What does it mean if a gemini man(crab moon) bumps into you for first time after 2yrs and texts you?

Say you were sorta casually (but in some ways intensely) seeing a gemini man but you can tell he's still hurt and not over his ex but he likes you as you share many similarities with his ex e.g. looks, etc. but you spend loads of time together - he's very hesitant and shy to initiate physical contact and only does so after many hours of interaction, etc.

A few weeks into it, you move to a nearby city (back to your family) as your job contract ended and still he initiates for a while, then he goes on a mega long holiday (with him promising to visit me after he returns) but things feel colder and more distant after he returns so you leave things... then, a month later, he says he'll be in my city for work and if I wanted to do something with him on the upcoming weekend and I say yes and then text to confirm plans the day before and he says he's been called into work the next day so we can't meet up and so he cancels and apologies a lot..

Then, nothing again for nearly a month - I initiate near Christmas, at which point he seems eager and friendly to talk and asks the day before christmas, if we can hang out on xmas day in my city (as his family live too far away) but I said no as most shops, restaurants, etc. would be closed and it'd be very cold and he says that's fine and manages to make some sort of plans - I say we can meet near new years as he'll still be in my city at that time, he agrees but doesn't initiate any plans and after new year's eve, says he was just with mates and it was nothing special or exciting..

Again, nothing for another month and then I txt in mid february and he seems super eager and happy to talk to me, really flirty, etc. sends me about 100 texts during that 1 day, says he'd definitely have visited me that evening/night if i had my own place, and then says nothing the next day..


Again silence for 3 months and then I text him near my birthday, he is again very eager and happy to talk to me, very flirty (even sends shirtless pics), says it would be nice if he had a sign indicating "us" being a good idea and says he'll definitely visit me when my exams are over (in a few weeks).. but then once I finish my exams, he had his bday, for which he went to a trip abroad and I wished him and he said thank you.. and then again nothing..

After that, I sort of thought what's the point in all this? I even asked him if I'm being too needy and he said definitely not and that is partially his fault but I basically moved on after this and never initiated convo and nor did he.. 2 years go by and I move back to the city where we first met, we see each other in the street - he keeps staring and I realised maybe it was him, and then once he had a face to face encounter in the street, again he stares right at me eye to eye,I hurriedly walk off without smiling or anything and straight after this encounter, he texts me saying he was sure he'd seen me around a few times now but just that afternoon, it was certain that it was inta

Say you were sorta casually (but in some ways intensely) seeing a gemini man but you can tell he's still hurt and not over his ex but he likes you as you share many similarities with his ex e.g. looks, etc. but you spend loads of time together - he's very hesitant and shy to initiate physical contact and only does so after many hours of interaction, etc.

A few weeks into it, you move to a nearby city (back to your family) as your job contract ended and still he initiates for a while, then he goes on a mega long holiday (with him promising to visit me after he returns) but things feel colder and more distant after he returns so you leave things... then, a month later, he says he'll be in my city for work and if I wanted to do something with him on the upcoming weekend and I say yes and then text to confirm plans the day before and he says he's been called into work the next day so we can't meet up and so he cancels and apologies a lot..

Then, nothing again for nearly a month - I initiate near Christmas, at which point he seems eager and friendly to talk and asks the day before christmas, if we can hang out on xmas day in my city (as his family live too far away) but I said no as most shops, restaurants, etc. would be closed and it'd be very cold and he says that's fine and manages to make some sort of plans - I say we can meet near new years as he'll still be in my city at that time, he agrees but doesn't initiate any plans and after new year's eve, says he was just with mates and it was nothing special or exciting..

Again, nothing for another month and then I txt in mid february and he seems super eager and happy to talk to me, really flirty, etc. sends me about 100 texts during that 1 day, says he'd definitely have visited me that evening/night if i had my own place, and then says nothing the next day..


Again silence for 3 months and then I text him near my birthday, he is again very eager and happy to talk to me, very flirty (even sends shirtless pics), says it would be nice if he had a sign indicating "us" being a good idea and says he'll definitely visit me when my exams are over (in a few weeks).. but then once I finish my exams, he had his bday, for which he went to a trip abroad and I wished him and he said thank you.. and then again nothing..

After that, I sort of thought what's the point in all this? I even asked him if I'm being too needy and he said definitely not and that is partially his fault but I basically moved on after this and never initiated convo and nor did he.. 2 years go by and I move back to the city where we first met, we see each other in the street - he keeps staring and I realised maybe it was him, and then once he had a face to face encounter in the street, again he stares right at me eye to eye,I hurriedly walk off without smiling or anything and straight after this encounter, he texts me saying he was sure he'd seen me around a few times now but just that afternoon, it was certain that it was infa

just that afternoon, it was certain that it was infact me (when he saw me face to face at a near distance) and asked how I was, what I was doing back etc.

I feel kinda awkward that he can be so casual as if we're just old friends getting back in touch - like completely disregarding all the intense hot-cold I had to go through over a whole year, 2 years ago - even then, he'd never admit or apologise for the disappearances..

I am not sure if he ever cared to be honest - he is not a player at all but his mind is very unstable - he changes his mind often but due to his crab (cancer) moon he is very soft, emotionally driven, almost maternal, insecure and has rapidly changing moods. We have a big age difference and he always felt bad that he was so much older than me (11 yrs older) and he didn't like the fact that I didn't have my own place (coz he knew my family may disapprove of me hanging out with him) and he always cared about what I thought of him, etc. but it was clear he was still quite obsessed by his -ex and even had emotional ties with another ex before that too... but it's also obvious he's a bit flighty and gets bored easily (due to gemini sun) despite his emotional nature. He treated me well in that he'd buy me drinks, compliment me and be generally caring and it wasn't to sleep with me!

He definitely wasn't using me for certain "benefits" as we were never "intimate" by the way - though maybe he was using me as an ego boost after a break up?

Why is he back in contact? To see if I'm still into him (so it inflates his ego a bit)?
Because he feels guilty for all the hot-cold behaviour in the past so just wants to be polite?
Genuine curiosity about what I'm up to?
Or something else?

As a typical gemini would reach out for very different reasons compared to a typical cancer and he displays both gemini and cancer characteristics, I am unsure what may possibly be the reason?

To me, as a gem/cancer mix, it just sounds like bad timing...

Posted by misslissa
To me, as a gem/cancer mix, it just sounds like bad timing...

Thank you for the reply - would you like to explain in more detail please?
& do you mean bad timing at the start when we met me 2 yrs ago?

Posted by queencancer
Sounds like y'all never had stable footing to begin with. He sounds like he was following the unstable flow, stuck on the ex, trying to avoid drama with the ex and you, not serious or just sporadically enjoying your company. I think he did like you so maybe he wants to see what's good now. I doubt it's an ego thing.

Thank you for the reply - so it's a platonic friendly interest, you think?

Posted by aj123

Posted by misslissa
To me, as a gem/cancer mix, it just sounds like bad timing...

Thank you for the reply - would you like to explain in more detail please?
& do you mean bad timing at the start when we met me 2 yrs ago?

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The whole time sounds like bad timing... Either, you have plans, or he does. Seems like that every time either one of you try to make plans together.