Missing my Gemini bestfriend

Fell out with my bestfriend a Gemini over something that I didn't say about her and she won't believe, anyway I've left her alone but it seems she just won't contact me first and I doubt she ever will. I've tried to make up before but she said she doesn't care about it and basically wants to move on from it, she wouldn't believe me when I tried to tell her I didn't say bad things about her which is fair enough as I know she's insecure as it is and has trust issues.

Not sure whether to just delete her number and move on, she keeps bringing the situation up in statuses and that's how I know she doesn't want to make up again or even believe me, I just ignore her and leave her to it in hopes that she'll message me again one day but it's been 8 months since we fell out and she's not tried only I have.

We can be really stubborn...have you considered that it's more than this particular incident? I know I'll give plenty of rope and then, one thing even if it seems insignificant will cause me to explode. You might want to think what has happened in the past between the two of you that led up to this or it could be that someone else has hurt her and then your situation might have been the catalyst for her current behaviour....

I don't know, but if she's still referring to it then it might just be her way of finally getting out whatever has been bothering her and not about ever reconciling. She seems deeply hurt from something....we often let things go, if for a while.... 😢

I agree with you her boyfriend is always bringing her down making her feel insecure and something I said made her think it was directed at her unfortunately because she's so insecure I can understand she would think this way.

I know she's definitely hurting I can see that which is why I'm leaving her alone

I think you're doing the right thing in leaving her alone & I also agree with Gem, in that for me (Gem moon/venus) I have a bad habit of letting things that irk me go on for a long time. 1. I believe in allowing people the freedom to be who they genuinely are & not trying to change them to suit myself but 2. I have a hard time concluding that some of those irks are not okay with me/can't be overlooked & maybe the friendship isn't salvageable.

I had a best friend (pisces) a few years ago. We were both going through some pretty hard stuff which caused us to not be the best friends we could have been to each other at that time & eventually we fell out. After about a year, when thing had calmed down for me & I had time to reflect, I decided to apologize for my part in being an unsupportive friend. (You're friend may do this if you give her time & space) We got back to being friends but it was never the same & I saw things that had irked me before more clearly. (She was very gossipy/ 2 faced & just a really negative person over all) I decided that it was better off that we not be friends anymore. Because people grow & go through different experiences that change them & go down different paths in life. After about a year she sent me an apology message, which I thanked her for taking the time to do & wished her the best of luck in life, no hard feelings... but the friendship was over. Sometimes that's just for the best.

Posted by RiverLee
I think you're doing the right thing in leaving her alone & I also agree with Gem, in that for me (Gem moon/venus) I have a bad habit of letting things that irk me go on for a long time. 1. I believe in allowing people the freedom to be who they genuinely are & not trying to change them to suit myself but 2. I have a hard time concluding that some of those irks are not okay with me/can't be overlooked & maybe the friendship isn't salvageable.

I had a best friend (pisces) a few years ago. We were both going through some pretty hard stuff which caused us to not be the best friends we could have been to each other at that time & eventually we fell out. After about a year, when thing had calmed down for me & I had time to reflect, I decided to apologize for my part in being an unsupportive friend. (You're friend may do this if you give her time & space) We got back to being friends but it was never the same & I saw things that had irked me before more clearly. (She was very gossipy/ 2 faced & just a really negative person over all) I decided that it was better off that we not be friends anymore. Because people grow & go through different experiences that change them & go down different paths in life. After about a year she sent me an apology message, which I thanked her for taking the time to do & wished her the best of luck in life, no hard feelings... but the friendship was over. Sometimes that's just for the best.

