Fueling the flame

Idk if this is a Leo thing or a personal trait, but have any of you been in a situation where you had feelings for someone, it didn't work out, but because you have to see them like every day, you can't get over them? In your head, you know it would be wise to just let them be, but I feel like maybe as a fire sign once you like someone it's hard to stop if they, "the fuel", are still there. What may make it worse is the fact that a big way I show affection is in a very childish, throw something at you, bump your hand while you're trying to write something, kind of way. I feel stuck in this cycle of rage because when I see her I'm mad honestly because we almost started a relationship but she backed out, not even due to faults of mine, she just realized it wouldn't work. I don't feel like it would work either right now. That's why its stupid. As dumb as it sounds, I guess I just want her to show she still cares even though we aren't together. I'm not asking for anything big, it's just I noticed she's become totally indifferent towards me and it bothers me a lot. I feel part of it might be when she said she "liked" me, she ment shed like to do me. She's a scorpio.

I just find it disturbing that someone could appear to have so much feeling for you and then just drop it, done, good bye. And she doesn't have dude friends. She just doesn't do that. I speculate because shed want to do things with them and knows guy friends would just lead to her cheating on her current partner so I understand it, it just feels so heartless.

I was just bored and am waiting for my class to start so I thought I'd share. If anyone is stuck in a "my logic says move on but my emotions are still invested" cycle, please feel free to share too. I just wonder if we leos are prone to staying invested when "the fuel" is, by unchangeable circumstance, still there.

I did, with an Aries - he lives so close to me that it was difficult to "get over" him. But I persevered and did, and then met someone even better 🙂 But it is so very hard when that person is in your vicinity every day and you have to see them, even more when they still want to continue with the nonsense that it was.

Posted by WoundedLeo
Do you have a lot of water placements? If yes, it's harder for you to let go of people for whom you have feelings.

Scorps and Caps are able to turn their emotions on and off quickly like a light switch. It's really hard on soggy Leos like me, and perhaps you too.

Mind if I ask how old you are? If possible, try to show her you like her in mature ways, it's possible that your more childish ways of showing appreciation are annoying to her. Have you tried taking it out with her?

I hope Rigormortis will come on the sight because she can give you some Scorp perspective.

I am:

Leo -sun
Cap -moon
Leo -mercury
Virgo -venus
Gem -mars

So that's a negative on the lots of water.

I'm 20. And the reason I was acting a kid was because the kinder mature ways just got me "hoe'd" as they say. She'd resort to distancing words like "thanks, dude." We're not happening so me trying to have a conversation would just annoy her even more. but yeah.. I just wanted to know if anyone could relate. 'Tis hard being the lion of love sometimes... :/

Posted by celticlioness
I did, with an Aries - he lives so close to me that it was difficult to "get over" him. But I persevered and did, and then met someone even better 🙂 But it is so very hard when that person is in your vicinity every day and you have to see them, even more when they still want to continue with the nonsense that it was.

Yeah. Tell me about it. That's great that you found someone better though. I hope to be as lucky as you someday 🙂

Posted by Jynja
Handsome! Is that you in that avi?

So, real quick: all Leos are invested! Yes, we give it our all and can't move on from it.
Cause we're a fixed crazy stubborn sign. Simple.

Yeah, it's me. Thanks! :]

Haha. That simple. Fixed fire is pretty oxymoronic, come to think of it :p

awwww. i can really relate to that feeling of knowing you aren't gonna be with someone you like and seeing them everyday so first off, here's a hug to make you feel better about that particular part. it's natural. it'll pass in time 🙂

the switching off business. hmmmmm....well, it aint good to be honest. if i do that kinda stuff it's usually a way of retreating from someone i really like but who i can't see myself being with. indifference seems to be the only remedy but if it's any consolation, it doesn't come easily. it's a battle to shut down on someone especially if we know they like us but if somethings not gonna be....what's the point wasting time on it and hurting people all the more.

the leo thing you do....knocking her hand while writing and stuff. i worked with a leo who liked me who did just that kinda stuff too. he wasn't much older than you having said that and i'm a couple of years older, LOL...so to me it was nothing more than a flirtation and was never gonna lead to anything and so i shut down on him too. we're good now though..back to being friends but it just wasn't happening with us and so i nipped it in the bud.

the thing is that when scorps invest themselves emotionally, it's full on 1000000000% intensity. you are the only one in our world who will ever rock it and we'll worship you and be the most loyal partner you could wish for. but the step before allowing that intensity to kick in is to ascertain if the target is worth our worship...not in a bad way but in the sense of whether that person is a keeper or not in our minds.

fuck. i'm rambling on and probably not making sense.

at the end of the day, if you want to see her sit up and take notice of you all you have to do is ignore her. omg. do that and she'll be thinking.....wtf— helloooooooo!!!!! look at my gorgeousness. LOOOOOKEEEEEEEEE!!!!!

seriously. ignoring drives scorps MENTAL!!! we seem to dish it out ok but omg we can't take it ourselves, lol.

Posted by ellessque
welcome back for a bit 🙂

Yeah, we are a pain in the ass sometimes. Perhaps work it so you can still be great friends? I imagine the feelings will wear off eventually.

some scorpios just have that switch that can be shut off. it's mostly for self-preservation....and we usually have zero control over it. at times we can be convinced not to turn it off but it takes someone we really really trust and have a solid foundation to even entertain the idea.

either things are or they aren't. if she wasn't seeing black or white prior to all of this....she squashed the gray by turning things "off".

we need clarity on a constant basis or we get all weird and a bit annoying.

