Gemini girls :)

I have been falling for gemini girls lately. I feel strong for two of them that I've been working with for years. I'm a water sign so its probably unnatural for me to hang around air, but I'm really beginning to like you girls. I think I like hanging and being with you all more than my water sign counter parts. You guys don't spend your whole day reading my every thought like they do, I don't have to get into intense psychic arguments with you all, and I'm beginnning to like it, its a healthy change.

Thanks for being and I'm sorry I didn't seek you all out earlier, but I'm glad to meet you all now. I'm not saying I'm looking for a date, but I do enjoy do enjoy you alls personal company and your personal conversations. 🙂

Thanks,
From a water sign (don't let my user name fool you)

No problem at all =) Thank you for the positive feed back. A couple gems on here are inlove with scorpio men. I happen to think you guys rock also!

He's a cancer? I thought he was a scorpio lol

Are you gemini girls good or bad. SHould I avoid you and just acknowledge you in passing or should I give deep emotional thought into ways to make your real lives a little better. Does any emotional impact become nullified due to your twin flipping or whatever?

WHat are geminis thinking about or feeling when they are all alone. How do they think or feel towards significant others

Posted by SunScorpio
WHat are geminis thinking about or feeling when they are all alone.

Given the time and the circumstances:

(1) I'm in my own world where I'm completely myself- the part that's only mine and not shared with anyone else (not even my closest family and friends)

(2) I'm bored and would give anything for company

Which is it at any given time? I may not even be sure myself.

How do they think or feel towards significant others

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I need you more than you'll ever know and more than I'll ever let on...and I feel like I would be just fine without you.

So basically what I'm getting is you guys wouldn't share your real true pure honest selves with anyone, and if you would, the person would have to jump through many hoops to get there. And if he's a little off in his approach he's basically dismissed right off the bat for a long period of time. Is that about right?

If someone was to be "honest and upfront" with you on a regular basis, passing your tests and proving to you that they genuinely want to be with you, would they ever get to be with the real you, intimately? Would they get an open and honest assesment of your emotional state, or would they continue to get analytical and defensize rhetoric? Thats my question

As a cancer, I put up defenses too. But once someone has proven themselves to be worthy of closeness, I let them in whole-heartedly with little reserve. THEN if they screw me over, I shun them FOR LIFE. I give them a chance, an open chance first, because with the opportunity for great pain, comes the opportunity for great love. I'm asking, do gems ever let somone fully in in this way, or is there always many stipulations and regulations that one will always have to follow when in their presence.

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Posted by SunScorpio
Are you gemini girls good or bad. SHould I avoid you and just acknowledge you in passing or should I give deep emotional thought into ways to make your real lives a little better. Does any emotional impact become nullified due to your twin flipping or whatever?

It really depends on you. Good and bad are relative terms, you have to provide more context for us to see what you mean by this. If you are moody, shifty or untrustworthy in some manner, or she perceives this in some way, then she may flip you more than her twin.

Otherwise, if you are honest and upfront, she will most likely respond in kind. It depends on your intentions. Most Gemini women don't like to be manipulated. If she sense this kind of behavior, then she may just simply ignore you no matter what you do.

Dont think cancers understand "honest and upfront".

Can I get a signed first copy edition? It's destined for fame. 🙂

Awwww.. wuvvvv youuu *hugs* 🙂... But then, we'll have to write it togetha yanno!


@SunScorp: First, ya gotta answer our questions before you can ask further. Why does Cancer have to insult everyone else's kindness? Cuz they're stupid?

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Haha, forget about me responding to you.

You see, here is an example of letting someone in and then kicking them out. This response is filled with judgements and its a little condesending. But before this post, this poster had full range to my thoughts and interactions with very little reserve. But now they have none. ANd for the rest of the discussion I wont invest in their participation. This will apply to anyone else who will make a post similar in nature. BUT, the opposite would have been true had the post been meaningful, fair, and engaging. I would have become more transparent, more engaged, and more involved, AND I would have began to build a rapport with the person to begin building a strong, meaningful relationship with them.

