Cannot Figure You Out

Been talking to a Leo female recently....and when it's good, it's great. However, I am not sure I can take the "crazy" anymore.

About a week ago, little less, I guessed her birthday (displays all the leo tendencies) was in the first 2/3s of August. Thought it would be one of those things that made her laugh, and then ask how I did it. Instead, she just stopped responding and ignored me for a day. She was freaked out because she thought I was stalking her....might be biased but not sure how one makes that jump. I even told her how I did it but she just chose not to believe me until I explained it more. Seemed like a huge over-reaction.

Last night, was speaking to her, and we had (what I thought) was a sexualized conversation. She's made it clear before that she likes dominant men, likes things a little rough, likes strong male personalities, etc. So, the conversation went in that way. She's very sarcastic normally, and she started getting a little sarcastic (so I thought)...turns out she was actually just in a bad mood and didn't want to be "talked down to"...I called her a little girl (she is 5 years younger than me and 9" shorter) and she was...apparently frustrated by this. Now is ignoring me.

I don't really have too much invested in this, but she is incredibly beautiful and also incredibly intelligent. Would like to see where it goes. Also has a great personality...when she's not throwing a temper tantrum. She seems like she has a lot invested in this emotionally, calls me Babe or Baby all the time (I have almost never called her that)...constantly tells me how wonderful I am and how attractive she thinks I am...again except for when she then throws a temper tantrum and then assumes I'm either an asshole or a serial rapist, seemingly. I am not mean to her but I don't fawn over her. It's over a long distance and I'm not a little beta boy. I play smart, not hard.

Not sure how to deal with it, haven't spoken to her yet today, I don't feel like I should have to reach out first. Is this how all you Leo women are, forever? Is she just crazy? She's in the middle of a very stressful period trying to get a lot of work done, so I attributed it to that (so did she, although didn't change her behavior). Just trying to learn a little more as honestly I've never had any type of romantic connection with a Leo in my life (strange I know, being a Sag).

Thanks.

Not all Leo women are like that for sure!

I can be agitated, irritable and over-sensitive when stressed, but I make sure to have "me" time before socializing, particularly a new romantic interest. When I do hang out with people I'll let them know what's going on but have the consideration of keeping my emotions in check. I know I'm stressed and my reactions will be coloured by that.

Seems like it's a lack of consideration towards you; there is no excuse to pull a tantrum on anyone, especially someone you want to make/deepen a connection with.

So not crazy, but very likely selfish and inconsiderate >.

"Is she just crazy?"

no, you are crazy cause you suspect this.
everybody knows that when you play there are these moments too.
you tease and she reacts. it is not crazy but normal. she is not made of steel.

she wants you to play. but every game has its boundaries.

look how small Leo babies play with each other. they play wild. but there are some boundaries involved that define it is just playing. No dangerous fight.

So she did well. You'll get her attention back. And everything gonna be all right. Until next game/fight/whatever.

PS: also Humor is different from person to person. Also on their bday People may have little time. cause they get a lot of calls, texts and visits.

Posted by JustaSag

Been talking to a Leo female recently....and when it's good, it's great. However, I am not sure I can take the "crazy" anymore.

About a week ago, little less, I guessed her birthday (displays all the leo tendencies) was in the first 2/3s of August. Thought it would be one of those things that made her laugh, and then ask how I did it. Instead, she just stopped responding and ignored me for a day. She was freaked out because she thought I was stalking her....might be biased but not sure how one makes that jump. I even told her how I did it but she just chose not to believe me until I explained it more. Seemed like a huge over-reaction.

Really?

I'd be suspicious of someone who knew a lot about me, when

I didn't give them my information... she may not believe in astrology.

Check yourself.

Posted by JustaSag
Last night, was speaking to her, and we had (what I thought) was a sexualized conversation. She's made it clear before that she likes dominant men, likes things a little rough, likes strong male personalities, etc. So, the conversation went in that way.

But how long have you known her?

Posted by JustaSag
... she is incredibly beautiful and also incredibly intelligent.

...when she's not throwing a temper tantrum.

"I don't fawn over her... I'm not a little beta boy.

I play smart, not hard."

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Sure you do.


lol


You two are absolutely NOT compatible.

You're either jealous of her, or you hate her... maybe both.

The CONTEMPT is palpable.

Montgomery - nothing you've said makes really any sense...."check yourself" implies you think of me as some evil oppressive man so I think we'll just ignore the rest, as you clearly didn't read my post and don't seem interested in saying anything constructive.

