Gemini Man Wont Talk To Me Anymore (Cancer Girl)

I recently moved to Europe for school and met a Gemini. I became so into this guy that I would think about him every waking min. Because there was no communication between us as to what "we" were and I liked him so much things became stressful. I didn't feel comfortable expressing my emotions to him and would literally become mute when I attempted to tell him how I felt. In retrospect I should have been straight up rejection or not. Our relationship has been on so many ups and downs, hot and cold. One moment he is putting in effort (mainly just saying things never delivering) and then I would start to come around again, warm up only to be left feeling disappointed because he flaked or didn't come through. I found myself not taking him seriously and I would be cold again. Here is the issue though:

One evening I went to a bar with one of my childhood friends who was visiting. He also happened to be at the same bar. Towards the end of the night we finally made eye contact. He comes up to us but by this point of the I am really feeling the alcohol and only remember making out in a bathroom stall when all of the sudden my friend is yelling at him from outside and calling him awful names/saying some nasty stuff. She doesn't want me falling for him again which was why she flipped out/there was a lot of alcohol involved. As he is getting out she even tries to shove him. We leave the bar, somehow I said goodbye but my intoxicated self was so embarrassed that for some stupid reason I went home and thought deleting him from my social media was the solution. Facebook/Instagram. He didn't notice for about 4 days and then he unfollowed me back. Honestly when I woke up in the morning I felt I made a mistake. I didn't want to do that. I like him, I appreciate his art, but I know he is not good for me. Yet I did not want to come off as bitter. I had no idea how I could reverse this, I feel really stupid and know he would think the same thing of me. I want to make all this drama go away and just leave this country and him behind on good terms. I hate how sour this became. He let me borrow one of his film cameras (kinda expensive one), so considering the situation and since I am leaving soon I thought I would text him only to find out when/how he wanted it back. That was four days ago and he has not responded.

How long were you and the Gemini together/known each other?

We were "together" or rather seeing each other for about 8 months. The first 3 months we saw each other at least once a week and then he fell off the face of the planet for 2 weeks (it was tough but I respected his space) and the next 5 months were so off an on, it has been incredibly frustrating.

I don't mean to sound disrespectful, but it sounds like you guys were just FWB...did he ever call you his GF?

When I wasn't ready to settle down, I had to pretty much be given an ultimatum. It was then I saw the man I wanted to be with moving on and it KILLED me. I don't know why I would disappear but I would... I was very sporadic at the time. I had, also, come out of a terrible relationship, so commitment was very scary to me.

How old are you two? He doesn't sound like he is wanting a relationship..

@moonbutter no disrespect at all! We were basically FWB but at least on my end I started to get some really serious feelings for him and at times the feelings seemed mutual, as if it could possibly develop into something more which was what I wanted. Unfortunately it was always hit or miss, when he would give I would never take it seriously. Like if he admitted he was thinking of me often, or missed me or whatever.

@waterygem he is 26 and I am 24. He told me he was once in a relationship for 4 years. When I was trying to play it casual he even mentioned that I was great and he liked me but that he was a loner type. I should have just let it go then and there but its difficult when you get in so deep. One time he kissed a girl (he said he was really drunk) in front of me at a club and I got so upset. He felt awful and tried to make up for it but that was all talk, he never came through.

I guess at the moment though I don't even want to be romantic. I just want to give him back his stuff and not leave him behind on such crappy terms which is what we have been on since I deleted him 😢 I wanna know if I should give him some space than write him again? Or I don't know, re-adding/friending him and then sending him a message with a short explanation sounds so stupid but I don;t like being on sour terms with anybody.

Hmm what are both your venus in? Also Mercury and moon?

Most drunk people are stupidheads. Ignore what happened while drunk. Be upfront and honest with him, explain what happened. If you're over him, then tell him you're over him. And if you want to still be friends, or end on better terms, tell him that too. I'm sure he would be understanding and would give you some closure on the whole situation. Heck, smoke some weed with him and laugh about how awkward everthing got, then end the night with a big ol' hug and start the next chapter of your life! 😉

Coming from a Gemini who had his life ruined by a former Cancer partner, all I can say is Gemini-Cancer is a match made in the fiery depths of hell and unless you want to be dragged through those very depths of hell, best thing you can do for yourself is forget this guy (just as he's probably done with you). Seriously, you'll end up hating each other with every ounce of your very soul. Just as I do with my cancer ex... the only human I've ever felt total abject hatred for. And I don't even associate with anyone born under Cancer anymore. They are simply toxic to Gemini.

Count your blessings. Get on with your life.

Geminis men are TO AVOID. They are the worst for relationships! So easy and shallow.. For them, feelings don't matter at all!

🙂 (not just personal experience but friends' experiences and other ppl opinions who unluckily ran into gemini men...)

Btw. How is a gemini man with cancer moon, venus in aries, and mars in leo? Affordable? Worth feeling pain for? 😉

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Btw. How is a gemini man with cancer moon, venus in aries, and mars in leo? Affordable? Worth feeling pain for? 😉

A train wreck!