KingOfAries
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Need HELP with Geminiegirll
therefore i dont know whether to wait and "hit" on her when we start studying, so that she has no choice, or should i do it now... with other bishes i wouldnt give a crap id do it right away, but this girl is once in a lifetime opportunity and i really wanna make it right.. i think she likes me a little bit but doesnt show it, and abt my friend she told me that she said to him that she doesnt like him and he can get pretty much any girl he wants he has really good charisma, oh and yesterday it was raining she had a big umbrella and i had a big umbrella, we were walking on campus, she first ran up under mine saying it would be better to use one, then she changed her mind for some reason and ran away and opened hers, then walked further away from me, when i turned around she said we cant walk close to each other because our umbrellas are too large, i was like "..okay?" and then i used to greet her on her cheek now she leans away when she sees me so taht i dont do that so i stopped, whatever, she doesnt like it, hope its not anything against me.. but her umbrella thing almost made me think she said "oh no if i walk with him he will think that i like him or people will see us together" i was as always dressed top notch so i dont get it.. please explain and give me some advise..
im off to school will be back little later
im off to school will be back little later
you're over analyzing things here. She's just being herself and you make something out of nothing. You can hit on her, even if she said that she can't or won't date - it doesn't matter, she's probably still clinging someway to her ex, but she can change her mind as soon as she thinks of it and has fun - much like the umbrella fiasco. I wouldn't make much of it though...
also to me it seems like you are just being such an Aries - you keep ramming her, but you're not getting anywhere, so either go with it or drop it. You keep spinning your wheels. Maybe it's time you have lunch with her and really talk to her and stop being so wishy washy about everything?
Go to the darn movie. She wouldn't have mentioned it if she wasn't wanting to see it with you. Keep giving her opportunities to have fun with you. She aleady knows you like her...no one needs to tell a Gemini that. According to what you wrote, even if she's interested in you she's not at all sure about you yet. She made sure to tell YOU that just because she's single doesn't mean she can necessarily date. She's also avoiding contact that seems too intimate for just friends (being close to you under the umbrella).
All there is to do is (1) keep hanging with her and let her figure out for herself if you're a match, or (2) do what roamingfree suggested and lay it on the line in a face-to-face conversation (keep it LIGHT- very LIGHT- no emotional scenes or ultimatums). Even if she says she just wants to be friends, at least there won't be a white elephant in the room anymore and she might feel more free around you. Be ready to ACCEPT the friendship if that's how she wants it. It doesn't mean she will never want to date you in the future.
I hope you were making a joke when you told us you forbade her to do something. We already told you to tone that stuff down.
All there is to do is (1) keep hanging with her and let her figure out for herself if you're a match, or (2) do what roamingfree suggested and lay it on the line in a face-to-face conversation (keep it LIGHT- very LIGHT- no emotional scenes or ultimatums). Even if she says she just wants to be friends, at least there won't be a white elephant in the room anymore and she might feel more free around you. Be ready to ACCEPT the friendship if that's how she wants it. It doesn't mean she will never want to date you in the future.
I hope you were making a joke when you told us you forbade her to do something. We already told you to tone that stuff down.
+1
Posted by Whimsy
I hope you were making a joke when you told us you forbade her to do something. We already told you to tone that stuff down.
i actually got furious after she told me that that asshole was hitting on her, so i told her what i did, she said nothing, then next time we were talking about her friend and i said ill talk to her, she said no dont, it was supposed to b e convo abt her friends mother and i kinda know her, i wouldnt go i was just teasing, i knew she didnt want me to talk to her, but i said it and she says, if you talk to her ill talk to your friend, then i said NO fine i wont hahaha, and she says are you being hypocritical, to which i gave her a smiling look that said "seriously?" she was laughing back with her eyes, and the last time we ate we kinda started talkign about each other, it was always a closed topic, always about school and few mutual friends, now i kinda dug in more, also... okay ill just lay it on the table next time i see her, ill try to, i need to, it actually worked once before i kept telling her we should hang out and one day she called me out and we had good time, at that time she had bf though.. idk but i think shes little fascinated with me because im different trust me.. so ill keep it cool and the next time we're together ill have that conversation with her, thank you very much for help both of you
good. now just remember this visual: you are the stubborn, rough sheep, she's the airy butterfly creature - so act accordingly. dont ram, but also don't be afraid. Neither one of you will get hurt 🙂
Hope it works.
Hope it works.
