Sigh

This gem and I would be great for each other, but he doesn't have a lot of "balance" in his life... still. Do gems even need balance?

The gem who I reconnected with told me that he felt he could just sort of cut himself off from people when the school semester started up again and simply come back months later when he was on break again. He would literally be too involved in his academics for relationships, whether platonic or romantic. This is basically the reason why we stopped seeing each other for several months. I told him that he couldn't just cut people out of his life, but he told me "the right people will still be there." When I spoke to him, I told him that he didn't have to sacrifice his academics for people, but it wasn't fair to expect people to wait for him until he was successful. It's like, "you can't have your cake and eat it too."

I care about him very much, and I know he cares about me the same, but I know it wouldn't be fair to me to have him randomly disappear again and to put me on the backburner.

I know some gems are prone to disappearing sometimes, but is this a mindset some agree with? Or am I just being selfish here?

I can breeze in and out of friend's lives, but never a romantic relationship. I love strongly and deeply and like to be all wrapped up in the person I'm with... think codependent to the nth degree. Now is that because my daddy didn't hug me enough?? Maybe, but I know this... I'm a classic gem and I don't care what I've got going on. If I like you and I want you, I'm gonna make it happen.

Balance is a sliding scale to Gems, sweets. Virgos are the ones that need to understand this. Intangibles, wild cards, and what if's are things in life that no one can foresee. Yet, you both are young and undeveloped, coupled with the societal manipulation on the mind and spirit ain't helpin.

~GM

Posted by GeminiMind
Balance is a sliding scale to Gems, sweets. Virgos are the ones that need to understand this. Intangibles, wild cards, and what if's are things in life that no one can foresee. Yet, you both are young and undeveloped, coupled with the societal manipulation on the mind and spirit ain't helpin.

~GM

When you say it like that, I understand more. No matter what, I'm always going to be there for him; I just didn't want to be caught up in the same issues we had before; it's true, it is hard to work together when you have so much going on already; I do kind of feel like, maybe down the line we can work something out.

Posted by geminiwizard
we dont put people on the back-burner, expecting them to be there when we come back to play. but us gemini dudes do take life and self improvement, or even goals more serious than romantic relationships. once we feel accomplished or we have finally interpreted our own meaning of life then we tend to settle down easier.

I will admit that when we first stopped seeing each other, I took it personally because I didn't understand what happened. It took me a little to realize that it wasn't personal, and that's what made me forgive the situation. It's like, he's someone I trust very much and I don't doubt anything he tells me or says about me; I appreciate all the times he told me he was proud of me and things like that, but I suppose I just want to be able to see him or to be around him, even if it's just platonic. It's something I still sort of have to work through.

Posted by Sultanaa
I know I might sound hostile; but I really dont think his putting his career and studies ahead is a bad thing. Should be something he's been taught at home maybe... He's in control of his life, knows what he wants and how to get to it, he seems like he has his shit together... But, like you said, he doesnt know how to balance out everything - either he might have figured out that keeping in the "play" when he's in "work" mode would lessen his seriousness hence the compartmentalization.

I don't think you sound hostile at all lol. I would prefer he keep himself on track because I'm very much the same way; he definitely has gotten his shit together and he's not going to allow anything to get in the way. I try not to let anything get in the way of my academics as well; but I was telling him I still try to make time for friends and outside things; he was just kind of like, "Nope, can't do it. Gotta keep myself busy." And I just didn't want to say, "So, you're just going to disappear for several months and then come back when you feel like it?" But you know, I've done that too before, so I didn't have a lot of room to make that comment. But, I remember once I told him before that he needed balance in his life because he was telling me he was barely sleeping due to studying too much, and he just made this side comment like, "You need to balance me."

If I like and love you very much I'd give my time even when I'm busy. I noticed this about me lately. How busy I was, I always manage to give time to the person I liked. I even put the person first above all, school and work. So I don't know about other geminis. I don't know if this has something to do with my moon being in cancer or my venus being in leo.

But if you did something that hurt me or made me feel that I'm not as important, I can make you feel the same. I did that
lately with the person I like. I disappear, and come back and disappear again, and made excuses when the person asked, and I said I was busy even when I wasn't.