Gemini Mind Fuck?

He's not the only one playing mind games...your playing them just as hard. Your playing to win. Only, as you've discovered, it's not a win.

Take this as a learning experience. Your young, there will be other Gemini's.

Posted by littlegigabyte
My outside perspective from reading allllll of this is that you seem to be very high maintenance. I think this gem does probably like you, but I think that you are pushing him away with your expectation and emotional outbursts.

- Just because he didn't feel like texting for a few hours, doesn't mean that you should act petty and bitchy, and in turn, ignore him for 2 days. The fact that he stuck around says that he likes you, because to be frank with you, I would have disposed of you after that bullshit

- If he wanted to only be FWB, then he is not to blame. You say that you're a sexual person, and that you let it get out of hand multiple times. Well you now have to own that, and realize that he possibly may not see you as relationship material now as a result

- He is not your boyfriend. And he is a Gemini. Everyone is entitled to the option to cancel plans and make new plans as we so desire. This will happen a lot with a Gemini, so IF you can't handle it, then be warned that you will become very hurt and resentful on a constant basis

- YOU freely offered to share personal information with him. You don't get to set expectations on how he should or should not react to that. Different people react to things in separate ways. Maybe he didn't feel comfortable prying for more information. Gemini men are not the most expressive with their emotions so you can't just expect him to know the perfect thing to say according to your standards.

- You should keep yourself busy and not stalk him on social media, to know that he was on it all day. And who cares if he's on social media and not texting you back? Let him do his thing. Again, he is not obligated to text you. We do not have obligations to respond to text messages, it is a choice. Sometimes I just don't feel like writing back to people, so I don't.

- I don't see that this man is playing games at all.

- It is possible that you two simply aren't compatible.

Girl you need to take a step back here and read what you've written again.

I'm not even this gem guy, and the sheer weight and heaviness of these expectations is stressing me out.

This a million times over! Amen! Sorry @YYYNM I really wish things had turned out different for you and your Gem especially since Libras/Gems are supposed to be a good match, but @littlegigbyte has hit the nail on the head and made so many valid points it's not even funny......although her clever wording did crack me up a bit.

I get that I was a little too intense and unrealistic with my expectations... ooking back on it I realize that but I want things to go back to how carefree they were in the beginning just talking and getting to know each other. I didnt go out of my way to stalk him on social media I would get on my feed throughout the day and see a new post on snapchat or insta. It's not like I went out of my way looking they pop up. He opened up to me just as heavily as I did on him. Do you think he meant it when he said I mean just as much to him and he's there for me or were those empty words? Touching on the sexualness, I can hold that back. How should I go about trying to fix things or is it a lost cause?

Posted by yyynm
I get that I was a little too intense and unrealistic with my expectations... ooking back on it I realize that but I want things to go back to how carefree they were in the beginning just talking and getting to know each other. I didnt go out of my way to stalk him on social media I would get on my feed throughout the day and see a new post on snapchat or insta. It's not like I went out of my way looking they pop up. He opened up to me just as heavily as I did on him. Do you think he meant it when he said I mean just as much to him and he's there for me or were those empty words? Touching on the sexualness, I can hold that back. How should I go about trying to fix things or is it a lost cause?

So I'm definitely not a 'true' gemini, but I am a gem mooner and have a fair amount of air in my chart so I'll just throw my honest thought out there for the heck of it. What I did appreciate reading about the dynamic of you and the gem is that there seemed to be an honest open line of communication (all mind/social media games aside). It seems like you were very direct with him when he did things that upset you.....so would it hurt to just pose the question to him to see if you can have a light-hearted friendship? If he thinks that's possible then it seems the biggest part on your end would be the execution of it and avoiding all the nonsensical games and expectations. Just know that if you were to touch on deep topics again enjoy them in that moment....there are times where I like to share personal/emotional things about my self with the right person, but then I like to flip back to being light-hearted and playful. It's hard to stay in a state of deep/heavy topics/emotions for an air sign. At least that's my experience. Best of luck!

@yyynm

Harsh dose of reality is.... you need a doormat... not a boyfriend. Things will never go back the same after playing games! You get what you give!

And, how does that work...? You're allowed to play games, but he isn't allowed??

😕

Hope you wear protection though..