Gems prone to falling in love w/their BEST Friend?

I have read the Geminis value a mental connection soo much they rather have a friend then a GF or BF? Is this true? Has anyone fallen in love w/their best friend because of the "connection"? And did you guys end up together?

Posted by Moonbutter
I have read the Geminis value a mental connection soo much they rather have a friend then a GF or BF? Is this true? Has anyone fallen in love w/their best friend because of the "connection"? And did you guys end up together?

I would say if a man is really close to me, there is a HIGHER chance of me developing feelings, if we have a deep stimulating connection. I have never fallen for a best friend but I do like to start off as friends. I have never been the type to just connect with someone and we start dating. When I was in high school that's how that worked. I had one boyfriend for 3yrs..

Once, I got out of high school I wasn't like that. I had to really get to know people. I need chemistry, a pull, a vision that I see this person long term..

Also, there is one guy that if we were to hangout I know we would fool around. We are TOO close emotionally.. LOL It's a bad situation b/c it could KILL our friendship if we hooked up and it went sour. So in a way I don't think we end up falling for our BFF.

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Posted by Moonbutter
I have read the Geminis value a mental connection soo much they rather have a friend then a GF or BF? Is this true? Has anyone fallen in love w/their best friend because of the "connection"? And did you guys end up together?

I would say if a man is really close to me, there is a HIGHER chance of me developing feelings, if we have a deep stimulating connection. I have never fallen for a best friend but I do like to start off as friends. I have never been the type to just connect with someone and we start dating. When I was in high school that's how that worked. I had one boyfriend for 3yrs..

Once, I got out of high school I wasn't like that. I had to really get to know people. I need chemistry, a pull, a vision that I see this person long term..

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Thanks for sharing WateryGem 🙂 I'm just trying to figure out where I stand with my guy friend. It seems he has cut a lot of peeps out of his life(80% ) and says I'm the only girl who has stuck around knowing nothing can come out of it then friendship(because he can't date). I kinda told him my feelings and how I liked him years ago(he reciprocated) But I said he gave me mixed msgs like flipping a coin, and he agreed he pushed women away. Then he started getting really emotional and saying "I've been a jerk to you." I tried to console him but he was beating himself up internally. Then he composed himself and a bit later asked me to go w/him on his best friend's date with a girl he likes. So I guess a double date? lol what to make of all this? I figured you would be the best to ask w/your placements. Why you think he got so emotional and do you think he may still have feelings for me? Thanks in advance!

That happened all the time is HS too but it so much after.

not really , I don't let it grow further it's all are nothing . My best friends are my only few friends and are like bro /sis to me , about love it's a total different connection .I am Gemini with scorpio rising .

Posted by justhewayouare
not really , I don't let it grow further it's all are nothing . My best friends are my only few friends and are like bro /sis to me , about love it's a total different connection .I am Gemini with scorpio rising .

Hi justhewayouare 🙂 What kind of connection? I mean we have a really good mental and I would say emotional connection. We don't hang out very often, but text a lot. he tells me a lot of personal stuff, sends me selfies, and recently broke down in front of me when I confronted him about giving mixed msgs to me for years. He said (at least for now) he just needs friends...I feel like I'm his best lady friend he says "You're the only one I can have weird discussions with" and "the connection has always been there for sure." And admitted to being attracted to me before...so would that mean he looks at me like a potential love interest?

Thank u Kjk62

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Posted by justhewayouare
not really , I don't let it grow further it's all are nothing . My best friends are my only few friends and are like bro /sis to me , about love it's a total different connection .I am Gemini with scorpio rising .

Hi justhewayouare 🙂 What kind of connection? I mean we have a really good mental and I would say emotional connection. We don't hang out very often, but text a lot. he tells me a lot of personal stuff, sends me selfies, and recently broke down in front of me when I confronted him about giving mixed msgs to me for years. He said (at least for now) he just needs friends...I feel like I'm his best lady friend he says "You're the only one I can have weird discussions with" and "the connection has always been there for sure." And admitted to being attracted to me before...so would that mean he looks at me like a potential love interest?

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Hi 🙂,
I mean Deep connection , so I can't love my best friend , once we are friends we just stay this way ( I don't feel a kind of attraction like a magnetism ), if I love them /crush I feel a connection from the beginning that I don't have with friends but it could be different with other gemini wth their rising sign and venus sign .

Hmm deep connection? Like soul emotional and mental, spiritual? Or like physical connection? I believe we have it all except I'm not so sure about the physical chemistry...we had it but maybe too much time has passed or I can feel him "not there" so I don't feel it?

Posted by Moonbutter
Hmm deep connection? Like soul emotional and mental, spiritual? Or like physical connection? I believe we have it all except I'm not so sure about the physical chemistry...we had it but maybe too much time has passed or I can feel him "not there" so I don't feel it?

soul emotional for me most but all you named could enter in that category.

Haha kjk62... You are right, however I compare every guy to him(sigh) he is just unattainable until his kid grows up. Just never had that kind of connection w/someone before and physical attraction I just don't know what to do about it 😢

I'm a Gem moon/venus .... I'll give this a shot. But first of all why can't he date right now?

I seem to have better/longer relationships when I start out as being friends first. For a couple of reasons I think.
1. I don't like to feel pressured into liking someone & when they make their motivations known IE: chasing/pursuing, it scares me away. When I start out as just friends it gives me the time to get to know the real them with no ulterior motive & putting their best foot forward & I can see how they handle all kinds of situations without trying to impress me. I feel like when a person first meets you & immediately starts pursuing, they don't even know the real you & they're pursuing a fantasy of what they want or think you could be. That's not real or genuine & it takes time to get to know who a person really is.
2. I have an issue with being suffocated or tied down. I like my independence & space & most people want to consume you in a relationship. Friends typically don't feel the need to talk everyday, multiple times a day so I get the freedom I like which allows my feelings to grow IF they're going to.

Because it sounds like you've known this guy for a long time (6 years?) that's plenty of time to have gotten to know the real you. Sometimes it happens that I will befriend someone with the potential for more in the back of mind & somewhere along the way I decide for any number of reasons that we could never be more than friends. It doesn't take me 6 years to figure that out unless there's been a long stretch of no communication somewhere in between. The longest it's taken me to start dating a friend was 2 years but I usually know within a year if I'm going to leave them in the friend category or if I would want to date them.

I don't know how often you communicate, you said you don't see each other often but text a lot. Which, if I could see a friend as more than a friend I would probably try to see them more often. But I would try to cut down on the texting if it's happening often, like every day, all day & see how he reacts. It may be that he's grown too comfortable & is taking your availability to him for granted. It's in the space of not seeing or speaking to a friend that I start to miss them & my mind would start to wander to "what if" or "what it would be like" to have more with that person.

I married my best friend! 🙂

Love will only get you so far... Humans fall in and out all the time. And lust, even shorter. But having a best friend thru thick and thin.... Normally lasts a life time.

🙂