Libra male and Gemini female (yes another one)

Hey guys, good to read some of the posts here - some interesting information floating around.

I'm a libra guy (October 16, 1986) looking to ask a gemini lady (May 25, 1989) out, but I need some opinions on the timing.

I met her about 3 weeks ago. Normally we used to just say a simple hi/bye but one time we got talking and it felt like time was flying fast - lots of laughter, ect. (I love her eyes, they're calm but piercing!) I have talked to her in person about 4 or so times during those 3 weeks, our time schedules are busy but I would like to get to knew her more. She's very friendly with me, laughs at my jokes, gets a little flirty - you know the typical Gemini (sometimes I wonder though, is she like this with all her friends?). Anyway, she is going on a trip for about a month in about 2 and half weeks.

So my question is: should I ask her for lunch (seems innocent enough) right now and then maybe secure another date before she leaves rather than waiting for her to come back from her trip?

My thoughts are: rejection is rejection, she can reject me right now or in a month if she's not into me, so I don't feel like waiting and want to ask her right now. I need a gemini perspective on this (yes, typical libra) to tell me that this maybe too soon for any gemini to get asked out? Perhaps you guys like to develop friendship first and then get romantically involved? To me though, it seems like once you get friend-zoned it is very hard to go to that initial romantic stage, possibly but somewhat unlikely. One gemini friend told me that I should wait...while most of my friends say I should go for it.

Also, she is a Christian....to what extent I do not know. I have asked her it and all she told me is that she goes to church with friends. If she is fully devoted then I'm fucked, because I am not....as far as I know then I will have no chances what so ever.

Looking forward to some good responses, will try to add more information later on.

Many thanks friends.

well first off if shes going away somewhere id get dat numba immediately and that way you wouldnt have to dependon randomly seeing her. id wait alittle bit more too, maybe a week but thats just me. haha and yes chances are shes that way with all of her friends but, with the ones she likes more itll be different,more deep nawmean? only you would know if its like that tho. either way id say your still good.

ohh, crapzzz...just do it. don't wait around, she will be gone by the time you make your decision. don't waste it.

Thank you all for the input. I will ask her this wednesday or friday then report back on the progress.

I'm late but I agree. Ask her out soon! Best of luck to you.

Update:

So today I decided I was gonna ask her. In the evening I see her at our usual meeting place (gym). She does her training with a few friends that are always surrounding her (that's geminis' attraction for ya 😉 )so I decide to get on with my training and wait until I can get a moment with her. Acting all mysterious like a libra, I wait for her to come to me and start a conversation (she always does this, eg. she comes and does exercises by me....then looks at me and starts talking 😄). We exchange a few jokes, talk with a few friends of hers, blah blah blah. I keep training since I still cant get one on one with her, wait for her to finish working out. As she is about to leave I manage to catch her by the door and ask her about what she is doing next week (the week before she leaves for the trip I mentioned previously). The conversation went something like this:

Her: Hey [name] so whats going on 🙂
Me: Hey [name], what are you doing next week/are you busy?
Her: You know im always busy, work, gym, ect.... Why?
Me: I thought we could grab lunch?
Her: Yeah sounds good! But I dont think lunch is good for me (due to her work schedule, ect.) but we should do dinner instead!
Me: Oh, so dinner at your place then? (haha typical of me)
Her: [laughs] No! We have to go out!

She then proceeds to tell me 'Not to hold her to that (cause her plans are always changing - so typical of her, haha!) and that I need to message her on FB and set it up basically.

Okay with that out of the way, I need to start planning where we gonna go...Im thinking something casual with a good atmosphere where we can have a bit of a chat, ect.

PS. I really hope she doesnt read my updates 😄 but you geminis might be as curious as I am haha.

Will post more updates as they surface,

LibraMale signing out.

Posted by LibraMale
Update:



PS. I really hope she doesnt read my updates 😄 but you geminis might be as curious as I am haha.

Will post more updates as they surface,

LibraMale signing out.

you never know... curiosity is our 1st nature. 🙂

wishing you luck!!

Update:

Okay weeeeeeeeell nothing much to update really. Both of us had a bit of trouble arranging the time. I threw several dates at her but she is busy. Asked me if I could do it during the week, I said yes but that day didn't suit her either. Haha! She still maintains contact with me so I don't think shes gone off of me, but seems like a bad timing. She's going away for a few weeks, so I'll try and maintain contact and then we'll see what happens.

Question: do geminis respond well to romance? I know a few girls (not gems) that would seriously laugh at me if I pulled out the romantic card (not even the corny shit!!).

Oh, yikes. I sensed trouble in the first conversation. It sounded like something I would have said if I wanted the option of being able to bow out of a situation gracefully. Not that she doesn't like you. Gems just like to keep one foot out the door...just in case. That shouldn't deter you at all. Maybe she just hadn't thought of you in a romantic sense yet and needed some time to absorb it. Just make it such an awesome date that she leaves with no doubt that you're an amazing guy! However, with her trip looming, maybe she really is insanely busy. It happens. Gems tend to leave everything to the last minute and get inundated.

Romance...hmmmm. Not on the first date, if it was me. It would make me uncomfortable. I would say to just be nice, attentive, not too eager, pull out a chair or two, and open some doors.

Take her somewhere interesting, but not a place that's more interesting than you! What I mean is, some places have so many decorations or so much going on that they are fun, but will make her Gemini distractability kick in. You want the place to add to your conversation, not detract from it.

skip the romance...we are too pragmatic for it. Even though we start things at times.
skip all allusions to dinner at her home - that's crude and assumptions (note the "ass" word in assumptions - you are making one out of yourself if you ever ASSume things with a Gem)
be cultured, polite, self assured, self fulfilled, and treat her as an equal, even if it means you pick up the tab, she will offer, but do not accept, lol. Learn to walk the tightrope - something for you as a Libra should be easy...balance your qualities out and she will be stuck like glue.

At this point, honestly, I would skip trying to get together before she leaves - sounds like she has a lot on her plate, if you push too hard she will bolt, and if you give her the freedom to chose, but let her know that you definitely want to go out with her, she may find an evening for you, if she wants.

Don't underestimate her juggling ability - if she wants something to do with you, she will find the time. Be ready for last minute, lol.

Good luck.

Thank you Whimsy & roamingfree.

Whimsy: I think youre correct about her not seeing me in a romantic sense (I may have picked up on the wrong signals). Was planning on taking her to a casual italian restourant, not too romantic i think!

roamingfree: do you mind expanding on what you mean by 'walking the tightrope'? I have taken your advice re: planning to get together before she leaves on her trip......will wait until she gets back.