I hurt my Gemini friends feelings :(

Profile picture of estellajones
estellajones
@estellajones
14 Years

Comments: 1 · Posts: 306 · Topics: 26
Without going too deep in to what I did, I said something indirectly about 6 months ago and she took it as a direct comment about her, I didn't realise we had fallen out until recently when I noticed that she had not been messaging me and when I saw her she would walk past me and pretend to not see me. Funniest thing is before I knew there was a fall out I had added her on my new Facebook and she accepted so I guessed that we were still friends but she was just going through her typical Gemini moment where she wanted to be left a lone for a while, afterwards she kept writing silly statuses that made me figure it was about me so I confronted her in a nice way basically asking what have I done to her and she told me, so I apologised for what I had done unintentionally she kept mugging me off she said she was over it and basically didn't care, still she isn't speaking to me and won't forgive me which is fair enough. My question is, why does she keep going on about it? She still writes things on her statuses that relates to the situation to get my attention she wasn't willing to forgive me after I tried yet she's writing about how people who apologise should have the correct behaviour after they apologise, although I have not done anything since apologising except leaving her alone and just getting on with my own life. I don't know what else she wants me to do as I miss being her friend but I don't want to look desperate and needy begging her back?
Profile picture of estellajones
estellajones
@estellajones
14 Years

Comments: 1 · Posts: 306 · Topics: 26
Thank you everyone for your feedback

I feel confused because before I apologised and realised we had fallen out she had my number still and would write statuses on whatsapp or Facebook to get my attention but liking my photos which is just weird, then she deleted me off her whatsapp so I messaged her and after finding out I upset her I apologised and tried to explain what happened and she was not hearing it she was acting like she didn't care..

So I left her to it and now she's upset that I'm leaving her to it?!

Shall I just leave her alone and not message her again? It's really hurting me as she was my bestfriend and I would never do or say anything to intentionally offend her and whatever I said she took way out of context and I just want to make up again, I have explained this to her but she wasn't having it and now I have left her alone she doeant like that with either! Lol I will never understand a Gemini.

I'm a Pisces and I have a Scorpio moon if I cut someone off I just cut them off she has my number back saved in her phone again so I know she's not fully cut me off yet plus I'm still on her Facebook
Profile picture of estellajones
estellajones
@estellajones
14 Years

Comments: 1 · Posts: 306 · Topics: 26
LOL!!! I like you, you're making light of the situation which has been bugging me for aaaaaaages I feel like I'm in a flipping relationship drama but she's just my old bestfriend I am so not like this usually haha.

It's her birthday next month, do you think I should text her happy birthday or maybe just leave it. I doubt she'll ever message me again if I don't message her first.

My sister is a Gemini and she is so hard to figure out she says one thing then does another...must be hard being a Gemini sometimes aye? Lol
Profile picture of estellajones
estellajones
@estellajones
14 Years

Comments: 1 · Posts: 306 · Topics: 26
LOL about the Scorpio who blocked you on FB then texting you sad that you blocked her, this Gemini dos similar to me she blocked me on another social and when I told her about it she denied it and said I had blocked her!!! She told me she had never fallen out with me and then went on to saying she doesn't care about me she changed the subject asking what I was doing that day I told her then asked what she was doing she replied and then I said okay well hope to see you soon x and she ignored me! Cheeky cow lol
Profile picture of WateryGem
WateryGem
@WateryGem
11 Years1,000+ Posts

Comments: 5 · Posts: 2644 · Topics: 158
Posted by estellajones
Without going too deep in to what I did, I said something indirectly about 6 months ago and she took it as a direct comment about her, I didn't realise we had fallen out until recently when I noticed that she had not been messaging me and when I saw her she would walk past me and pretend to not see me. Funniest thing is before I knew there was a fall out I had added her on my new Facebook and she accepted so I guessed that we were still friends but she was just going through her typical Gemini moment where she wanted to be left a lone for a while, afterwards she kept writing silly statuses that made me figure it was about me so I confronted her in a nice way basically asking what have I done to her and she told me, so I apologised for what I had done unintentionally she kept mugging me off she said she was over it and basically didn't care, still she isn't speaking to me and won't forgive me which is fair enough. My question is, why does she keep going on about it? She still writes things on her statuses that relates to the situation to get my attention she wasn't willing to forgive me after I tried yet she's writing about how people who apologise should have the correct behaviour after they apologise, although I have not done anything since apologising except leaving her alone and just getting on with my own life. I don't know what else she wants me to do as I miss being her friend but I don't want to look desperate and needy begging her back?



