candi3bb
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I finally saw The OTHER side of my gemini love...
there is no easing of the "other one" mua-ha ha ha. lol we just learn to deal with it and adapt to it and keep it in control... but sometimes (like what you experienced with ur bf) we cant keep it under control and it just shows up and any given moment and well you dont know what to expect because we may say or do things which some people will be like wtf? :s
I've realised with myself, when everything in my life is flowing fine, no stress, no dramas etc, im mainly my good side, but when something is off balance then I come and go in between good and bad side until I get everything balanced again
I've realised with myself, when everything in my life is flowing fine, no stress, no dramas etc, im mainly my good side, but when something is off balance then I come and go in between good and bad side until I get everything balanced again
The "other" one is, quite simply, just that...the other one.
It really isn't a matter of easing it or controlling it, per se. There have been times when the arrival of that other one has been my harbinger that something IS actually going off balance before I consciously realized it. When it shows up, I know it is time to mentally sift through everything to find the cause. In other words, the crazy twin is actually my divine guide telling me to open my flippin' eyes and look for what is about to go very, very wrong.
Frankly, this usually happens on the rare occasion when I've ignored my intuition (again, the divine guidance thing) about something or someone and it's about to blow up in my face. In fact, this happened very recently, with a family member with whom I was living. I kept thinking something was off, so I kept asking her about it. She kept reassuring me everything was fine. So, I took the reassurances at face value instead of listening to my intuition. I literally argued back and forth, just like you described with your BF, but with *myself*, i.e. my twin or my "other", about whether anything was wrong, and if there was, WHAT was wrong. She said nothing was wrong... when why do I still feel the hackles jumping on the back of my neck... oh, stop it, she wouldn't lie to me when I've asked her point blank and repeatedly..... oh really, why the hell not... on and on and on. The only difference is that I don't need another person to go those rounds with like your BF did with you. ROFLMAO!!
Uh huh.... Less than 2 weeks before Christmas I found myself homeless in the middle of winter, during a horrendous snow storm because of her spineless lies. Her words..."I was afraid to talk to you about this"...still piss me off. It was her fear I was apparently picking up on, but because we'd always been close before this and could talk our issues out, I couldn't imagine that she was scared to talk to me! Had I just paid attention to that "other" one, I could have prepared myself.
Moral of the story is that it might not be best to even try to "ease" either of the twins. Nature has set us up the way we are for a reason. The best you can do is just let "them" go at it while you mildly referee the mental dueling match by pointing out the common ground betwixt "their" opposing viewpoints. Crazy? Probably. Fascinating? Oh, abso-freakin-lutely!
It really isn't a matter of easing it or controlling it, per se. There have been times when the arrival of that other one has been my harbinger that something IS actually going off balance before I consciously realized it. When it shows up, I know it is time to mentally sift through everything to find the cause. In other words, the crazy twin is actually my divine guide telling me to open my flippin' eyes and look for what is about to go very, very wrong.
Frankly, this usually happens on the rare occasion when I've ignored my intuition (again, the divine guidance thing) about something or someone and it's about to blow up in my face. In fact, this happened very recently, with a family member with whom I was living. I kept thinking something was off, so I kept asking her about it. She kept reassuring me everything was fine. So, I took the reassurances at face value instead of listening to my intuition. I literally argued back and forth, just like you described with your BF, but with *myself*, i.e. my twin or my "other", about whether anything was wrong, and if there was, WHAT was wrong. She said nothing was wrong... when why do I still feel the hackles jumping on the back of my neck... oh, stop it, she wouldn't lie to me when I've asked her point blank and repeatedly..... oh really, why the hell not... on and on and on. The only difference is that I don't need another person to go those rounds with like your BF did with you. ROFLMAO!!
Uh huh.... Less than 2 weeks before Christmas I found myself homeless in the middle of winter, during a horrendous snow storm because of her spineless lies. Her words..."I was afraid to talk to you about this"...still piss me off. It was her fear I was apparently picking up on, but because we'd always been close before this and could talk our issues out, I couldn't imagine that she was scared to talk to me! Had I just paid attention to that "other" one, I could have prepared myself.
Moral of the story is that it might not be best to even try to "ease" either of the twins. Nature has set us up the way we are for a reason. The best you can do is just let "them" go at it while you mildly referee the mental dueling match by pointing out the common ground betwixt "their" opposing viewpoints. Crazy? Probably. Fascinating? Oh, abso-freakin-lutely!
^^^
Remember, one twin is actually attached to the divine, and the other is attached to the earth. When the "divine" speaks it omits the "other". All Gems need to recognize this. We are linked directly to the divine. Thus, the jealousy of other signs. It's not like we want that burden (yes, it is a burden) but it's ours. Own it, and stop apologizing for it. Because, minutes are being documented, and we are the secretaries. Know that.