Sounds a bit like us I'm a Pisces too and I genuinely think this is how she feels about me too, she's always writing statuses about me even though I tried to make friends with her and I can tell I'm genuinely getting on her nerves even though I've left her alone, she's not deleted my number yet on whatsapp and I think she wants me to apologise again I don't know but as you said it's best to leave her alone I feel like she'll never ever approach me first she's too stubborn Gemini sun and moon

I wouldn't assume that she'll never approach you. I'm a Taurus sun. Taurus is famous for being stubborn & even I eventually reached out to apologize for my part. One thing I can say about my ex Pisces friend is that her apology sucked lol I don't know what your apology looked like but hers went something like.... "I'm sorry for saying the things I did BUT you did xyz in the past..." To me, that isn't an apology, it's a way of excusing bad behavior. I had already apologized for things that I said & she said that she forgave me, but clearly didn't & it festered. Oh well, that's a big reason why I decided not to try to have a friendship again. If the moon rules the emotions, I can tell you this about my Gemini moon, I don't operate from an emotional standpoint. I may get angry, hurt, sad etc but it doesn't last very long before logic kicks in & I start thinking about the how's & why's of what happened. That includes MY part as well. Which is why I said to leave her alone & let her sort through things.

Posted by RiverLee
I wouldn't assume that she'll never approach you. I'm a Taurus sun. Taurus is famous for being stubborn & even I eventually reached out to apologize for my part. One thing I can say about my ex Pisces friend is that her apology sucked lol I don't know what your apology looked like but hers went something like.... "I'm sorry for saying the things I did BUT you did xyz in the past..." To me, that isn't an apology, it's a way of excusing bad behavior. I had already apologized for things that I said & she said that she forgave me, but clearly didn't & it festered. Oh well, that's a big reason why I decided not to try to have a friendship again. If the moon rules the emotions, I can tell you this about my Gemini moon, I don't operate from an emotional standpoint. I may get angry, hurt, sad etc but it doesn't last very long before logic kicks in & I start thinking about the how's & why's of what happened. That includes MY part as well. Which is why I said to leave her alone & let her sort through things.

Very true and as a Pisces I am guilty for doing this although I didn't apologise I had nothing to apologise for as I never called her anything but I was sorry for what she thought was about her and I explained myself about the situation and she was still not having it then I left the door open for her told her to call me anytime she wanted to catch up and she just ignored me. Straight after she went on to writing things about me again and saying how apologies mean nothing until you see the corrected behaviour after one, I just ignored them all and carried on with my life especially as I'm about to have a baby any minute now thought she would see that I have better things to focus on than her and her insecurities I did say however that if she didn't believe me then clearly I wasn't a good friend to her because she should know I'm the last person to call her any horrible names

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Posted by RiverLee
I wouldn't assume that she'll never approach you. I'm a Taurus sun. Taurus is famous for being stubborn & even I eventually reached out to apologize for my part. One thing I can say about my ex Pisces friend is that her apology sucked lol I don't know what your apology looked like but hers went something like.... "I'm sorry for saying the things I did BUT you did xyz in the past..." To me, that isn't an apology, it's a way of excusing bad behavior. I had already apologized for things that I said & she said that she forgave me, but clearly didn't & it festered. Oh well, that's a big reason why I decided not to try to have a friendship again. If the moon rules the emotions, I can tell you this about my Gemini moon, I don't operate from an emotional standpoint. I may get angry, hurt, sad etc but it doesn't last very long before logic kicks in & I start thinking about the how's & why's of what happened. That includes MY part as well. Which is why I said to leave her alone & let her sort through things.

Very true and as a Pisces I am guilty for doing this although I didn't apologise I had nothing to apologise for as I never called her anything but I was sorry for what she thought was about her and I explained myself about the situation and she was still not having it then I left the door open for her told her to call me anytime she wanted to catch up and she just ignored me. Straight after she went on to writing things about me again and saying how apologies mean nothing until you see the corrected behaviour after one, I just ignored them all and carried on with my life especially as I'm about to have a baby any minute now thought she would see that I have better things to focus on than her and her insecurities I did say however that if she didn't believe me then clearly I wasn't a good friend to her because she should know I'm the last person to call her any horrible names

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LOL I was just talking to my Pisces friend last night and he gave me the emptiest apology. I was like "wtf, really", what was that? he started laughing, let's just say that cute stuff is cute but OMG, I need resolution for issues otherwise the problem continues and it really keeps me from getting close to that person. We didn't end the call on a good note, but