To the others...Of course all teasing has limits...pretty sure everyone knows that, it's common knowledge. My point is, she seems easily rattled...low self confidence if you will. Trying to figure out if that's typical.

She did reach back out, acting normal again. I'm sure she's just stressed out. Just trying to get a feel for what to expect. I know Leos have a bit of an ego (trust me I can relate) so I figure that it's also easily damaged...don't know if thats true though. Haven't really read much about it.

Giving her the benefit of the doubt, she might be over-reacting because of a bad past experience that left her raw and uneasy. You can attempt to ask her if this was the case, and judge her reply accordingly.

HOWEVER, whenever I hear of a Leo female throwing tantrums and being over dramtic, it screams out immaturity. If your leo lady is behaving like this and she's over age 30, run.

If she's under 30, you can attempt to talk to her calmly and rationally but if she's not "there yet" emotionally, it's probably too much effort.

Posted by JustaSag
Montgomery - nothing you've said makes really any sense...."check yourself" implies you think of me as some evil oppressive man ...

I implied nothing of the sort.

You just made that up.

Unless you live in a world that has no online stalkers?

The mystery is why you want to date her if she is

so problematic.

Hmmm...no these seem like normal reactions.

First, it seem like a "new" encounter with her. I know for sure if someone I did not tell my birthday to guessed it. It would freak me the fuck out. How do you know?? I am very private person and before my current BF a SINGLE mother. You are not suppose to know anything about me unless I choose to give it. There are people who still don't know my last name. If you ventured out to find out my birthday then it means you have a whole slew of information about me you should not have. You have invaded my privacy and are a threat to my home and my children. Overboard? no.

What is crazy is you feeling she threw a tantrum.

Two, you crossed a boundary in those texts.

What is crazy is you didn't apologize for taking it to far and you don't think you did anything wrong.

Not all Female Leo's are drama queens who throw tantrums as some astrology sights suggest.

Im a Leo with drama queen issues.
I'm also heavily Scorpio , I would feel upset if someone knew personal information about me,granted if you admitted it was from an astrological vantage point I would more or less understand. Maybe be honest and explain how you guessed?

And don't play any more games. Just be nice and if you feel betasized , just don't date a Leo. You will be eaten alive in a relationship if you can't even handle simple flirtation now.

I see it may have been a mistake to ask these questions, as nobody actually feels compelled to read what I've written.

I did explain it to her, she ignored me even after that. Mentioned that right away.

The other "freak out" had nothing to do with either of us apologizing..she simply was in a bad mood, and admitted as much later. She thought I was being an asshole, I was simply joking around (as always)...she just wasn't in the mood/didn't recognize it. Apologized for the mixup later.

Several of you seem obsessed with this idea that I "hate" her...this makes no sense, logically or emotionally. Also don't see how you get that from what I've written. I suggest you learn how to read, listen, and stop reading insane, crazy meanings into other's words.

Guess I'll just try to learn what I can from other sources and feel it out as I go along.

Those of you that DID help, thanks. Appreciate it greatly.

Just for the record, I did read what you wrote and tried to give you honest advice.

As a matter of fact... I read your post several times over to try to understand the upRoar (excuse the pun LOL) but I'm not reading you as negatively as some of the other ladies here.

You guessed her Bday. So what? You don't fawn over her? Good for you. A Leo woman doesn't want a man to kiss her behind, she wants a man who RESPECTS her. THIS is the key! If you respect her, recognize her beauty AND intelligence as you have stated then her behavior is simply.....IMMATURE PERIOD.

Don't fear people here who take you out of context. Some DXPers are like that and others are not. HATERS will be haters. Judge your own behavior. Don't let others judge it in your stead.

Posted by capricornmoon
@Montgomery, totally agree. It sounds like he hates her, can't stand the fact he's attracted to someone he dislikes. Doesn't fawn over her, but easily dishes out insults to belittle her. Leo women are intuitive though, intuitive but quite about it and passive about their intuition.

She senses the mixed feelings and fustrations you feel for her, yet you're wondering why she goes into hiding. If you can't love her without trying to change her, then leave her alone.

+1


All women should be leery of someone who thinks they're 'crazy'

because they don't react the way someone wanted them to.

Posted by ScorpionicLove
Im a Leo with drama queen issues.
I'm also heavily Scorpio , I would feel upset if someone knew personal information about me,granted if you admitted it was from an astrological vantage point I would more or less understand. Maybe be honest and explain how you guessed?

And don't play any more games. Just be nice and if you feel betasized , just don't date a Leo. You will be eaten alive in a relationship if you can't even handle simple flirtation now.

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+1

lol @ beta-sized.

Well said.