Why? Gemini

Okay, I want to share my Gemini experience bcs I still can't let it go. I'm sorry in advance for the length and maybe too many details😄.

I'm Aries sun&moon, Aqua venus, Taurus rising. He's Gemini sun, Sag moon, Cancer venus.

So, I've been going to the same class with this guy and just towards the end of the semester I noticed he was looking at me in class and the metro but I paid no attention to that.

The following week, he sat next to me in class and we ended up talking n laughing having fun during the class, exchanged fb. He wanted to go to the train station together but I couldn't bsc I was going somewhere w a friend. Later that day he texted me that he got a nice feeling from me and told me to let him know if I wanted to meet sometime.

Bcs I felt the same way, next day I replied that so did I and suggested we meet sometime next week (this is where I think I screwed up😄). He replied like 3 days later being like yeah, great, suggested a day and asked if a have someplace I'd like to go. A agreed to the day and let him choose the place. He picked a bar but on the day we were supposed to meet he asked if we could postpone it to the day after that bcs he had some test he realised he ain't ready enough for.

I said that I understand but can't meet him the next day bcs I have sth w a friend so let's do it some other time.

The next day, we met again in class where he was super nice, wanted to talk seemed interested, joked (just like last time) and told me to let him know if I wanna meet during the weekend or sth (basically reminded me of what he had suggested earlier). I said sth like yeah but right now I don't know when I could. He wanted to go to the station w me again but I again couldn't bcs I was waiting for the friend. Next day(Friday) we accidentally met again, he was warm n talkative.

So on Saturday, I texted him if he wanted to go somewhere on Sunday. I got a reply just on Monday him saying that he's sorry, he's dumb and forgot to reply and said he had a terrible day on Saturday bcs he got his wallet stolen.

To that, I just replied a day later that I'm sorry about the wallet thing.

And I haven't heard from him since.. he hasn't even viewed the message

I just saw him accidentally today but don't know if he saw me.

So what do you think happened? Why would he show interest repeatedly only to ignore me in the end?

Ok, so Gem guys tend to live in the moment a lot... meaning, they are impulsive and just act without thinking of consequences sometimes. For example, in the moment he thought it would be good idea to meet up with you, but then he thought about it and got scared (consequences) so he backed off, but then when he saw you again he acted on that and then thought about it and did a 180. Soo basically, cat and mouse game and just when you want to give up on Gem he will be completely flabbergasted as to your frustration. gems are great though 🤣

I hate Gem male except one who is born in a same day with me. Here we are like...same! I call him bfgf and he hates it...lol

So...I think I KNOW the problem.

Tell me if I am wrong (not that it’s going to change MY opinion but it’ll make you think yours mater...lol)

If 2 are seemingly liking each other and ‘going somewhere with friends’ is more important for you than spend time with me and getting to know each other - go ahead!

Then time to meet (at this stage) is SO HARD to find...no, we move fast and to start something you might need to try.

Gem don’t chase. Men don’t. Women do if we are feeling it’ll be worth our time game and fun!

So...what is your problem hon?

You said clearly and loudly that you aren’t making any fucking effort to meet and see what’s what. He found other things to do because there ARE other things to do...you haven’t got him any deeply. Move on. He has deflated. I don’t blame him.

As a Gem Sun, Sag Moon male, to me it seems like the moment’s fizzled out. Which is kind of a silly as the moment hasn’t even really begun. But that’s how fickle we (Gem/Sag the two most “free” signs) can be; the moment he said let’s postpone, he’d already got into “overthinking” mode, which can literally happen even after a first meeting with a girl let alone any time after.

Where to go from here is difficult and literally a stab in the dark, because you could do many things and one thing might work to get his attention back, but it’s almost like Russian roulette. Play it cool might work. Or be bold and say “let’s do this then!”, but there’s no guarantee.

If I were you I’d not come on too strong, but make it known you’re interested (not necessarily in anything heavy, just in a drink or something). Try and set up something specific, don’t be vague. Maybe he just needs a little bit more reassurance. If he’s still non-receptive and wishy washy after that, just let it lie.

Posted by nanobot

I feel like if there's just too much mutable in a chart, this shit goes on forever and who has time for it? I don't like waiting in limbo wondering if something is gonna happen or not. So no, this is not typical Gemini or Gemini man behavior. I am a Gemini and I have been with two Gemini men long term and they have both pursued me aggressively, there was none of this going on.

It might be typical for a gem/sag though 😆😆

If it were me, I would detach. Postponing, lost wallet, leaves me hanging for days, no thanks. I would think that his interest in me was at worst - insincere, and at best, he was a flake. I would give it maybe one more chance to see what happens. As it stands, it seems to be a waste of your time.

I agree, my husband is a Gemini and from the moment we met he chased me all the way to the alter. They will show you when they want you.

Posted by LittleStar

Nah man. I’m a Gemini Sun Sag Moon and I hate that bullshit. It’s the stupidest thing ever.

The only times I cancel plans is if I’m really not up for it but this dude sounds like he is just wanting the ego stroke and/or you are a back up if whatever other plans fall through.

Ditch him and purposely sit next to others in class. If it was me I’d just be real and text him that he is disrespectful and you don’t want to talk going forward.

If we are into you we will literally try to be around you 24/7 and will make plans and show up early because the way we show love is spending time together.

💯 agree with this ^ gems like to play a lot, but don’t take them seriously unless they’re words are matching their ACTIONS!

Posted by Moonbutter

Posted by LittleStar

Nah man. I’m a Gemini Sun Sag Moon and I hate that bullshit. It’s the stupidest thing ever.

The only times I cancel plans is if I’m really not up for it but this dude sounds like he is just wanting the ego stroke and/or you are a back up if whatever other plans fall through.

Ditch him and purposely sit next to others in class. If it was me I’d just be real and text him that he is disrespectful and you don’t want to talk going forward.

If we are into you we will literally try to be around you 24/7 and will make plans and show up early because the way we show love is spending time together.

💯 agree with this ^ gems like to play a lot, but don’t take them seriously unless they’re words are matching their ACTIONS!

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Their words 🙄