Ha. Thank you. Maybe I'll actually stay around this time. 😆

I feel as though we're the type to either become passionate lovers or nothing at all. And the second is what's happening so yeah, definitely in the "off" position now. It was never clear so that's probably why too. Being "friends" would probably become "trying to stay just friends" and we'd be dancing in that gray area.

That on-off switch analogy really sums it up. thanks. it's nice talking to you again. :]

Posted by R1g0rM0rT1s
awwww. i can really relate to that feeling of knowing you aren't gonna be with someone you like and seeing them everyday so first off, here's a hug to make you feel better about that particular part. it's natural. it'll pass in time 🙂

the switching off business. hmmmmm....well, it aint good to be honest. if i do that kinda stuff it's usually a way of retreating from someone i really like but who i can't see myself being with. indifference seems to be the only remedy but if it's any consolation, it doesn't come easily. it's a battle to shut down on someone especially if we know they like us but if somethings not gonna be....what's the point wasting time on it and hurting people all the more.

the leo thing you do....knocking her hand while writing and stuff. i worked with a leo who liked me who did just that kinda stuff too. he wasn't much older than you having said that and i'm a couple of years older, LOL...so to me it was nothing more than a flirtation and was never gonna lead to anything and so i shut down on him too. we're good now though..back to being friends but it just wasn't happening with us and so i nipped it in the bud.

the thing is that when scorps invest themselves emotionally, it's full on 1000000000% intensity. you are the only one in our world who will ever rock it and we'll worship you and be the most loyal partner you could wish for. but the step before allowing that intensity to kick in is to ascertain if the target is worth our worship...not in a bad way but in the sense of whether that person is a keeper or not in our minds.

fuck. i'm rambling on and probably not making sense.

at the end of the day, if you want to see her sit up and take notice of you all you have to do is ignore her. omg. do that and she'll be thinking.....wtf— helloooooooo!!!!! look at my gorgeousness. LOOOOOKEEEEEEEEE!!!!!

seriously. ignoring drives scorps MENTAL!!! we seem to dish it out ok but omg we can't take it ourselves, lol.

*hugs back*
Hahah! It's funny that you say that cause I did ignore her for a time. Total silence treatment. She'd ask me a question to my face and I just wouldn't answer. She hated it. And one time I was just talking to another co-worker and out of my peripherals I could see she's just staring at me from across the room for what seemed like an extremely unnaturally long amount of time. So I l

look back just to see if she'd finally stop and the look on her face was like "you really think you're gonna ignore ME?"

The problem wasn't getting her to notice me. She did. In fact, she was the one to engage. Long story. But yeah. I just never met anyone who could just switch it off completely, but now I know ya guys can do that. A good thing to keep in mind.

I've been in your place before. I'd be a fool to nitpick over the differences too; you explained it well with your analogy of 'cycle of rage'.

Posted by Huntress
I've been in your place before. I'd be a fool to nitpick over the differences too; you explained it well with your analogy of 'cycle of rage'.

Yeah. It's bad. You probably already know one of the Leo negative words is "violent" and honestly there are moments when I do want to physically harm her in some way. I never would. But the desire is there. I should really pick up MMA or some type of martial arts or something to release it... Maybe it'd help me let go.

You should take your ideas up.

I've taken jujitsu and tae kwon do and definitely was able to channel my anger well during that time.

Unfortunately that wasn't the case last weekend when I destroyed the wall..

Posted by WoundedLeo

Posted by ARoarLikeThunder

I am:

Leo -sun
Cap -moon
Leo -mercury
Virgo -venus
Gem -mars

So that's a negative on the lots of water.

I'm 20. And the reason I was acting a kid was because the kinder mature ways just got me "hoe'd" as they say. She'd resort to distancing words like "thanks, dude." We're not happening so me trying to have a conversation would just annoy her even more. but yeah.. I just wanted to know if anyone could relate. 'Tis hard being the lion of love sometimes... :/

Shows you how good I am at astrology! LOL! Oh well!

You're young and although having a kind heart sucks the big banana sometimes (ok most of the time...LOL), you'll see that one day, you'll find someone who'll love you for exactly who you are.

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Lulz. Thank you. you are too kind. :]

Posted by Huntress
You should take your ideas up.

I've taken jujitsu and tae kwon do and definitely was able to channel my anger well during that time.

Unfortunately that wasn't the case last weekend when I destroyed the wall..

haha, crazy wall puncher!

I once punched a wall but it was thick brick. My hand lost, unfortunately... 🦇

haha. wow. wrong smiley. and by smiley, I mean frowny. :'[

LMAOOO -bat-

Its funny because I am the exact same way. I use to be in a relationship with someone that actually lived next door to me. Lately I've been trying to get over her and I can say that I have actually been doing a good job but it seems as though every time I might see her when leaving out or coming home I always seem to keep wanting to try and make it work with her instead of just letting her go. So to answer your question "yes" I guess it is a leo thing.

Posted by R24
Oh wow, I didn't notice how old this thread is....

lol. it's okay R24. It seems a little gremlin has gone around and bumped all my old threads...

I understand what you are saying. It's just very different from a Leo mindset. All this exclusivity seems rather.. hmm.. exclusive. lol. I love the Scorpion intimacy but as a Leo it feels as though you guys are missing out on the joy of friendship. To work, play, think, create, and just be with others. The secretive dark shadows is just not where I want to be...

Posted by august1688
Its funny because I am the exact same way. I use to be in a relationship with someone that actually lived next door to me. Lately I've been trying to get over her and I can say that I have actually been doing a good job but it seems as though every time I might see her when leaving out or coming home I always seem to keep wanting to try and make it work with her instead of just letting her go. So to answer your question "yes" I guess it is a leo thing.

Amen. 'Tis hard sometimes to be the sign of love..