sexual dysfunction

i have been with my partner for a year now. i am very very attracted to him, he is a very beautiful man but for the past three months i have not been able to get wet when i am with him. before, just kissing him and i was excited and ready but now we have to go through usually an hour of foreplay before i can be with him and i have found that when he kisses me or goes down on me i do not enjoy it at all. i almost feel disgusted. we are engaged and recently found out that i am 5 weeks pregnant so it is very important for me to find a "cure" for this problem. i am still attracted to him but i really do not enjoy our sex anymore. we used to have frequent sex but no longer do. one thing i have thought is that he is very big - over nine inches, and i have bled many times and also had many UTIs since we've been together so i wonder if it's just the physical trauma that has turned me off from the sex. i love him... is there anything i can do? it's really starting to affect his self-esteem too.

Most likely it's because you are preggo. Hormones fluctuate. But it could also be because he's too big. I know if a guy was making me bleed and get UTIs it would deter me from having sex with him as well because everytime I'd have the experience I'd associate it with pain and bleeding. Ouch!

You being pregnant has a tremendous amount to do with your lack of interest in sex. Hormones are very tricky little buggers. Like someone else posted, use a good lubricant and don't be ashamed to use it. Whether you're wet or not, lunbricant makes everyting more fun. Aside from the hormones, try not to let yourself get a mental block against it. Even if you're not able to achieve climax, relax and focus on the closeness of your partner. Enjoy the act of making love even if you aren't able to get the fireworks.

For me is the first time when I hear about a man that is "too big".... I can handle any size of man and I had sexual experience enough until now, probably you don't get excitd as well, not his fault is big. If a Chinese woman can handle a big wstern man, as they are more small than europeans/US, so just image, how you do not ? .. You have a eastrogen problem , inbalance probably or a mental issue that stress you once get with a man, like small breast or something from your body make you feel shy or have any obsession like this. Try to relax. But now as you are pregnant, is normal to feel like that maybe. Talk with your doctor for some advices.

And now you should enjoy your pregnancy, it is more important than sex right now and your partner should understand you.
Another issue, a woman should never ever bledding after sex ! Only women with endometriosis sometimes bredding , but also this is rare. So make sure that you haven't any problem , like STD that also make your vagine dry.