How should I proceed with this Gemini?

I met someone new and he is a GEMINI! Everything has been going well so far. I met him on 8.8.8 (I only remember cuz a mutual friend was getting married that day) and he textd me the next day, then the weekend after that, but never called me. I took it as if he is not interested cuz he didn't call, but I didn't think much of it. Then, this past weekend, he text'd again to invite me to go to a bar he's going to, but I said I was staying home and will be going out the next night. I woke up in the morning with a text from him so I replied back and the texting lasted the whole day until I finally asked him if he wants to meet up and that I will be at this bar. Again, didn't think much of it until he text'd me again and actually called to set up where were going to meet. Long story short..we went to a bar w/ one of my friends, conversation went well between the 3 of us, then my friend left, we still wanted to go to another bar, then we ate at a diner and talked until 6am. One little detail, he kissed me on the day we first met, but didn't kiss me this time. I felt awkward so I avoided eye contact as I was getting out of the car, but he had this little cute awkwardness laugh. Then, the next day he text'd me with "hope u a good time last night" aww

I know Geminis like their freedom and I don't want to come on too strong. I wanted to hang out w/ him this coming weekend and invite him at this bar where my friend is playing with his band. Should I just invite him or let him ask me what I'm doing first, then invite him? For some reason he only texts me on the weekends...is that a bad sign? Should I initiate a text/call out of the blue? Should I let him do all the work? 🙂

oh, I gave him a hug and "cheek to cheek kiss before i got out of the car...

You're good so far. As long as you are aware of the space issue, you should be fine. Don't try to be so distant that he confuses it with a lack of interest, but don't pile it on too thick or he'll poof into thin air.

I sent him an invite via text earlier today and he responded right away and asked where the place it. I responded a few hours later and told him the address. No response after that yet. Is he interested in going?

capris...just go with the flow...a gemini man is very very hard to figure. no one on dxp can predict his next move..so dont worry about it so much...

You are so right dward417...you have to learn to just go with the flow keep your emotions in tact, and don't chase him. Geez...why do women chase I will never figure that out.

Generation X is different from way back then....

way back when—?

Generation X is different from way back then .."

Also to include ...

"he textd me the next day, then the weekend after that, but never called me. I took it as if he is not interested cuz he didn't call"

Generation X texts ... if you are going to comprehend generation differences, then doso in all aspects. Way back then, a phone call was the appropriate form of communication .... today, it's texts.

So, because he texts you instead of calling you ... is no indication that he isn't interested, since texting is the new form of communication versus phone calls.


On a different note ..... people have a hard time distinguishing between communication of interest and chasing ... they would believe that once an attraction is in place, then they should back completely away, and let the man come chase them .... and I'm certain they believe this way because if they didn't, then they would tell you not to chase at all, and let him come to you. That is a complete contridiction ... for if a person believes in not chasing, while maintaining a woman should sit back and let a man chase her because it's wrong to chase him ... is still a chase-game.

If attention given to you by a man is only in place because you ran away from him .. then it isn't sincere. He's only showing you attention because you are unobtainable. A true relationship built around sincere desire to be with another isn't built around the mind-set of "chasing" .. it's built around the mind-set of desiring to be with this person, and express to this person your interest in being together.

If you want this man, truly .. then it's perfectly acceptable to contact him and initiate contact. Today's woman is strong, confident, she knows what she wants .. and won't sit back and revert to the old ways of thinking >>>> only a man can initiate.

thanks for the advise! Everything has been going great. We've been texting almost everyday and finally he called to chit chat one day, then we went out to eat and had a few drinks. After our date he even called to say goodnight, but I was kinda buzzed from the drinks so I missed his call. He just left a msg to say gnite. I thought that was sweet.

"But this sounds promising!"

I hope so too!

Last night my GEM called me like 5 times to meet him and to tell me what is happening at the place he was at. Then, today he apologized for calling me so much. LOL. I didn't meet with him cuz I've been drinking for four days in a row and I just saw him saturday. I'm thinking, I'll give him his space to hang out w/ his friends so we don't get sick of each other. 🙂

So yah definitely high on affection right now. He also said that he likes me a lot this saturday...but from what I've read about geminis that can easily change