Good luck to you!
meh, spoken like a Scorp. She may not leave him. Gems don't work that way. If she left the bf, she's detached before it ended. The rest is just a habit. She may like him. Gem's don't get fluttery over someone they don't give 2 cents about. I say try it - gently, just don't ram and you will see. She will tell you what's up, and she will not hurt your feelings. Gem's dont get off on destroying egos and are perceptive enough to know how a person feels.
oooh..... I only heard about the Gem girl for months. oh, well.
eeek....
plan failed was supposed to see her on friday but she was studying for finals, will try to see her this week, very unlikely, but next week is the best bet after her last final, though one quick question before i proceed, do you think its better to ask her if she is back with her bf and then ask her to chill together - that will clearly tell her what my intentions are and probably freak her out, or should i ask her out and see what she has to say, i never been in this kind of situation before so i donno what would you for example prefer? or should i ask her friend about her bf in which case she MIGHT or MIGHT NOT know, if she does then id just go straight to asking her out, if she doesnt then i go back to the other plan..
and fudge i feel that this is so complicated and i feel like ill fail and embarrass myself and make things awkward and she is just one of a kind trust me -_- thing is if she says no to a date i can keep nagging until she says yes, she knows im stubborn so eventually she will give up.. my gem ex told me if she says yes to take her to a romantic place, so give me ideas where to take her, just to give you an idea, i live in nyc brooklyn, she knows places in brooklyn but i bet a lot of those places she knows cause of her EX, so i need to pick something exclusive, what do you gem girls like?
and fudge i feel that this is so complicated and i feel like ill fail and embarrass myself and make things awkward and she is just one of a kind trust me -_- thing is if she says no to a date i can keep nagging until she says yes, she knows im stubborn so eventually she will give up.. my gem ex told me if she says yes to take her to a romantic place, so give me ideas where to take her, just to give you an idea, i live in nyc brooklyn, she knows places in brooklyn but i bet a lot of those places she knows cause of her EX, so i need to pick something exclusive, what do you gem girls like?
Posted by DazedScorp
*smh*
She just got out of a three year long relationship!
Get the fuck off her nuts FFS!
Other than that, she turned you down to begin with because she wasn't interested in you romantically. What makes you think her mind has changed?
Seriously, everyone has told you since the beginning of thise several, several months ago, to find someone else. If she leaves her boyfriend for you, she's going to leave you also.
she didnt leave him for me, they just broke up, im not sure about the reason yet but im planning on finding out when i ask whether they they got back together, or maybe i wont, dont really care why, fact is they did
Posted by DazedScorp
I think so far it's been, the Gem, the Aqua, the Scorp, and I believe an Aries...
All of which had serious boyfriends.
lol dude what? the scorp was back in summer and she was single and delirious as all scorps, the aqua was in like august? and i only liked her cause of her looks, if she broke up with him for me i would never date her, she doesnt know what she wants and i am trying to get rid of her, for real, shes just an annoyance,
the gemini is the only one im after and if you really have been following my life then you would remember that i was never hitting on her ive been living my life and quietly waiting, now i dont even know why im explaining myself to you, you think you know how i think but you clearly dont, and i see no reason why would i be lying to myself or people who i am asking for help. end of conversation and lets not dig up false facts, clearly pot messed up your memory my friend so if you got to say something please verify it.. and an aries? dude i was never after aries, thanks for attention though im flattered
oh and finally, its not my fault she had a boyfriend, not my fault that most good girls are taken
just ask her out. she will say yes or no. forget about her bf. if she's with him, she will not go out with you, if she is not than she may, if she's with him and does go out with you - than you dont want her anyways.
Posted by DazedScorpPosted by KingOfAries
the gemini is the only one im after and if you really have been following my life then you would remember that i was never hitting on her
Posted by KingOfAries
Should i just kiss her when im close and were doing something..because when im close it is SO hard to resist shes so gorgeous and smart, for people like her i would do literally anything, i know it sounds insane but i am a giver and id give anything as long as i felt that she is mine and i was hers
https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/gemini/i-am-aries-she-is-gemini-2545537/
https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/gemini/aries-asking-out-a-geminie-girl-3-2576742/
https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/gemini/need-a-gemini-human-translation-2800072/
I'm not going to post all of this...
But you knew she had a boyfriend, and yes you were hitting on her. Hell, you kissed her on the forehead. Get a grip kid. Stay away from another mans woman unless you want a visit to the ER.click to expand
lmao dude you really have no life, when the hell was that? and the forehead kiss was a friendly kiss if youre jealous you never got one too bad, besides we both were drunk and she grabbed my ass before that, i do anything extraordinary, everything i do is matching the situation, i never had any awkward moments with her, and regardless SHE IS SINGLE how many times to i have to repeat that? really dude little memory check? and please dont take me off topic anymore youre being irrelevent and i really dont understand what youre trying to prove nor care to understand so you might as well just use your potential for something less important than my issue
they broke up
Posted by enni
KingOfAries, I'm confused. Is that girl is separated from her boyfriend? Or broke up?
