Gems I need your advice

There's this gem female at job who does not like me because of this guy that I was dating. I found out that he was messing around with other females, including her. I told him I knew about it and I stopped communicating with him. He went to her and questioned her and told her what happened. She went around to numerous people, talking bad about me and kept coming around me. I let it go. It went on for months, so I talked shit, too. Now, she doesn't come around anymore, but Everytime she sees me, she has a evil look on her face.

Today, the guy pops up. After he left, she was staring at me with this evil look on her face. Then her and her two friends got together and started talking shit and laughing about the situation between the guy, her and I. Which is stupid because I didnt even know that the guy was there. What is this gems problem?

Posted by Kodak375
She likes drama. It's not rocket science. The only real matter is how you respond to the situation

And how should I respond?

You sound like you're in high school, considering your reaction/participation.

Posted by Noreallynow
There's this gem female at job who does not like me because of this guy that I was dating. I found out that he was messing around with other females, including her. I told him I knew about it and I stopped communicating with him. He went to her and questioned her and told her what happened. She went around to numerous people, talking bad about me and kept coming around me. I let it go. It went on for months, so I talked shit, too. Now, she doesn't come around anymore, but Everytime she sees me, she has a evil look on her face.

Today, the guy pops up. After he left, she was staring at me with this evil look on her face. Then her and her two friends got together and started talking shit and laughing about the situation between the guy, her and I. Which is stupid because I didnt even know that the guy was there. What is this gems problem?

Is this the same one?

@ GG it's cool....

Posted by Montgomery

Posted by Noreallynow
There's this gem female at job who does not like me because of this guy that I was dating. I found out that he was messing around with other females, including her. I told him I knew about it and I stopped communicating with him. He went to her and questioned her and told her what happened. She went around to numerous people, talking bad about me and kept coming around me. I let it go. It went on for months, so I talked shit, too. Now, she doesn't come around anymore, but Everytime she sees me, she has a evil look on her face.

Today, the guy pops up. After he left, she was staring at me with this evil look on her face. Then her and her two friends got together and started talking shit and laughing about the situation between the guy, her and I. Which is stupid because I didnt even know that the guy was there. What is this gems problem?

Is this the same one?

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Yes

@exxtasyx

Exactly. I think she is also mad at the fact that he denied her. He was asked by me and some other guys that he hung out with, if he messed with her, he said no. He told me he never talked to her(but I know that wasn't true). One of the guys said he saw her trying to speak to him and he was cussing at her and told her to leave him alone. So, I don't get it. Instead of dealing with his lies and drama, I just walked away. It's been 5 months since I've communicated with him.

Posted by exxtasyx

Posted by Noreallynow
@exxtasyx

Exactly. I think she is also mad at the fact that he denied her. He was asked by me and some other guys that he hung out with, if he messed with her, he said no. He told me he never talked to her(but I know that wasn't true). One of the guys said he saw her trying to speak to him and he was cussing at her and told her to leave him alone. So, I don't get it. Instead of dealing with his lies and drama, I just walked away. It's been 5 months since I've communicated with him.

She sounds like a very annoying person who is taking her BS out on you because the guy wanted nothing to do with her after they got caught... And she probably realized you were the "main chick" infront of all these "side chicks" (including her) lol.

Just give her dirty looks back if she looks at you the wrong way. It's not your fault she's insecure or that this dude made this big mess. I can't believe how annoying people can be.

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I agree with what you just said. You're right about the guy creating this big mess. He Is responsible for his actions and I will be contacting him. It's obvious that he has a serious problem. I told him I didn't want to deal with him anymore. He said the same thing. So, I don't understand why he did what he did or why he's still creating drama.

As far as the gem goes, she has a lot going on and this hasn't been the only time that she has been denied. I don't understand any of this.