~GM
Remember, one twin is actually attached to the divine, and the other is attached to the earth. When the "divine" speaks it omits the "other". All Gems need to recognize this. We are linked directly to the divine. Thus, the jealousy of other signs. It's not like we want that burden (yes, it is a burden) but it's ours. Own it, and stop apologizing for it. Because, minutes are being documented, and we are the secretaries. Know that.
~GM
@ GM
Ummm...not sure where I "apologized for it" because I don't apologize for who or what I am, but I do understand about "owning it". Normally I have no problem owning it, but as you know, this situation occurred with my only sister, of all people. She was the one person I thought I could trust to speak honestly with me and to me, so when my hackles went up 3 months ago, I struggled with accepting what my divine twin was trying to tell me about her. Yes, I paid the price for not listening, but there is no way you could scold me for it any more than I have already been scolded by the divine for it.
Ummm...not sure where I "apologized for it" because I don't apologize for who or what I am, but I do understand about "owning it". Normally I have no problem owning it, but as you know, this situation occurred with my only sister, of all people. She was the one person I thought I could trust to speak honestly with me and to me, so when my hackles went up 3 months ago, I struggled with accepting what my divine twin was trying to tell me about her. Yes, I paid the price for not listening, but there is no way you could scold me for it any more than I have already been scolded by the divine for it.
Posted by Norcalman67Posted by GeminiMind
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Remember, one twin is actually attached to the divine, and the other is attached to the earth. When the "divine" speaks it omits the "other". ~GM
Very true. We Gems can be on opposite sides of any argument; both the divine and the profane. It's a struggle not to compromise one for the other though. Love/Hate, Ecstasy/Fear, Grounded/Flighty can all be exhibited at any given moments and switch w/o warning.
It's something most Gems have to realize and control. What may Gems do not divulge is how overwhelming our emotions can be if we do not keep tight rein on them. Control is basic to many Gems. The loss of that control makes us very vulnerable to attack. A place I only ever allow one special person (significant other) to reach.
To candi3bb:
If your Gem has chosen to opened up to you... personally I'd consider that a big deal! It's rare we let our guard down that far. Good luck with him!click to expand
Very well said, and very true, brother.
Posted by Nethgilne
@ GM
Ummm...not sure where I "apologized for it" because I don't apologize for who or what I am, but I do understand about "owning it". Normally I have no problem owning it, but as you know, this situation occurred with my only sister, of all people. She was the one person I thought I could trust to speak honestly with me and to me, so when my hackles went up 3 months ago, I struggled with accepting what my divine twin was trying to tell me about her. Yes, I paid the price for not listening, but there is no way you could scold me for it any more than I have already been scolded by the divine for it.
Sorry baby, I wasn't speaking to you when I said "owning", I know better. I was referring to those who don't. You know, the young, undeveloped Gems. Again, my bad, I didn't clarify. 😉
And yeah, when the Divine scolds us, it's nasty, isn't it? But, we know we bring it on ourselves. That's that 'other' motherfucker manipulating us within our own minds. That's how you know that there is truly "Two".
Just TWO? Don't you folks feel there's an entire cast in there and they're all understudies for the lead? Or is it my Pisces moon tossing in its double personalities on top of my already doubled personality?
Pisces. But, my Lilith is in Pisces, so how do you think I feel— 😛
Thank god someone does. Talk about multiple persoanlity disorder. I wish they would all just vote on a leader and get on with it.
Saturn (of ALL freakin' planets) in Pisces, with Pisces in the 8th house (eek!) as well - yeah, it's no wonder I don't care for large crowds - I have one all my very own :p
The symbolism of the two signs speaks volumes about the burdens of each as well.
With Gemini, the twins are standing upright, side-by-side, and most often shown holding hands but looking in in opposite directions, whether it be looking toward each other or away from each other.
With Pisces, the fish are shown swimming in opposite directions, or in circles, as in the head-to-tail depictions.
Its no wonder we can end up not knowing whether we're a-comin' or a-goin'!!
The symbolism of the two signs speaks volumes about the burdens of each as well.
With Gemini, the twins are standing upright, side-by-side, and most often shown holding hands but looking in in opposite directions, whether it be looking toward each other or away from each other.
With Pisces, the fish are shown swimming in opposite directions, or in circles, as in the head-to-tail depictions.
Its no wonder we can end up not knowing whether we're a-comin' or a-goin'!!
thanks for all the comments!
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YOU GUYS are amazing i swear it. that brain of yours~
any advice you guy can offer
to help ease the twins?
how do you guys ease your other side 🙂??