I don't feel like reading your mumbling post.
fukc you
people i need a read on her, anyone who can, she is
HER June 20, 1990
Me April 15, 1992
by the way i didnt get to talk to her srsly about our relationship because before finals newither of us care, ill get her to go out with me after finals and after we relax, have a few drinks maybe hookah ill ask her if she likes me, that is as easy on her as it can get.. also once we are in the relationship i wanna know how to set the ultimatum of faithful relationship, i know that she flirts but once guys hit on her she turns them down, and instead of saying "i have a boyfriend" she will most likely say "no i dont like you" so this is a dilemma for me and ive been cheated on by a gemini before that years back in highschoool i was away in summer, after i came back i found out they were going out since the beginning of the summer, there was tom and jerry for a little while but i actually never got to talk to the guy or see him and i dotn even think he knows about me, but i had my hands tied sort of so whatever. I just am worried it doesnt happen again, i mean it wont happen i am the best there is, but from my experience w/ gemini once her ex will start talking to her he can easily convince her to go out with him and thats when stuff can happen, of coarse ill notice but it will be too late, hence i need to know how to prevent it. Now, I could easy come upfront about it after week of going out, but i dont want to show her that i dont trust her, or i can put a software on her iphone that will send me her texts, locations, and phonecall logs and just keep her secretly on the leash, would be also nice to get her facebook password a lot of people i know willingly give it to their boyfriends, dont think it will work with her she is pretty secretive, but i've opened up geminis lots of times ill pop that one open too, but yeah, let me know what you think i could do to prevent all that potential crap.
dude idk if u had any gemini experiences but its some thing like this, you broke up per say, didnt talk for 2 months, then you "accidentally" call her in the middle of the night, she texts back you start talking, in the morning u tell her u miss her very much and still love her, she will say back the same, and on these spontaneous emotions you can do WHATEVER you want, you can take her out easily, in a snap, unless she is really dedicated to the new relationship, but if its nothing strong yet she will go for it
what you say is true and thats what i will most likely roll with, ill just keep my eyes and years opened to stuff like that, once she starts acting weird ill pressure her to open up
eh whatever, shes pissed off at me for annoying her during finals so my hands are tied until she goes over the grudge + i kept mentioning us hanging out maybe i pushed to hard and she felt weird.. girl needs her time off, but if this is the case then i blew the opportunity to see Sherlock Holmes 2 with her :/ well guess will go see it with another hottie, im not giving up on the gem though.
laughs*
sighs....(bangs head on table)
hahaha move on...
sighs....(bangs head on table)
hahaha move on...
Now, I could easy come upfront about it after week of going out, but i dont want to show her that i dont trust her, or i can put a software on her iphone that will send me her texts, locations, and phonecall logs and just keep her secretly on the leash, would be also nice to get her facebook password a lot of people i know willingly give it to their boyfriends, dont think it will work with her she is pretty secretive, but i've opened up geminis lots of times ill pop that one open too, but yeah, let me know what you think i could do to prevent all that potential crap.
Wow- the stuff you wrote is kind of freaking me out, friend. DON'T DO ANY OF THAT CONTROLLING SHIT! Especially with a Gem. Remember that she may share a sun sign with your ex, but she is NOT the same girl. People in committed relationships know they're expected to be faithful, and if someone is going to be unfaithful then it's going to happen no matter what sort of tabs you keep on her. The best way to nip infidelity it in the bud is to start by choosing a woman with enough strength of character not to be a cheater. And don't be so afraid of the relationship's being ruined that you actually ruin it yourself...with your paranoid actions.
Posted by aliennation
I don't ever want to hear people bitching about Scorps being stalkers again. He reminds me of my Aries ex...who was exactly like that, only he didn't have the tech savvy to bug my phone.click to expand
well you sound like a lying sl*t
Posted by ellybd
Sigh.
I'm no gem, but why ram attention/affection down ANY girls throat? Even WITH a scorp sun and cancer moon it's a total turn off to me. Hell even my Leo friends are turned off by that.
Gem girls may be young and fluttery outside but they're smart. A lot smarter than what they get credit for in observing people. They observe/see it all, cept they process things much more intellectually than emotionally.
And this saga has been going on for a whiiiillllle. She's not a water sign or an earth sign so she probably hasn't definitively canned you romantically but if you don't watch yourself and channel the aries passion correctly she'll be turned off indefinitely and you'll be friend zoned or made to be a lonely only companion.
But follow all the gem's advice and stop ramming her Mr. Aries lol.
love what you said, well i just asked her out, we started texting she told me shes been lazy and hasnt done nothing since break began so i said " lol you deservet it" then i sent another text saying "but since youre being lazy and arent doing anything we should go do somehting for the last time this year😢" i think i should now propose what to do and i have no clue where to go, i live in nyc is opera something she might like?
~ $ 740 for Wicked, premium seats lol.. is there something less romantic? i can pay no problem but it will be so obvious
okay i have a perfect plan asholes listen here, i take her to see that sherlok holmes movie if she havent seen it yet, then we go ice skating, with hope that she hasnt done it before cause i havent, and there u have it she saw a movie, did something new, and then we will obviously go eat
Coming from a Gemini you already have this all planned out for her? Why don't you ask her what she would want to do? Have you even received a "Yes" yet for plans? If this was about me and I read all this I would be completely turned off. Ill tell you right now I do NOT like being hounded to spend time with someone, or anyone that tries too hard. Overly excessive displays are also a turn off for me because it's borderline emotional drowning. We are based on logic, cerebral beauties. However the moment you start suffocating me with emotions I bolt. Iv'e already put two guys in the friend zone due to ridiculous mannerisms that might work on Cancers or Pisces women, but not me.
understood
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