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What is it with these Gem Guys...When they want to be nice and charming man they could be, but when they want to be jerks they're jerks first class.....the one that I am talking about in particular loves attention, however, the minute I give it it's like a have a social disease or something, then if a blow him off, he can't help but watch me and do everything he can to get my attention....He's Gem, I am a Scorp, we cannot stay away from each other, at time I truly care alot about him and at other times I truly hate him...I have even resorted to not speaking to him at times which I know he just can't stand....Anybody out there who's a Gem involved with a Scorp Female what's your take on this crazy scenario...I truly would like to end it but everytime I try, here he comes with his charm and sucks me back in.....help..

Well, first of all, you don't even know what you are interested in. You said she was a Scorp female and you keep refering to her as him. For instance you said you cut him off and "here he comes again" Maybe you have too many irons in the fire!!! Like to many options and you can't keep up with them all, and she is smart enough to see through your games! She probably is more than just someone to keep you entertained! Maybe she doesn't feel like you are very serious! Obviously you're not if you can't even identify what sex she is!!!

Sorry for the miscommunication....He's a Gem I am a Female Scorp and I truly know the difference...

My ex was a Gemini....my sister is a Gemini...I find them both very confusing. They are twins and I think they don't know what or who they are! Their life is confusing to them as well. Good luck. One must have patience for this species.

Well, first of all gems and scorps normally don't coincide well, unfortunately, The sex is usually the main part of the relationship. I am a female gem and have dated a male scorp. It was the most horrible pairing ever! You gem is moody as you know. He is probably very attracted to you, but yet can't stand you for too long. I found my ex to be very attractive and magnetic, but after too long, he was way to emotional, and secretive. A gemini needs attention, and is very unconventional. You need to give him the attention he needs without feeling you are taking a chance. He needs to accept your flaws and work around them because i doubt you will change. My ex was controlling and used my niceness against me. I don't think this is a good pairing, but it will only work if you accept eachother's flaws and differences.

"I truly care alot about him and at other times I truly hate him"

You hate them?? That is a terrible thing to say! What could they have done to make you feel that emotion? You either love someone or you don't. You take the good along with the bad. Sounds like you don't know what you are doing!

lets set aside being a SIGN for a sec, maybe you just talk to him face to face about EVERYTHING, instead of playing this "question game". Just get straight to the point because if you're not happy and you feel as if hes just playing games with you, is this even a relationship? You guys should be sharing, caring, trusting, and all that other sh*t that comes along with it. I know it hurts and maybe you feel as if, if you do come face to face with him, you might lose him, am i right? but if thats really true then maybe hes just not the right man for you.

"I know it hurts and maybe you feel as if, if you do come face to face with him, you might lose him, am i right? but if thats really true then maybe hes just not the right man for you."

I don't remember that being the problem, at the moment! What I am wondering is, I hear all the things that are wrong with the person that they 'love'?? I don't hear much of anything else. If you did, you wouldn't want to change them; you would like them as they are!!!

I think there are those who get off on trying to fix someone or the relationship. That is there main focus; how do I make this better. What happens, they screw it up by becoming over analytical. Maybe that is what they wanted to do anyway?? Hard to know anyone anymore.

I have come face to face with him...Here's the problem, awhile back we are just friends, however, when a long relatinship I was in broke up he made his move, assured me that I wasn't doing the wrong thing, he did say we needed to be discreet, which we were, then one day HE decides to cross this line, understand now I had just broken up with someone, he knew how I felt about him, always was upfront and honest with him on that, he crosses a line with me that I warned him about, had the greatest time for about 1 mnth and then all of the sudden he turns into the "Evil Twin"...This man went fron calling me when at a seminar, to always being with me anywhere I went to all of a sudden no feelings....Now here's the worst part, when I remind him of what he did and what my concerns were when that happened, he apologizing for "crossing the line" . Not only did he ruin what I thought was going to be something special, but he also ruined our friendship....I even thought about finding another job just to get away from him....But now I find that no matter how much I try to stay away from him, I can't. I mean I have blown him off, and sooner or later he comes to me to see if I still pissed and of course, you know how you Gemni's are...I give in.....maybe I need to get some professional help...I just wish I could get over the deception with him...why did he change? Why did he do what he did?

I don't know. Men can be like that. When they get what they want, then they don't want you anymore, some guys are like that. Not all of them!!! I think you have to know who you are dealing with before you get too carried away or involved. I'm not saying that you didn't know him well enough to go that far, but when he said that you needed to be discreet, didn't that throw a few red flags up??

Ps by crossing the line, I was assuming it went farther then just friendship?

aw... *hugs* its okay, some guys are just jerks like that. Or maybe he couldnt help it, sometimes feelings stop you know? Like the saying "nothing can ever last" although thats kinda sad to think that love cant last but then again, some times it goes on forever and maybe this guy didnt love you, well maybe he did at one point but feelings change i suppose. But he shouldve told you sooner than just leading you on, keep ur head up 😢

AAAARG! I would love to kick this guy's butt for you sammie...now think of it like this. What he's done has already been done. He has treated you disrespectfully, and he enjoyed the power he had over you, probably because deep down he's extremely insecure. He played with you whether on purpose or just really really bad relationship skills...the fact remains. You know you deserve better than this. I would say go ahead and show him our famous temper, however, think about it...is he worth it? If he is, if you think it might actually sink in, go for it...but some people are so shocked when we scorps show that temper that they are dumbstruck and scared and they either run away or don't understand at all...many times they never saw it coming. Just prepare yourself for any weird reaction he might have. And if HE has a temper also, I would advise against showing him yours...you never know with some people.

Good luck my dear and update us when you get the chance...

My brother is a Gem as is his fiance. I have many Gem friends both male and female and none of them exhibit the things stated above. Perhaps Gems are different this side of the equator. I find them placid, intellegent, honest, caring, totally secure and the list could go on. Actually there is nothing bad I can say about them, except at times an indecisiveness. It is impossible for me to argue with one or hold any grudge. All the Gem males I know, including my brother have treated their partners with total respect and the thought of secrecy, discretness (if that's a word-I'm sure a Gem could correct me) and cheating are not a consideration. Of course men can be men, but so far, the only sign to exhibit what has ben stated above for a male (that I have seen) would have to be a Virgo.

Sorry for your experience. Perhaps its more of an age or peer pressure thing than him being true to himself...who knows. Move on and find another. Good luck.

Hey Lawgoddess, maybe you are right...the ones on that side of the equator are all of the above, however, the bad ones, well you know what I have said. I have taken advice to leave this person alone....it's hard because we work together. I still treat him with respect on the professional level, however, on a personal level, he's dead to me....and of course now that I am totally ignoring him, I mean I don't even say hi to him or even look at him, it's bothering him...he has mentioned to some people in our department that what's my problem...why I am in such a bad mood.....unfortunately it hurts me to do this to him but I don't know any other way to cut our ties......