The Gemini Mind...

I was at a party on Wednesday and my ex Gemini who I was with on and off for 6 years was there. I'm now seeing his best mate, not on purpose it just happened after we broke up back in Feb. To say the Gemini didn't treat me very well when we were together would be an understatement, but I have never loved someone so much in all my life.
The guy I'm with now, a cancer, was there to. And basically after a lot of drunk talk the Gemini says this:

You are the love of my life

When I'm on my own and thinking I always think about you

If you hadn't got with my mate we would probably be together

I loved our meaningful chats

My heart will always love you, but then my mind changes all the time and I don't know why

I think about our memories the most

I want to cuddle you when I'm on my own

I told my mum that I'd have an easy, happy life with you, but my mum said that you'd always be second best

I do love you and I care about you so much, I will always remember you, I don't remember any other girls really, no girl compares to you

I don't want you to get clingy again (because he was so hot and cold I rang alot because I like knowing where I stand)

I don't want you getting your hopes up

It's messed up now because your with my friend


So basically you can see he's a total head f***. I called him the next day, he told me to forget everything he said. And just ignored me.

I just get so upset that he does this everytime we run into eachother, he just says little comments that make it feel like he loves me, but then the next minute he's so cold. He's been like this the whole time I was with him aswell. He says its his mind, in his heart he loves me, but his minds just always messed up


Help??! Please? Just need a gems point of view on this, I cant work him out

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Bikerch1ck I can agree with the wall thing with him. And I know, it's hard on the cancer guy, we did say from the start that it was only sex but his feelings have turned into more. I do care so much about the cancer but just don't get that intense feeling I get with the Gemini. Its so f****d up because we've all been friends for years, the Gemini even said we were like tripod when we were younger, us three were all really close. I told the cancer I don't want a relationship and he's seen the whole relationship pan out between me and the Gemini and he says he'd never hurt me like the Gemini did. I just can't get over the Gemini though, every guy, not matter how lovely they are, never gives me the feeling he gives me. Me and the gem are really honest with each other. He says he's only comfortable with me, and can't be completely himself with any other person.
I'm treading carefully around the cancer as I don't want to hurt him, but then I do think he's out of order for doing that to his best mate he's known since he was three, and I feel awful on the gem too as we were such a big part of each others lives and the cancer has to see that. I was going to go round and talk to the gem's mum today, do you think its a bad idea? Me and her were really close and she knows him better than anyone, just feel like she could help me? Or should I just stick with the cancer?

Posted by scorpiokirst
Bikerch1ck I can agree with the wall thing with him. And I know, it's hard on the cancer guy, we did say from the start that it was only sex but his feelings have turned into more. I do care so much about the cancer but just don't get that intense feeling I get with the Gemini. Its so f****d up because we've all been friends for years, the Gemini even said we were like tripod when we were younger, us three were all really close. I told the cancer I don't want a relationship and he's seen the whole relationship pan out between me and the Gemini and he says he'd never hurt me like the Gemini did. I just can't get over the Gemini though, every guy, not matter how lovely they are, never gives me the feeling he gives me. Me and the gem are really honest with each other. He says he's only comfortable with me, and can't be completely himself with any other person.
I'm treading carefully around the cancer as I don't want to hurt him, but then I do think he's out of order for doing that to his best mate he's known since he was three, and I feel awful on the gem too as we were such a big part of each others lives and the cancer has to see that. I was going to go round and talk to the gem's mum today, do you think its a bad idea? Me and her were really close and she knows him better than anyone, just feel like she could help me? Or should I just stick with the cancer?

Walk away from the Gem. He had his chance and he treated you badly. He wants you back because you are with someone else. The intensity of feelings which you have for the Gem, has nothing to do with him and everything to do with you. If you go back to the Gem, it will only get worse. You will be back on the Gem board asking for advice on how to him to treat you better. Treat yourself better by giving this dude a wide berth...

We were great at the start then he cheated on me the first year we were together I was 16, he was 18, then after that he promised he'd never cheat on me again and would be honest with me if he felt he'd ever do it again and break up with me. He never cheated on me after that and was always honest with me. He broke up with me saying he didn't fancy me anymore, quite a few times. He said some times he'd love me so much and others he'd just not want me near him. He said on Wednesday though that little things would bring back memories like take away Chinese and stuff we used to do together.
The last time we were together though he hardly saw me, saw me once a week on a Sat night where we'd just watch tv and order Chinese. We went on holiday to Egypt a few months before we broke up and on Wednesday he said he loved me so much that holiday and was one of our best times. He did alot of stuff that was bad when we were younger, i'm 23 now and he's 25, but in the past he did try to pull my best mate, and has chatted up girls right infront of me. The worst one was where he slept with a girl an hour before me and lied, then I slept with him. Just awful. I was a typical doting girlfriend, did everything for him, always put him first. He said he trusted me with his life and knew I'd never cheat on him which I never did.

It just seems whenever we are near each other the chemistry is so intense, but when we aren't together and I ring him, he just get's so pissed off, I just annoy him?

Such a mess.

Don't fall for his words. Whatever was wrong with the relationship the first time around will still be wrong the second time around. He probably saw you with his friend, and just wanted to make sure he could still have you if he wanted you... that he was the alpha dog. And you showed him that he was.