I think the amount of time it took for you to figure out that there was a problem, might, have made it harder for her to let go. I wonder if you NOT reaching out is what is hurting her. If someone apologized to me, I would want them to reach out to see me or whatever, to continue the friendship. I forgive pretty easily over things I can understand. If too much time passes, it will be harder for me to let the person back in.

Maybe, message her and ask her if she is referring to your situation. She might be posting stuff about someone else.
Communicate with her, let her know you want the friendship..

6 months.. Whew!! How close were you two?

What's her Moon sign?
Profile picture of estellajones
estellajones
@estellajones
14 Years

Comments: 1 · Posts: 306 · Topics: 26
She's a Gemini moon which makes the situation worst I feel, and yeah I left her for a while as I always do because sometimes she goes in these moments where she doesn't want to be bothered by anyone and just distances herself then she's back again.

I messaged her apologising for whatever I did and she wasn't very accepting, so I felt that because I apologised and she wasn't really willing to forgive but kept mentioning how she didn't care anymore and was trying to change the subject and just let it go that I should leave her be, and now I have left her she is back writing in directs about me again which I feel applies to our situation, the latest thing she wrote about me is how people are really sorry when they have the correct behaviour to show after Apologising..

So now I am very stuck on what to do, whether to just delete her out of my life or try again. I have never been in a situation like this before and it burns my ego so much I hate looking desperate for people's friendships which is why I just let go of people easily but because this is all a mess and miscommunication I want to make things right and be friends again. But I got the idea that she didn't want to, and now it seems like she wants me to run back again and be apologising some more like it wasn't enough last time and she wasn't just cutting me off not letting me explain properly or giving me a chance😢
Profile picture of WateryGem
WateryGem
@WateryGem
11 Years1,000+ Posts

Comments: 5 · Posts: 2644 · Topics: 158
Posted by estellajones
LOL!!! I like you, you're making light of the situation which has been bugging me for aaaaaaages I feel like I'm in a flipping relationship drama but she's just my old bestfriend I am so not like this usually haha.

It's her birthday next month, do you think I should text her happy birthday or maybe just leave it. I doubt she'll ever message me again if I don't message her first.

My sister is a Gemini and she is so hard to figure out she says one thing then does another...must be hard being a Gemini sometimes aye? Lol



Message her for her birthday and maybe, even send her a card. LOL I would try get her to warm up to you again. I have a guy friend that I'm on the outs with and I would hope he would still contact me on my birthday. I would for him.

She sounds like she is being stubborn.. Maybe, say something like you want to keep the friendship you apologized what else are you supposed to do, if she cares to keep the friendship you two need to talk and move past it without all the passive aggressive digs on her fb page.
Profile picture of estellajones
estellajones
@estellajones
14 Years

Comments: 1 · Posts: 306 · Topics: 26
Posted by moongem
"She's a Gemini moon which makes the situation worst I feel, and yeah I left her for a while as I always do because sometimes she goes in these moments where she doesn't want to be bothered by anyone and just distances herself then she's back again."

This is me hahaha... I do not disappear just busy. Even Libras cannot get this.



Lmao I'm a libra rising and to be honest I just leave her to it, does get a bit annoying sometimes though
Profile picture of estellajones
estellajones
@estellajones
14 Years

Comments: 1 · Posts: 306 · Topics: 26
Posted by WateryGem
Posted by estellajones
LOL!!! I like you, you're making light of the situation which has been bugging me for aaaaaaages I feel like I'm in a flipping relationship drama but she's just my old bestfriend I am so not like this usually haha.

It's her birthday next month, do you think I should text her happy birthday or maybe just leave it. I doubt she'll ever message me again if I don't message her first.

My sister is a Gemini and she is so hard to figure out she says one thing then does another...must be hard being a Gemini sometimes aye? Lol



Message her for her birthday and maybe, even send her a card. LOL I would try get her to warm up to you again. I have a guy friend that I'm on the outs with and I would hope he would still contact me on my birthday. I would for him.

She sounds like she is being stubborn.. Maybe, say something like you want to keep the friendship you apologized what else are you supposed to do, if she cares to keep the friendship you two need to talk and move past it without all the passive aggressive digs on her fb page.
click to expand




Definitely I couldn't agree with you more, plus I'm 8 months pregnant I think she should kind of accept that I don't really have time to be chasing a friendship that I already tried to before when I have a new life on its way in 2 months lol:/