting like we're just friends - but through our talks - with some of the things they said - they did give me reasons to believe that - they might have a romantic interest in me. It's just that - they weren't really sure (they seemed confused about their feelings - and what they really want). And, since i considered them good friends and couldn't foresee a romantic interest - i didn't feel good about the while situation... i was afraid i could really hurt their feelings - if we go further. So, falling apart from each-other seemed like the only option. Though - i talked about it (a mutual closure - some last talks), and my situation was a bit different in the sense that - she became more sensible prior to that conclusion - and started to show some pain - which even then, she refused to acknowledge. On the other hand - i've also been in friendships - which evolved into romantic interests - tough, we both expressed this mutual attraction - which was apparent from the beginning. I'm not in your shoes - so it's hard to say what's really going on. Just a opinion - from what you mentioned so far.

I am Gemini by the way (Mars conj Sun in Gemini - that is).
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Posted by KittenLaRouge
for a man than treats you like a joke, you are sure giving him a lot of power
We both joke with each other...I already have another job and wanted to quit the one we work at together anyway. This situation just kind of makes me want to speed up the process. That's what you do in a relationship and/or friendship, give and take it shouldn't be one sided. I'm not giving him power, what are u talking about??
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Hey Gems.....Recently my Gemini male friend has been MIA and I think it's because he took a few of our conversations seriously that we always play and joke about. I am seriously considering quitting this job just so I don't have to see him again or any of his friends that knows me. I do have another job anyway that I like better. We work the same schedule and would we always have lunch together at work. We do work in different departments so he would always text and see when I was ready to go to lunch. Today...nothing. We have not talked since Thursday. He use to text me everyday just to say Hi beautiful, your the most gorgeous woman I know, and that he was happy to get to know more about me and he's not going anywhere no time soon. He would always joke and say in a few years we we be together with a family after he completes his second degree. I would say sure of course. We joked again about this Wednesday and I said well, you have three years to practice being a good partner, having sex (because he's only sleep with like two ppl), and being a good father. Since then he stopped texting and calling. I don't understand. We always joked and played around about this now he's left. By Friday I stopped texting him to see if he was ok because I started to get worried something happened to him. Today I texted him "Hi" from my friend's phone to see if he changed his number and he texted back in 3 seconds with "who is this?". After the text back I erased his number. I'm feeling stupid and somewhat embarrassed. We were so close and now nothing.
This mofo walked past me and didn't say nada today at work. Like we were never friends😢 I'm so pissed. This is exactly why I don't let me guard down. When and because I did this happens.....He's so childish..