cancer dude! gemini girl!!

I'm new here obvi. Ok so I'm gemini. He's cancer and he's got me. First time we met sparks flew. We texted daily. Hung out. He texted me asking me on Fri or sat if there's anything happening on my agenda. Came close to opening my heart to him. But he didn't communicate as much as I would of liked. When he texts me its all happy faces/ sad faces. He mentioned I didn't show a lot of emotion. A lot of guys have asked me out. But I say no. No one makes me feel like he does. I swear. Any cancer dudes please help me out I don't want to loose this fine gentleman!!

Gem, a cancer man will ask more from you emotionally than you can give. I suggest you leave him alone before you both get hurt.

Posted by incandescentcancer
Gem, a cancer man will ask more from you emotionally than you can give. I suggest you leave him alone before you both get hurt.

That's probably true, based on my experience.

I guarantee that it will turn clingy and nasty...no matter how evolved the Cancer. A gem would need to seriously change themselves to make this work, similarly a Cancer will have to let go off any need for reassurance.

I'm not disagreeing with you guys on this one. I'm still trying to understand the aftermath of my cancer/gem fail. I'm gonna risk sounding like a retard here but I'm gonna ask this retarded question anyway. What does it mean to ask more of someone emotionally? What sort of emotional needs would a Cancer man ask of anyone? Please explain.

Posted by geminibunny
I'm not disagreeing with you guys on this one. I'm still trying to understand the aftermath of my cancer/gem fail. I'm gonna risk sounding like a retard here but I'm gonna ask this retarded question anyway. What does it mean to ask more of someone emotionally? What sort of emotional needs would a Cancer man ask of anyone? Please explain.

You are free, footloose and taken up by anything that catches your attention. you think your love is understood. you disappear for a while and come back and want to be loved exactly the way it was left off.

A cancer is none of those, love for a cancer is a consistent surge where eventually there is only the two of you. They feel good by spending a lot of time with you and they need your love constantly. A cancer is like having a dog, they get pathetic when you don't love them enough. They need constant reassurance.

That's it , Cancer + Gems = dog + cat.

Some of that can get tempered by placements (Gemini Venus here), but even I had to scratch my head and come to grips with letting the butterfly go and having faith it will come back.

Gem-Cancer is a rough pairing for relationships

@xMoonMan
I know i shouldnt rush. Ill wait because hes worth it. 🙂
Yeah im out of the cocoon. 2013 was life changing. The most emotionally charged year of my life. I'm not ignoring my heart anymore.

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Posted by incandescentcancer

Posted by geminibunny
I'm not disagreeing with you guys on this one. I'm still trying to understand the aftermath of my cancer/gem fail. I'm gonna risk sounding like a retard here but I'm gonna ask this retarded question anyway. What does it mean to ask more of someone emotionally? What sort of emotional needs would a Cancer man ask of anyone? Please explain.

You are free, footloose and taken up by anything that catches your attention. you think your love is understood. you disappear for a while and come back and want to be loved exactly the way it was left off.

A cancer is none of those, love for a cancer is a consistent surge where eventually there is only the two of you. They feel good by spending a lot of time with you and they need your love constantly. A cancer is like having a dog, they get pathetic when you don't love them enough. They need constant reassurance.

That's it , Cancer + Gems = dog + cat.

Depends on the individual dynamics, I personally know of Cancer male + Gemini female couples that work. 🙂

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Oh, I know they can, just that there are more "growth opportunities".

Cancer dudes! Valentines day is coming up. I wanna show him that I do care. So Im thinking about sending him roses. Yay or nay?

Posted by butterflygirl
Cancer dudes! Valentines day is coming up. I wanna show him that I do care. So Im thinking about sending him roses. Yay or nay?

Actually, a card with a personal note would work better.
Don't come on too strong or tell him you are in love.
Do express how he makes you feel, and how you look foward to talking etc. with him.

Sweet advice. This really helps. 🙂

Communication is key otherwise its an epic disaster....I hate talking about it. :/

Posted by butterflygirl
Cancer dudes! Valentines day is coming up. I wanna show him that I do care. So Im thinking about sending him roses. Yay or nay?

Gem, go do what you do well. Screw his brains out 😉

Posted by incandescentcancer
I guarantee that it will turn clingy and nasty...no matter how evolved the Cancer. A gem would need to seriously change themselves to make this work, similarly a Cancer will have to let go off any need for reassurance.

I agree with this one and I was with a gemini man for 9 years! There's a lot to be said FOR gemini but the match is a tough one. We come across needy/clingy. You come across flighty and in the beginning we will wonder about your loyalty. Gems get easily bored. Cancers do not. Just saying. Go slowly with this one, as you should with any sign.

Eeeep! He said he's coming over this weekend. Where shall I take him movies? Restaurant? Ideas please?

Posted by butterflygirl
Eeeep! He said he's coming over this weekend. Where shall I take him movies? Restaurant? Ideas please?

Casually mention something you would like to do. Mention several.
Chances are he would go just to be with you. Don't press, let him think the idea is his.
Just stay away from "chick flicks".

Be careful in overthinking everything. That can sometimes set you up for failure because your putting so much into it so fast.

Go with the flow before you become exhausted.