hmmm...those gemini :)

so, we have been out on one date...and he was kind and all...but did not make any moves...it kind of looked like he had no interest in me...but still we kept texting oneanother...he joked a lot..and his jokes became a bit rude to me (i'm a libra...so i need some sophistication and style when it comes to jokes as well). After some time, this way of joking really started annoying me so i told him that..in a nice way 🙂 he got really upset and said he meant nothing rude, and thats the way he jokes....i also told him that he said not one nice word to me since the beginning.
so he changed...bacame cold and distant...when i asked him what happened...he said he is not really sore and he feels insecure now...BUT, that we are fine...
i text him since then often but his responses are short and cold...and when we see eachother he is nice...
when i dont text him...he sends me a msg after a few hours with a question: where have you dissapeared? 🙂)

i simply wanna know should i bother or is he just craving for attention? i really like him..but i dont want another childish man

He sounds super sensitive..maybe has a Cancer Mercury, Venus or moon?

i really dont have any other info on him 😢

Gemini's are sensitive...more than people seem to think. You probably crushed his ego a bit and afterwards he probably didn't want to make you uncomfortable again so he shut down...kind of like walking on eggshells around you if that makes sense...

But it seems as if he's still interested in you...but it seems like he may be scared to totally be himself around you now...

What kind of jokes were he making if you mind me asking?

What is your sign hera?

i'm a libra sun aquarius, moon pisces

when i go through his messages again, i think i might have overreacted a bit 😢

Posted by hera
i'm a libra sun aquarius, moon pisces

when i go through his messages again, i think i might have overreacted a bit 😢

Very common for both Gem and Libra to overreact in certain situations. But if both communicate and air it out all will be well. Both need to hearn from each other.

Learn*

Posted by hera
so, we have been out on one date...and he was kind and all...but did not make any moves...it kind of looked like he had no interest in me...but still we kept texting oneanother...he joked a lot..and his jokes became a bit rude to me (i'm a libra...so i need some sophistication and style when it comes to jokes as well). After some time, this way of joking really started annoying me so i told him that..in a nice way 🙂 he got really upset and said he meant nothing rude, and thats the way he jokes....i also told him that he said not one nice word to me since the beginning.
so he changed...bacame cold and distant...when i asked him what happened...he said he is not really sore and he feels insecure now...BUT, that we are fine...
i text him since then often but his responses are short and cold...and when we see eachother he is nice...
when i dont text him...he sends me a msg after a few hours with a question: where have you dissapeared? 🙂)

i simply wanna know should i bother or is he just craving for attention? i really like him..but i dont want another childish man

You also likely weren't making him feel too comfortable with you. My libra used to take my joking seriously at times and I would have to reassure them it wasn't meant as an insult. It's all about communication.

well you at least reassured them...my gem didn't make anything to make me feel comfortable... i even thought he is not interested at all...
when i confronted him, he played cool saying we are ok, but he is now insecure and he doesnt know what to think about me now...

and still he texts me...asking for attention 🙂

he really likes to play games 😄

Also whats his moon? And if you don't know, when is his birthday? Us June Gems tend to be fun loving but when we try to express that and you act serious we may think "hmm is this person really someone I can see myself with?" As far as I'm concerned thiugh, I usually won't joke until I get a feel for your character to see if we click.

Posted by hera
well you at least reassured them...my gem didn't make anything to make me feel comfortable... i even thought he is not interested at all...
when i confronted him, he played cool saying we are ok, but he is now insecure and he doesnt know what to think about me now...

and still he texts me...asking for attention 🙂

he really likes to play games 😄

He's gauging you to see just how into him you are.

i dont have any other info on him...he made it very clear that ahe doesnt believe in astrology...so i didnt go that lane...i respect other ppl opinion

still...i agree with you, you need to get to know someone to make jokes like that...it was too soon for my taste...i have nothing against jokes...but it was just too soon...especially after that cold date we hade

Posted by hera
he made it very clear that ahe doesnt believe in astrology...

Well on the surface, I sense water placements. Possibly cancer.

so what when he sees just how into him am i? 😄

should i be more open? will that only scare him away? since i was as he says too nice and polite? i just hate when someone gets scared in the beginning 😄
i should put my guard down a bit 😄DD

Posted by hera
so what when he sees just how into him am i? 😄

should i be more open? will that only scare him away? since i was as he says too nice and polite? i just hate when someone gets scared in the beginning 😄
i should put my guard down a bit 😄DD

If the first date didn't go so well and you really are interested, yes, perhaps just a little more.

well, ty for your help 🙂 i guess i have nothing to lose 🙂

Hmm....my sense of humor doesn't tend to be of the teasing variety, but if I were on a date with someone and they got touchy/upset/vocal about my sense of humor and a bit critical, I would probably initially shut down and even lose interests and tell myself that this wasn't a match (I do NOT take criticism of any variety very well), but I think once I took a step back after a couple days and really had some interest in the person, I would reach out. The fact that he is texting you is a very good sign, because once I feel criticized/insulted and I've lost interest, there's no way I will be contacting you or responding to you.

Bigger question is, are YOU still interested? Know that this will probably continue to be his sense of humor and maybe it isn't suited for your personality...you want someone with a more sophisticated sense of humor that isn't directed at you...Gemini men can be childish if they aren't developed emotionally.

oh...he didn't make any teasing jokes while we were on that date...he was actually very nice...but didn't make any moves or gave me a sign that he is interested...it was like two friends going out for a drink 🙂
those jokes started later...via messages...
i must say again..i have no problem with ppl making any kind of jokes...my man were not always romantic...and i am used to jokes and teasing...but never so early ... i didnt even get to know him at all...and he started bombing me with all kinds of jokes...not one nice word...i mean if thats a way to get a girl...than either theres smth wrong with me..or...
i dont know...

we went out with a friend on friday on a dinner...everything was nice...i had a really nice time...so he drives me home...and nothing...with a sentance: since you dont want to kiss me i'll kiss you, i gave him a kiss on the cheek...he just smiled..
he was busy over the weekend and had a lot of stress so we just texted a little on saturday...yesterday nothing.....
i was never a quitter..but i wish he would either make a move or forget about all of this...