Need gemini (esp woman) suggestion

Hello all, this is my first time posting here, I need your help in understanding a Gemini woman. So here's my situation:

I'm kind of new in my work place and am replacing this Cancer guy. I was brand new to the job so this guy gave me TONS of help and spent so much time helping me transitioning to this new job. I did not know that he has a girlfriend (a Gemini) in the beginning so I returned his act of kindness with being friendly (no I did not do anything bad, it's just that when I know that this guy or that guy has a girlfriend, I tend to step back a little because I really don't like to invoke rivalry from the gf). In addition, this Cancer guy is more senior than me in the job, so I thought I'd better be very nice to him since you know you're supposed to be nice to your senior coworker.

So I knew that this Gemini was close to the Cancer, but I didn't know that they were in a relationship. They also never publicize their relationship (never show it in public so a newcomer like me wouldn't know) so I guess I joked around with him a little too much. He was very nice to me and seemed to like to talk to me, sometimes he even started it.

Anyway, fast forward couple months later, I finally found out that they were in a relationship. Since then I have been watching my actions much more carefully so I did not invoke any negative feelings from her. But apparently the damage has been done, she is watching me like a hawk now so I barely even dare to approach this Cancer guy. My question is, what is your input in the whole situation? Do you think I am being over sensitive (I am a Cancer) and imagining things or do you think she really is upset with me?

In my defense:

1) I am in a serious relationship and everyone in the office knows about it. I even put my boyfriend's picture in my cube so that everyone does not get the wrong message
2) I do not feel that I have done anything unacceptable with him, I did not try to talk suggestively to him or anything like that. All I did was trying to start a conversation about movie, work, etc. All was done professionally in workplace.
3) I do like to laugh and joke around so I like to make jokes with him and such. I however, do not do this with him only. I do it with everyone, male or female, in the office. Well except with this Gemini girl of course, for the obvious reason lol.

(con't)

I don't understand why can't she just take it that I have a boyfriend, and have no intention on taking her bf? Why must she feel so threatened with me? I've been told by some people that I'm cute or pretty, but seriously, I'm not model level drop dead gorgeous and I think she has a really nice body (I have to admit nicer than mine). So why would she feel threatened with me?

What's interesting is that this Cancer's birthday is the same as mine, and her birthday is the same as my boyfriend (yes I am dating a Gem!) lol.

Your input will be much appreciated. 🙂

seems like she's not upset that you talk with her bf. it's that you talk to her bf, others, but not with her... why wouldn't you include talking to her like everyone else? she may feel that you have a problem with her, seeing she's not included. strike up a conversation with her and let her get to know you a bit. 🙂

Posted by moneyliciouss
What's interesting is that this Cancer's birthday is the same as mine, and her birthday is the same as my boyfriend (yes I am dating a Gem!) lol.

Your input will be much appreciated. 🙂

DATZ NUTZ.

Well, since y'all are vibing off those date numbers already... why don't you go make friendly with her?

That's all 😉

Misslissa & Kleo, thank you very much for your input.

I have been trying to be friendly with her, but she gives off this vibe of that's a little unapproachable. But yes perhaps it is a cause and effect thing... since she gives off that vibe, now I am a little wary of her and have become less friendly and she perhaps could tell from the way I look at her, etc. I have tried smiling at her, striking up a conversation even though it was a little awkward and apparently it didn't help because she was still giving me that look yesterday lol.

I have tried to show that I am not trying to compete with her at all, but I kind of get the feeling that she does. She used to not care about her appearances, but now she is wearing all those sexy clothes to the office, high heels etc. I used to dress better (because I was new at the job) but now I wear much more casual clothes. But everytime she passes me she's giving me that look, like looking at me head to toe, etc. If I don't know better I'd think that she's checking me out (lol that is a joke 😛). I could play her game by wearing as sexy or sexier clothes than her (lol) but I think it's low to do that. Hence I'm dressing down and want to make a statement that she doesn't need to feel threatened by me, I am in no way trying to compete with her.

I have another female Gemini coworker and do not have this kind of issue with her. I'm beginning to wonder if she is a different kind of Gem...

Posted by misslissa
seems like she's not upset that you talk with her bf. it's that you talk to her bf, others, but not with her... why wouldn't you include talking to her like everyone else? she may feel that you have a problem with her, seeing she's not included. strike up a conversation with her and let her get to know you a bit. 🙂

+1 - If you're on good joking/talking terms with everyone else now save, her. She's prob going to feel a little wierd if it progresses this way. Just start talking AT her.

@wineaux: I kind of get the feeling that she might be insecure about her relationship... but I want to make sure that I don't imagine things (I am a Cancer after all lol). Point is I'm not sure why, she and this Cancer have been in a long term relationship, and they even bought a house together under their names. It's not like they can just break up and bye-bye, right?

Anyway, thanks everyone for the input. I will try to strike a conversation again and keep being friendly to her, and see how that goes with her. 🙂

its not your fault that the cancer guy is a cheap ass ho..Cancer men are like that.

Dressing up and then dressing down randomly is something I do often. My mood changes a lot and so do my wants in the morning. I'll go for months without make-up etc and then just pop into full groom. I honestly don't think she's jealous or feels a competition with you. She'd more likely make a comment or two about it to you if so. It seems more plausible that she's getting weird vibes from you and had already begun to return them before you realized what was going on...if even that.

My past experiences with cancer women started on around the same note as this. One of my closer friends thought the same about me when we first started working with each other years back. I always thought she just didn't like me. Now I really don't know what I'd do without her.

If I was in your position I would let it drop from your mind. This way you can carry on a normal conversation with her next time you see her. I'm betting she's sensing nervousness from you and that could be even more confusing.

maybe ask her opinion on something she likes, or has interests in, i'm a gemini and i like to talk about food, or stuff i'm cooking, or my new trainer, or make up, that's what my coworkers talk to me about and i'm pretty engaged when i talk about stuff i like or am into at the moment. Try to find some common bond with her... i guess i can be pretty cold but once you break the ice, i start warming up... but if she does have eyes on you like a hawk... just keep up that friendly exterior... i mean i once shot daggers at this chick cause this guy i was dating said he liked her shoes, i was so pissed off... ha ha. geminis be crazy,