So do gems think this way, or do they always have people at arms length to some extent?

Posted by SunScorpio
So basically what I'm getting is you guys wouldn't share your real true pure honest selves with anyone, and if you would, the person would have to jump through many hoops to get there. And if he's a little off in his approach he's basically dismissed right off the bat for a long period of time. Is that about right?

I should clarify what I said (and I can't speak for the other Gems here, only for myself). I always will have a part of me that is ONLY mine. You might get MOST of me, but I reserve the right to keep something for myself. I don't understand why that's seen as a negative by some people. I'm usually not even actively keeping my inner world from you. If you can find it, you can access it, but how can you find it if I don't know the words to describe it?

As far as the "tying the shoes" thing: it's not that he would be dismissed for one tiny action, it would be for the larger implications of the tiny action (what that one action reveals to me about his personality and viewpoint, and whether that's what I'm looking for in a partner).

If someone was to be "honest and upfront" with you on a regular basis, passing your tests and proving to you that they genuinely want to be with you, would they ever get to be with the real you, intimately? Would they get an open and honest assesment of your emotional state, or would they continue to get analytical and defensize rhetoric? Thats my question.

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Of course, you would get to an intimate understanding! And, sometimes, analytical and defensive rhetoric as well.

Oops...sorry. I was mixing up this thread and another one. Hope what I wrote makes some sense.

Oooo neat! A new thread coming from a Cancer? Interesting indeed.

Well. As a Gemini I don't always make my thoughts/feelings known. Unfortunately my feelings I don't even understand. Air signs have a bit of trouble with this but if we like you, you will know. We will flit, hover, orbit you like a butterfly does bringing the bright and cheery sunlight with us. Elusive would be the word to describe us to a T. Also depends on what placements the Gemini has too. For example I have a lot of air in my chart and I tend to be extremely elusive probably more so than other Gem females. It's not that I mean to it's just my nature.

The arms length quote is pretty accurate but...BUT...it's not intentional. That is the difference. It's just how we are. We don't do premeditated moves like water signs do (no offense to you).

Cancer though.

I have my issues with your sign. Cancer females seem to flock around me as friends. My sister and my BFF are one. Men however I just can't seem to get along with your sign. Again I guess it depends on placements. But I find Cancer males to be very pompous, rude, and just plain name droppers with an ego. Oh and talk about over sensitive...GEEZE! The one sign in the zodiac that can actually get ALONG with a Pisces? That should tell you that you're pretty much psychotic! LOL! (Sorry Pisces I have a hard time dealing with you too).

Scorpio's however I find them amazingly intriguing. So intense but just so unavoidable. Many differences but its like a moth to a flame.

Posted by SunScorpio
So basically what I'm getting is you guys wouldn't share your real true pure honest selves with anyone, and if you would, the person would have to jump through many hoops to get there. And if he's a little off in his approach he's basically dismissed right off the bat for a long period of time. Is that about right?

If someone was to be "honest and upfront" with you on a regular basis, passing your tests and proving to you that they genuinely want to be with you, would they ever get to be with the real you, intimately? Would they get an open and honest assesment of your emotional state, or would they continue to get analytical and defensize rhetoric? Thats my question

As a cancer, I put up defenses too. But once someone has proven themselves to be worthy of closeness, I let them in whole-heartedly with little reserve. THEN if they screw me over, I shun them FOR LIFE. I give them a chance, an open chance first, because with the opportunity for great pain, comes the opportunity for great love. I'm asking, do gems ever let somone fully in in this way, or is there always many stipulations and regulations that one will always have to follow when in their presence.

Don't assume we are like you, because we are VERY much the opposite. All this stuff you just said is completely over done. We don't think like this. Im going to tell you right now be a mystery. We like to play detective and seek you out, find what the things that make you tick, information, etc. Don't tell us everything. Gemini's are notoriously drawn to solving riddles/puzzles. It makes for NO fun for us if you are a complete open book. BORING! And that right there is the death of you pretty much. If we find you boring you'll find a one way ticket into "the friend zone".