The Gem screwed up. He might miss you. BUT, it is a fleeting feeling and he has that feeling only when he sees you. He's testing you, tempting you. He probably sees you happy and with someone else and that eats at him inside. He knows he had his chance. It bothers him to see you with his friend. He doesn't want you, but he doesn't want you to be happy either - because he is not happy.

Posted by DeeGee
This whole story has to many holes and her history according to IP address is shady, not even dealing with this thread.

Trolls

This username has had the same IP for the last three years. No evidence of shadyness here.

The only troll here is you, DG.

My dear scorpiokirst...

I am thinking that you should choose to be alone for awhile. It would seem to me that you are always in a relationship of some kind. With the Gemini... your only task should be to remind him OFTEN that HE was the one who blew it ! You are taking his crafty words to mean something more than just his means of getting you back into his bed... just for ONE night.

With the Cancer... your mind and heart are still elsewhere... you really have nothing to give him.

Just my thoughts.

I with a scorpio at the moment and I love him so much. I know what your gem is feeling. Constantly I have too many mixed feelings with him. Love..love is always one of them. Then its fighting the urge to drift to the new. Im literally chaining myself down trying not to move on. I love him but that doesnt mean anything. Its really sad and complicated that my boredom could make me move on from someone I truely love. And I never let him know that im having this tug-of-war with myself and debating weather I should ruin his stability and cause him to be insecure and talk to him about. I dont want him to close up again. So I just pretend everythings okay. But sometimes when he calls/text I dont answer. And I dont know why. goddamn all emotion...anyways back to your story, what I think your gemini is doing is what I constantly have a habit of doing and that is always trying to be seen in a good light by absolutely everyone. I do this even subconsciously. Whenever I meet someone I want them to believe I am the bestest most amazing person and they should fall in love with me. Its hard to admit but I can make people fall in love with me. And sometimes when im bored ill do this..I know its terrible! And I like to make sure theres no baggage with anyone and all my relationships are good. But if I REALLY wanna talk to someone I will contact them, tell them everything was true. I honestly think he was just toying with you, to see if he could make you fall in love with him again. when im drunk I know what im saying but I could be wrong. Damn geminis can be devious depending on which twin is out.

Posted by David13
My dear scorpiokirst...

I am thinking that you should choose to be alone for awhile. It would seem to me that you are always in a relationship of some kind. With the Gemini... your only task should be to remind him OFTEN that HE was the one who blew it ! You are taking his crafty words to mean something more than just his means of getting you back into his bed... just for ONE night.

With the Cancer... your mind and heart are still elsewhere... you really have nothing to give him.

Just my thoughts.

+1

Posted by DeeGee
not even dealing with this thread.

So fuck off already.

Posted by DeeGee

Posted by bubblyaquarius
DG, her IP address has only posted 15 messages and she's been Kirst the whole time. Just becuase she's not a regular doesn't mean she's someone else. Her ip isn't linked to anyone else... =/

That's not what I'm saying....it doesn't matter...carry on...

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You can't prove the IP thing, so you pull the ole Gem trick switch and bait. You're probably now gonna tell us how intuitive you are about this Scorp, right?

Deegee, wtf!? I'm a person who has problems so I come on here to ask like minded people (seeing as we are all in to horoscopes) their opinions! Geez, get off this thread if u have an issue, I don't want you opinion anyway because u seem like a nasty person.

Guys thank you for you're replies. I read them too late. I slept with the gem last night. Ended things with the cancer today.

David I completely agree with you. I need to get away from the both.

Yes, the cancer was lovely. But at the end of the day if he can do that to his best mate and show no remorse then what does that say about him? He took it okay, bit awkward but I felt instant relief.

The gem came over last night and we had Chinese and when we kissed it felt amazing, like no one else, but he said he didn't want n e thing from me. So you guys were right.

As you can see from my posts it's been going on for so long and people have got hurt in the way. I wish I was strong enough. He's just got this hold and it upsets me so much that I can't say no. I'm an idiot.

I really do appreciate when ppl take the time to right back and help so thanx again for all the replies and for sticking up for my with the deegee person.

I'm upset, I just wish he could just love me like he did but I guess it's good to because I used to run into him when I was with the cancer so I guess I won't see him now

Just sucks 😢

Lol please go away

Lol omg deegee you really are a weirdo. Were you not given enough cuddles as a child? Your very bitter and angry. Please take your negativity somewhere else and just DO ONE you freak

Wicked, cheers ellessque, she's nuts!

Posted by scorpiokirst
Guys thank you for you're replies. I read them too late. I slept with the gem last night. Ended things with the cancer today.

The gem came over last night and we had Chinese and when we kissed it felt amazing, like no one else, but he said he didn't want n e thing from me. So you guys were right.

As you can see from my posts it's been going on for so long and people have got hurt in the way. I wish I was strong enough. He's just got this hold and it upsets me so much that I can't say no. I'm an idiot.

I'm upset, I just wish he could just love me like he did but I guess it's good to because I used to run into him when I was with the cancer so I guess I won't see him now

Just sucks 😢

Well then... your life literally just changed over night ! It's probably for the best. Don't be afraid to be alone for awhile... even when one or both of them comes back around... because it's never completely over at the moment one says it's over.

Youll find someone else. A bird in a hand is worth two in a tree.

ok but if ur really jealous u will run off any Gemini male or female!! I don't know what went down but Gemini people cannot stand alot of jealousy!!