How Do I Deal With My Complete Opposite?

I live with three other guys. Two are Gems born on the same day a year apart, and one is an Aqua.

The older Gem is my complete opposite, I'm a Sag with Cancer moon, he's a Gem with a Cap moon.

The problem is that we rarely talk to one another, we treat each other like friendly acquaintances, while I'm friends with my other roommates. I feel like he generally doesn't like me and is only nice to me because we live together. I always feel like I'm annoying him and in his way.

He's a REALLY nice guy, extremely shy and such, and a little spontaneous like many Gems. I genuinely want to be his friend. Seriously, not just because he's my roomie, but because I think we have a lot to learn from each other.

How do I approach this situation?

Approach with caution, yet feel him out. But, I would definitely be direct and ask him if he has an ulterior motive. Then, I'd go from there.

Posted by GeminiMind
Approach with caution, yet feel him out. But, I would definitely be direct and ask him if he has an ulterior motive. Then, I'd go from there.

I feel as if I know him well, but he doesn't know me well, and I don't want to force a friendship on him like that.

I'm speaking for myself when I say that for me a friendship is a natural process. If I feel as if a person is pushing something on me, I might misinterpret it as something else. Thus, is why I said be direct with him. You're a Sag, you know bullshitting never goes in the right direction. So just be straight up and tell him the rules that pertain to you, and there shouldn't be a problem. If it is, then he has the problem, not you. I don't think you would scare him off as a friend. I tried to be a friend to a Sag female that I had a fling with, didn't work out. She had major psychological issues. You seem quite normal. Gemini's with earth moons seem to be somewhat different than other Gems. My cousin is a Gem with a Cap moon, and that dude will be a gazzillionaire by the time he's 30. That boy is balanced, structured, and grounded.

I think that the moon placements will make you guys pretty cool friends as water needs earth. But, that Cancer moon of yours, yikes! An emotional Sag? Who knew— HaHaHaHa!!

I would agree with the above and add one more. I think it's that


(1) He finds you annoying- Don't worry too much about it. Some of my very best friends started out annoying me! It
doesn't mean he doesn't like you. There might just be a couple of things annoying him, and it's easier to avoid the
situation than to come right out with it and look like a jerk.

(2) He thinks you're not interesting enough to hold his attention- Which is b.s. Sags are very interesting people. Try
casually dropping some bombs on him- crazy things you believe or surprising things you've done.

(3) He wants to sleep with you or someone else does- Avoidance can be handy when you want to sleep with someone and
can't. Or, he could be backing off because he know another guy in the house is interested.

There is everything to be gained by simply asking him what's going on. Geminis often suffer from "too nice complex" and don't want to bring up potentially uncomfortable conversation topics, but will gladly talk about the same topic if you're the one to bring it up.

Wow ya'll are serious about the sexual attraction thing huh?

Is there some confusion here? I don't know if I was clear on this, but I am a guy, and I have a girlfriend. I doubt he's attracted to me, however, it's entirely possible that he just hasn't come out yet. He's so shy and reserved, I don't think he's ever had a relationship of any kind, so it's still entirely possible. I've had a few gay guys interested in me in my lifetime.

Trust me, I am not like other Sags, I would absolutely hate to have one night stands and such. I love long term relationships, being stable, being grounded, being mature, maybe it's the 5 Cap signs I have in my chart.

I see such a HUGE difference between him and my other Gem roommate, the younger one (we'll call Jay) is much more spontaneous, trickier, and more immature than the older one (we'll call Kay). Jay annoys the hell out of me, he seems like the ultimate Gem. Kay is more reserved, like I said, and seems like someone I would really love to be friends with.

When me, Kay and my Aqua roommate are together, we poke fun at each other and get along so well. When the Aqua and I are alone, we laugh at everything and get along SOOO well, when Jay and I are alone he's too damn focused on like 7 different things and is always on the move but we still talk and laugh together. But when it's just me and Kay alone in the living room or something, I can really feel that elephant in the corner.

Really I just want to clear the air and make it so that it's not awkward every time we see each other or walk by each other.

Whoa...I'm sorry for my huge assumption that you're a female! You did say "three OTHER guys", so it should have been totally obvious that you're a man. I still say just talk it out. One awkward conversation is much less stressful than feeling awkward day after day.

Whoops!!! My bad, I thought you were a female too. Yikes! Most people that come to the Gemini forum are women that are banging their heads against a wall, or suicidal because they can't figure a Gem guy out, or he did something to hurt her. It's the environment, that's all. In any case, fire up some bud, crack a cold one, and have a conversation with the dude.

But, maybe there really is some sexual energies there. *shrugs* We can't all be feeling that at the same time if there isn't something to it. If so, definitely get to the bottom of that one, because that would be awkward. :\

Haha I'm sorry about that guys, I thought about saying "3 guys" first but then changed it to "3 OTHER guys" thinking people would assume that I'm a guy too.

But ya'll bring up a good point, he could definitely be gay, I mean that's not really what floats my boat, but all his friends are girls and he rarely talks about being attracted to women (whereas my other roommates would say things like "ooh she's hot" or "oh I would do her") Kay doesn't seem to be that type.

Posted by LibraLuv
btw...My daughter is a Saggie with a Cancer moon and rising. It makes her extremely sensitive and emotional. When she gets frustrated she crys at the drop of a hat. Does your Cancer moon affect you that way? When I did her chart for her, she had a EUREKA moment. She's concluded that the cancer moon is what makes her an introvert and extremely shy. She also stated that she feels as if it holds her back from doing a lot of things. She's only 18 though.

I won't say that it makes me emotional, I would say it makes me compassionate. I am conflicted sometimes though, I have a shark load of Capricorn signs in my chart and a Leo rising, so it could be that.

Posted by GeminiMind
Approach with caution, yet feel him out. But, I would definitely be direct and ask him if he has an ulterior motive. Then, I'd go from there.

funny hahaha...as if he would ever reveal such a thing.