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So basically what I'm getting is you guys wouldn't share your real true pure honest selves with anyone, and if you would, the person would have to jump through many hoops to get there. And if he's a little off in his approach he's basically dismissed right off the bat for a long period of time. Is that about right?

If someone was to be "honest and upfront" with you on a regular basis, passing your tests and proving to you that they genuinely want to be with you, would they ever get to be with the real you, intimately? Would they get an open and honest assesment of your emotional state, or would they continue to get analytical and defensize rhetoric? Thats my question

As a cancer, I put up defenses too. But once someone has proven themselves to be worthy of closeness, I let them in whole-heartedly with little reserve. THEN if they screw me over, I shun them FOR LIFE. I give them a chance, an open chance first, because with the opportunity for great pain, comes the opportunity for great love. I'm asking, do gems ever let somone fully in in this way, or is there always many stipulations and regulations that one will always have to follow when in their presence.

Don't assume we are like you, because we are VERY much the opposite. All this stuff you just said is completely over done. We don't think like this. Im going to tell you right now be a mystery. We like to play detective and seek you out, find what the things that make you tick, information, etc. Don't tell us everything. Gemini's are notoriously drawn to solving riddles/puzzles. It makes for NO fun for us if you are a complete open book. BORING! And that right there is the death of you pretty much. If we find you boring you'll find a one way ticket into "the friend zone".

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Posted by LonewolfBravo
@Whimsy -- Everyone has a part of themselves that they typically don't show, but in the Gem's case, I agree; there is always that, or as you describe, that "part" of ourselves, that we just don't show. However, I don't consider it a part of our personality but rather the hierarch to our personality spectrum.

I find Gems show pieces of themselves by association. We have a filter that analyzes the situation and turns certain personality traits on and off depending on the circumtances. Gems are very much so tacticans, consciously or not. Sometimes, we get so absorbed in this aspect where we communicate more so from the filter rather then from the heart.

You could simplfy this with the Gemini metaphor of the "twins". We have one twin that is very mutual and extrinsic while we have the other being a polar opposite - fixed and intrinsic. The twins are quite personified and muture at their own rates regardless of who is being displayed or is in use. However, each twin acts more as the medium as opposed to being that hierarch and are more so the players in which allow the filter to work or be carried out.




It's funny though, I know exactly what you are talking about, as I too have that part that is just not being waved around on a flag pole.



Anyways, first post. Hi everyone.

Hi! That was very well said.

My best friend is a Gemini, and we've talked about our personalities being like "onions". All of our friends, family, and associates are on a certain layer of the onion, with very few being near the core. Not only do people not know where they are on the onion, but they don't even know that there IS an onion...LOL.

Omg I just laughed outloud about the "they don't even know that there is an onion" THAT IS SO TRUE! LOL! Well done!

Posted by DG
Not falling for this again!

I think I know what you are talking about too! :p

That's funny...I was thinking the same thing as you ladies.

To say something I've said before (in another thread the OP might remember): You will never understand anyone else as long as you filter everything they say and do through your own viewpoint and experiences instead of understanding where s/he is coming from in his/her own mind and experiences.

Can i get a demo of how a gem girl behaves once she fully trusts n accepts someone. Ive never seen it

Or is there really not much behind door number 1?
Ill show you mine if you show me yours

Cappies were too boring for me hands down. I love Leo though! Scorpios I am drawn to them too. Pisces/Cancer too clingy.

Actually, we are reading minds, but we do so covertly, while what I call the happy, fluffy, bunny personality is on display. The seemingly harmless, lighthearted twin puts people at ease, so their guards are lowered and secrets are revealed. We take it in without surprise or judgement, facilitating the revelations. They're filed away for future use.
Very few people truly know me. Most only see parts I choose to reveal.
It does take a while to earn my trust, it doesn't come easily and the process can't be rushed. Perhaps this is why my happiest relationships have been with a Cap and an Aries, signs that are intrinsically persistent when they see something they want. They have the fortitude to cut through the barbed wire around my defenses.
We can be detached from emotions. I'm naturally suspicious of emotions, (though I feel them deeply) and keep them at arms length until I feel it's safe to unleash them. When that happens, the lovesick swain you werent sure existed will appear. All of the suppressed passions will rise to the surface. This is rare, however. I've dated a lot, and I've only felt this way a few times (I'm middle aged).
This may be why I can so easily remain friends with my exes, because so few have been able to reach my "base layer", so reverting to that seems effortless.

FYI, I dated a wonderful Cancer long ago. I wasn't ready to settle down at the time, nonetheless we had a great time together, I learned a lot about myself. I've also met some interesting Crabs while traveling. What I like best is the diligence in pursuit of goals. Crabs will tenaciously work towards their goals, putting one foot in front of the other until they succeed.

DG, I agree with you regarding cappies. They are so much than meets the eye. Kind of like us gems!

Thanks, AEG! In my case, I can be very shy and demure when I like someone so it takes a brave and curious soul to scale the fortress.

Cappies have this intangible sex appeal that belies their often serious and businesslike demeanor. When I first met my husband it unsettled me, but it definitely piqued my curiosity!

SunScorpio--- I also wanted to mention that when I was in hs, reading Hunter S. Thompson (cancer) inspired me to realize my dreams of traveling the world. I didn't exactly pattern myself after his *recreational* habits, but what I respected about him was that he lived his life full throttle, foot on the gas, balls to the wall, no holds barred....nothing got in his way.

I think that I might have a problem because as I age I've noticed the more people get put into the "friend zone". A week passes and I am already bored! Terrible I know right. The only ones that hasn't made it to the friend zone out of all the zodiac have been Leo's and Scorpio's.

I've dated a Capricorn and he bored me to death. That and he was his ex gf's bitch since he still lived with her. That ended very abruptly. I don't like dates interrupted by a crazy bat shit female who orders her ex around. I dumped him. No Cappies for me thank you very much.

Mmm not really. But I have dated that one with a Capricorn Sun. However a lot of people around me have Capricorn moons/risings. Which is a little weird now that I realize it.

Actually he came back last week and it's been really interesting. No fighting, just being friends. I'm not sure of his motive because he's being very secretive and not telling me much why he's back. He said "I just wanted to see how you were", of course my inner voice was like "PFF yeah right!" (Rolls eyes) Not sure what to do right now.

Yeah I've met a few nothing that really interests me though. I'd like to meet a Leo, Aries, maybe another Gem 🙂

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shoot. get dem gem gals man.... 😉

welcome back!! i think it's safe to say that you were genuinely missed. 🙂

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Posted by Xin
Yeah I've met a few nothing that really interests me though. I'd like to meet a Leo, Aries, maybe another Gem 🙂

I think a man with plenty fire or air would work well with you. Hopefully he had a strong Pluto aspect too. Aries is pretty neat in that I LOVE their courage and persistence. Many are great guys. Have you dated a Gem before?

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Actually yes I have dated another Gemini before, actually two. We got along really, really well. But the first one wasn't really serious, the second was. We dated about 3-4 years but eventually the age gap just caught up. Too many differences maturity wise. The first one however hasn't made much of his life and he's about 5 years older than I am. Not really my cup of tea to "help" him out. Especially when hes only a few years off till 40. Oh and the second one I made a post about him a few months ago. He's the guy that moved to my town, bought the same make of car that I have, his gf is a Gemini (like me), she even looks like me, and now hes in the same business as I am. Kinda freaked me out. But then again he stalked me for four years after I dumped him.

I know it actually is pretty strange now that I think of it.

So what was this comment about exactly? "I think more than anything that Moon/Pluto in Libra will determine who you find happiness with." Could you explain a little more?

Lone - I just saw your post in the Pisces forum, and as a fellow Gemini I would absolutely advise against this. Sun/Venus/Mars all in Pisces? No. Pisces are fucking crazy as the day is long. I have never had a good experience with this sign. But I am going off what I know, what is your chart like? Too much water/fire in her chart it's going to make for an internal war in herself and OH did I mention that all Pisces have some kind of crazy vice? Sex, drugs, money, mooching, food, etc. Always something.